there is some really great insight/advice here. OP, think long & very hot about all of these comments before you speak with your wife & when you do, choose your words wisely. good luck! wish i could give your wife a hug. ??
Your comment is akin to not knowing how muscles become stronger and criticising fitness coaches for encouraging people to get sore muscles by working out. Analysing chess games is normal to chess players, unless they're beginners or only play casually. OP's wife is a professional, so there is no doubt that analysis is second nature to them when it comes to improving and understanding a match.
Yes! This! Before we started trying we had SO many hypothetical conversations about gender dynamics and splitting parenting duties. When it came down to a real-world issue it didn’t cross his mind.
I did voice this though. That’s why it was so painful. He realized his mistake and has apologized a dozen times, but it still hurts. I don’t want this to be the default.
All that is to say, I know he looks terrible here, but he’s not a bad person. He recognized his mistake and has apologized a lot. I’ll give him the benefit of the doubt in saying, we JUST found out I was pregnant and his reality hasn’t shifted, but I’m pretty hurt.
Soooo you dropped the friends, who you’ve been friend with for years, but not her. ?♂️ geez dude. Get a clue.
there is some really great insight/advice here. OP, think long & very hot about all of these comments before you speak with your wife & when you do, choose your words wisely. good luck! wish i could give your wife a hug. ??
Both make a list , what your willing to do and what your not.
( hot No) – ( be willing to try) – ( yes)
Your comment is akin to not knowing how muscles become stronger and criticising fitness coaches for encouraging people to get sore muscles by working out. Analysing chess games is normal to chess players, unless they're beginners or only play casually. OP's wife is a professional, so there is no doubt that analysis is second nature to them when it comes to improving and understanding a match.
I know I should but I don’t want him to think that I’m mad. Just so he can see that I’m intentionally ignoring him which is petty I know
You’ve been together since you were teens. Maybe spread your wings and go find out what the world has for you.
Yes! This! Before we started trying we had SO many hypothetical conversations about gender dynamics and splitting parenting duties. When it came down to a real-world issue it didn’t cross his mind.
I did voice this though. That’s why it was so painful. He realized his mistake and has apologized a dozen times, but it still hurts. I don’t want this to be the default.
All that is to say, I know he looks terrible here, but he’s not a bad person. He recognized his mistake and has apologized a lot. I’ll give him the benefit of the doubt in saying, we JUST found out I was pregnant and his reality hasn’t shifted, but I’m pretty hurt.