You should have left her 8 years ago. Two wrongs do not make a right. Even with you saying that you were going to divorce her you lead her on for 8 years. I do have to wonder even with you saying that you were going to divorce her did you and her still sleep in the same bed? Did you and her still have an active sex life? Did you two act towards each other like husband and wife? If she only treated you like her husband did you try to stop her or let her do so? If so that will just make you leading her on worse.
Also, you only stayed so she could not move on with her life. That is being vindictive.
Yes she had an affair but that does not change the fact what you did was wrong. You should divorce her right now. Do not do this separation or living in the same house. You both deserve to move on with your lives.
You did the right thing. She had no right to contact you after dropping you for someone else. You told her the truth, that you weren't interested in her and you did it in an honest way. You were looking to hurt her, only to protect yourself.
Unfortunately it sounds like he is trying to isolate you because you may end up not meeting with your friends just for a peaceful life which will not me ok.
It seems common now but I still think it’s a red flag if someone is checking your phone just to assure themselves you are faithful. Even if it’s subconscious you’ll manage what’s in your phone because you know he’ll see and having to explain every communication you have just to alleviate his insecurities is also not ok.
He should trust you enough so that what you say is enough, everyone feels jealous and insecure but it’s how you manage it and he sounds like he’s not managing it well.
ok ask her out and see what she says lol
You should have left her 8 years ago. Two wrongs do not make a right. Even with you saying that you were going to divorce her you lead her on for 8 years. I do have to wonder even with you saying that you were going to divorce her did you and her still sleep in the same bed? Did you and her still have an active sex life? Did you two act towards each other like husband and wife? If she only treated you like her husband did you try to stop her or let her do so? If so that will just make you leading her on worse.
Also, you only stayed so she could not move on with her life. That is being vindictive.
Yes she had an affair but that does not change the fact what you did was wrong. You should divorce her right now. Do not do this separation or living in the same house. You both deserve to move on with your lives.
Please update us!!!
You did the right thing. She had no right to contact you after dropping you for someone else. You told her the truth, that you weren't interested in her and you did it in an honest way. You were looking to hurt her, only to protect yourself.
I really hope you're wrong. But I might ask him to show me his phone
Unfortunately it sounds like he is trying to isolate you because you may end up not meeting with your friends just for a peaceful life which will not me ok.
It seems common now but I still think it’s a red flag if someone is checking your phone just to assure themselves you are faithful. Even if it’s subconscious you’ll manage what’s in your phone because you know he’ll see and having to explain every communication you have just to alleviate his insecurities is also not ok.
He should trust you enough so that what you say is enough, everyone feels jealous and insecure but it’s how you manage it and he sounds like he’s not managing it well.