Well, to be honest, if my spouse asked me what I’d do if my choices were to be raped, or to let my partner die… Id be wondering why they’re making me imagine really painful and awful things. I just feel like if you have to ask me twisted questions in order to get to know me properly, then they’re just compatible with me. I don’t know your wife so maybe she likes dark philosophical questions, but that’s my take.
Well first I’d ask her kindly if it’s an internal thing for her right now or if you did anything to make her uncomfortable. However her boundaries are her boundaries and you do not get to choose when she’s ready. It doesn’t matter how many times she’s consented in the past if she’s saying no now, then it means no for now. Do not push it.
This just feels cruel. You knew this would happen eventually. He wants to make money to give you a wedding. You could have broken up with him when you realized you couldn't handle 2 months, let alone 6. And now you trapped him in a 4 year relationship with a house and dogs just for you to say bye?
Would it really be easier to hear the news of his death broken up vs together? Are you going to get over him that quickly?
now you feel guilty? after helping him cheat? why did it take you this long to consider her feelings?
tell her, but don’t do it as a means to absolve your guilt. she shouldn’t forgive you.
OP, SHE is abusive. She is using you as an outlet for her shortcomings and insecurities. Do not allow this to continue.
Definitely not going just curious on the situation and others thoughts
If you have to lie about who you are then it’s not going to work out.
Are you frequently turning him down for sex?
Ask him, why he’s uncomfortable in your bed. He hasn’t actually explained the problem, only the real for his solution.
Well, to be honest, if my spouse asked me what I’d do if my choices were to be raped, or to let my partner die… Id be wondering why they’re making me imagine really painful and awful things. I just feel like if you have to ask me twisted questions in order to get to know me properly, then they’re just compatible with me. I don’t know your wife so maybe she likes dark philosophical questions, but that’s my take.
Well first I’d ask her kindly if it’s an internal thing for her right now or if you did anything to make her uncomfortable. However her boundaries are her boundaries and you do not get to choose when she’s ready. It doesn’t matter how many times she’s consented in the past if she’s saying no now, then it means no for now. Do not push it.
You will. Hell there's a post in here about that every other day.
This just feels cruel. You knew this would happen eventually. He wants to make money to give you a wedding. You could have broken up with him when you realized you couldn't handle 2 months, let alone 6. And now you trapped him in a 4 year relationship with a house and dogs just for you to say bye?
Would it really be easier to hear the news of his death broken up vs together? Are you going to get over him that quickly?