First of all, I just want to say that I feel sorry you are going through such a difficult time and that I’m sure you’re completely shattered by what has happened. You are seeking advice because you are struggling with your emotions on the situation because you still have love for your wife but can’t understand what to do with knowing she isn’t the person you thought she was. That’s just it, she isn’t who you thought she was. Now, your reality is something different than it was. I’m sure you feel like you can’t trust yourself even because you thought she was someone different who would have never been capable of hurting you this bad. You have to move on. You have to find trust in yourself again. Then you have to rebuild your self into a better person. Once you fall in love with your self again, you will be able to traverse into another relationship that will be worthwhile. I’m sorry but this will be difficult. It will also be worth it. Good luck.
You are not very bright if you think blackmail will get you anymore but in jail.
A divorce will cost him more. Send all the proof to his wife and if you really want to be petty, send an email to the whole company with a couple voice mails or texts of theirs (just enough for them to be 100% recognizable).
Dump her and move on.
Also take yourself to therapy because you are not thinking straight and while anger is a great source of energy to move on, you have to be capable of directing it into something positive for yourself. Not something that could send you to jail.
He must’ve always been this way. Why else would every single other girlfriend (according to him) cheat? Sounds like he’s trying to hold you (and maybe the others) hostage in these relationships.
The fact that she’s “super close” to 2 of her exes is probably a massive red flag -especially seeing as you are both 20, which means she lacks the social and emotional maturity to deal with a relationship and the ending of it.
She can, and in some cases should be friends with past partners, but anything more than what is normal for a friend (which is different from person to person depending on how they treat their friends) is inappropriate.
But again – you do not have to meet anyone if you are uncomfortable.
You are also allowed to put relationship boundaries in place, especially around the situations surrounding exes – so that would include the amount of time spent with them (should never be more than the time spent with you) them not spending time together alone, in any setting that could be considered inappropriate (so no going back after a night out and staying “on the couch” etc)
Just remember that these boundaries apply to you as well, and would have to be agreed upon by both of you, and would not be solely based on exes – it would be a boundary for how you both show respect to each other and the relationship when dealing with friends etc.
Yes, yes you are. It's not about the length of time its about commitment and responsibility. You made a commitment to her. Choosing to golf rather, than honor the commitment you made to your wife, is childish and irresponsible.
First of all, I just want to say that I feel sorry you are going through such a difficult time and that I’m sure you’re completely shattered by what has happened. You are seeking advice because you are struggling with your emotions on the situation because you still have love for your wife but can’t understand what to do with knowing she isn’t the person you thought she was. That’s just it, she isn’t who you thought she was. Now, your reality is something different than it was. I’m sure you feel like you can’t trust yourself even because you thought she was someone different who would have never been capable of hurting you this bad. You have to move on. You have to find trust in yourself again. Then you have to rebuild your self into a better person. Once you fall in love with your self again, you will be able to traverse into another relationship that will be worthwhile. I’m sorry but this will be difficult. It will also be worth it. Good luck.
You are not very bright if you think blackmail will get you anymore but in jail.
A divorce will cost him more. Send all the proof to his wife and if you really want to be petty, send an email to the whole company with a couple voice mails or texts of theirs (just enough for them to be 100% recognizable).
Dump her and move on.
Also take yourself to therapy because you are not thinking straight and while anger is a great source of energy to move on, you have to be capable of directing it into something positive for yourself. Not something that could send you to jail.
Emotional baggage isn't something you should carry around nor is it something that should be affecting current relationships.
IF it is affecting currents, then you are not ready for another relationship. You need to be healing.
Literally my ex husband…I was totally OK being the bad guy if it meant I could be safe and free!
For real. Op's comment made me laugh
Maybe try to be less racist and more open minded. Your culture is not everyone else's. Other people and countries exist
He must’ve always been this way. Why else would every single other girlfriend (according to him) cheat? Sounds like he’s trying to hold you (and maybe the others) hostage in these relationships.
If you are uncomfortable, then say no.
You do not have to meet anyone.
The fact that she’s “super close” to 2 of her exes is probably a massive red flag -especially seeing as you are both 20, which means she lacks the social and emotional maturity to deal with a relationship and the ending of it.
She can, and in some cases should be friends with past partners, but anything more than what is normal for a friend (which is different from person to person depending on how they treat their friends) is inappropriate.
But again – you do not have to meet anyone if you are uncomfortable.
You are also allowed to put relationship boundaries in place, especially around the situations surrounding exes – so that would include the amount of time spent with them (should never be more than the time spent with you) them not spending time together alone, in any setting that could be considered inappropriate (so no going back after a night out and staying “on the couch” etc)
Just remember that these boundaries apply to you as well, and would have to be agreed upon by both of you, and would not be solely based on exes – it would be a boundary for how you both show respect to each other and the relationship when dealing with friends etc.
Loneliness and attraction combined
Yes, yes you are. It's not about the length of time its about commitment and responsibility. You made a commitment to her. Choosing to golf rather, than honor the commitment you made to your wife, is childish and irresponsible.