Exactly this. OP’s gf is grappling with “I wasn’t worth changing for,” and she’s probably overall just SO angry with herself for wasting so much of her time with this ex, who didn’t value her, and she’s grieving for how badly she failed herself and how deeply she regrets betraying herself to stay with that ex for so long. It’s not about feelings for the ex at all, except negative feelings.
I don't understand why you'd let it go? He's still emotionally dependent on his ex. When he's going through trauma, it's her he wants, not you. You deserve so much better than that. Don't let his trauma keep you from seeing the position he's putting you in his life – second.
What makes you think the piercings aren't titanium bars with glow in the dark balls?
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Exactly this. OP’s gf is grappling with “I wasn’t worth changing for,” and she’s probably overall just SO angry with herself for wasting so much of her time with this ex, who didn’t value her, and she’s grieving for how badly she failed herself and how deeply she regrets betraying herself to stay with that ex for so long. It’s not about feelings for the ex at all, except negative feelings.
I don't understand why you'd let it go? He's still emotionally dependent on his ex. When he's going through trauma, it's her he wants, not you. You deserve so much better than that. Don't let his trauma keep you from seeing the position he's putting you in his life – second.
Good idea, thanks for the advise!
He's triangulating you with a woman he never dated. RUN!!!