“I can prove what you did. Can you prove what I did?”
Now I’m scared.
He's trying to scare you, make you feel like you can't leave, so you don't try. Coz if you try, you can, and he knows that.
Don't believe him. You're fine. He has no case. No lawyer will ever take up this case and if he finds someone dumb enough to do it the judge will throw the case out. Don't worry. He doesn't have shit on you.
You on the other hand, have a load of shit on him. Stealthing is a crime in many places, it's assault, it's even considered to be rape, since you didn't consent to unprotected sex. He's been coercing you to have sex using threats and financial control.
Any domestic abuse shelter will give you support. Living at a shelter is MUCH better than staying with him. Reach out to anyone you know or knew in the past who may be able to help. Any friends, distant family, anyone he doesn't know. If you can't think of anyone, consider teachers from your school, old neighbours, distant family. (I'm assuming your parents aren't around?) Even if you don't know people very well, just ask everyone who's number you have/can get, but make sure they don't know your bf. No harm in asking, and if even one person offers you help, your whole life will change.
Don't be afraid of this tool. He doesn't have as much control over you as he's making it out to be. You CAN get away. But you have to do it now, soon, because he's trying to get you pregnant and it'll be a million times harder to leave if you have a child. He's already raped you once, he'll do it again and get more blatant and violent. You can do this. You can go.
If you don’t want to travel, that’s fine. It’s your decision. But you owe her an explanation.
For me, it would be an absolute deal breaker if my partner refused to travel, and I would expect that would be something she would be upfront with me about early on in the relationship, but it is better late than never.
Don’t waste any more of this girl’s time if it is a dealbreaker for her.
You and she have a core values incompatibility, and you're being honest about it. Going forward, you need to look for partners who are very serious about relationships and reject casual sex. Put that information upfront.
Can people who have engaged in casual sex also be serious about relationships? Of course they can. But if you are morally against casual sex, find someone else who shares that value.
The entire story is gross
“I can prove what you did. Can you prove what I did?”
Now I’m scared.
He's trying to scare you, make you feel like you can't leave, so you don't try. Coz if you try, you can, and he knows that.
Don't believe him. You're fine. He has no case. No lawyer will ever take up this case and if he finds someone dumb enough to do it the judge will throw the case out. Don't worry. He doesn't have shit on you.
You on the other hand, have a load of shit on him. Stealthing is a crime in many places, it's assault, it's even considered to be rape, since you didn't consent to unprotected sex. He's been coercing you to have sex using threats and financial control.
Any domestic abuse shelter will give you support. Living at a shelter is MUCH better than staying with him. Reach out to anyone you know or knew in the past who may be able to help. Any friends, distant family, anyone he doesn't know. If you can't think of anyone, consider teachers from your school, old neighbours, distant family. (I'm assuming your parents aren't around?) Even if you don't know people very well, just ask everyone who's number you have/can get, but make sure they don't know your bf. No harm in asking, and if even one person offers you help, your whole life will change.
Don't be afraid of this tool. He doesn't have as much control over you as he's making it out to be. You CAN get away. But you have to do it now, soon, because he's trying to get you pregnant and it'll be a million times harder to leave if you have a child. He's already raped you once, he'll do it again and get more blatant and violent. You can do this. You can go.
If you don’t want to travel, that’s fine. It’s your decision. But you owe her an explanation.
For me, it would be an absolute deal breaker if my partner refused to travel, and I would expect that would be something she would be upfront with me about early on in the relationship, but it is better late than never.
Don’t waste any more of this girl’s time if it is a dealbreaker for her.
You and she have a core values incompatibility, and you're being honest about it. Going forward, you need to look for partners who are very serious about relationships and reject casual sex. Put that information upfront.
Can people who have engaged in casual sex also be serious about relationships? Of course they can. But if you are morally against casual sex, find someone else who shares that value.
Why do you love your relationship which is full of distrust and little respect.
8 years of friendship is never a ploy to get in your pants for a month.
No he wasn't faking it.
Perhaps he lost feelings when things got too real too quick
She wants a break-up, but she wants to be the one to do it when it suits her. Surprised pikachu face when her partner pulls the trigger.