Also it’s not porn that upsets me I get upset cuz he watches girls very hot and fucking themselves instead of porn. Says he can’t stop but I told him I don’t like it and to fix it or I’m done I’d feel more comfortable if he’d just watch porn not girls by themselves. I genuinely think he just hides it now tho instead of not watch girls cuz it’s “normal” to want to watch girls with a nice body and big tits and ass
What the actual F? Why would she give consent if she DOESNT want him to have sex with her when she can't remember/male a choice about it? What convoluted path did your mind have to take to arrive at that question? Jesus.
So the big issues for me based on what you wrote and your comments are:
Being worried about being “allowed” to visit family or leave. Childcare would be on you for 2 kids whilst working from home. He has no plan for work long term or your lives. There was no discussion about this and no compromise on a middle ground.
The other stuff to me is noise, these points above would absolutely make me take a step back and say no. I agree with a poster above who said he is running from his problems and essentially abandoning you. the place you online now suits your wants and needs but not his. Great.
I am saying this as someone who grew up in a town of 10k and on-line in a medium sized city. We looked into moving back as for kids it’s a good place to grow up. But honestly after running the numbers, lots of discussions we just couldn’t make it work long term without us taking a big step back financially (less opportunities). This is what should have happened with you.
You need to show that you’re trying. It’s okay to struggle with things but if you aren’t even trying to help yourself why would he, you know? Like you gotta take control of your own destiny a bit, I also have adhd I get that it’s very hot but there are so many resources for coping and making strides that are out there now, you have so many options, you just need to take some steps. It will help you. It will help your relationship.
No.
Having a college degree doesn’t not matter in a relationship.
It only enforces trust of employers and customers.
Not being “useless, unreliable, and untrustworthy” matters in a relationship.
Also it’s not porn that upsets me I get upset cuz he watches girls very hot and fucking themselves instead of porn. Says he can’t stop but I told him I don’t like it and to fix it or I’m done I’d feel more comfortable if he’d just watch porn not girls by themselves. I genuinely think he just hides it now tho instead of not watch girls cuz it’s “normal” to want to watch girls with a nice body and big tits and ass
What the actual F? Why would she give consent if she DOESNT want him to have sex with her when she can't remember/male a choice about it? What convoluted path did your mind have to take to arrive at that question? Jesus.
So the big issues for me based on what you wrote and your comments are:
Being worried about being “allowed” to visit family or leave. Childcare would be on you for 2 kids whilst working from home. He has no plan for work long term or your lives. There was no discussion about this and no compromise on a middle ground.
The other stuff to me is noise, these points above would absolutely make me take a step back and say no. I agree with a poster above who said he is running from his problems and essentially abandoning you. the place you online now suits your wants and needs but not his. Great.
I am saying this as someone who grew up in a town of 10k and on-line in a medium sized city. We looked into moving back as for kids it’s a good place to grow up. But honestly after running the numbers, lots of discussions we just couldn’t make it work long term without us taking a big step back financially (less opportunities). This is what should have happened with you.
She can just decide this for you. You DO NOT have to move in with her. You can still do this once she can provide 50% of the living costs
Look at their profile. “How do I store cum in the family fridge”.
I seriously hope these kids turn out ok.
You need to show that you’re trying. It’s okay to struggle with things but if you aren’t even trying to help yourself why would he, you know? Like you gotta take control of your own destiny a bit, I also have adhd I get that it’s very hot but there are so many resources for coping and making strides that are out there now, you have so many options, you just need to take some steps. It will help you. It will help your relationship.
Good advice about what kind of lawyer she needs. ? “Shark lawyer “!
“I'm just being friendly…” sounds like the opening line to a sexual assault.