Happy Holidays! You are only 8 months in and she is showing her true colors. First red flag/ She has had a job for years? Literally everywhere is hiring. Hell the McDonalds up the street can’t keep workers and is starting at $15 an hour JC she has kids! Who is feeding and clothing these children? Who doesn’t work in this economy? Yes it hot to be a single Mom but several of my friends are busting their hump to make sure that there kids are fed clothed and safe. I don’t get that vibe at all from your GF.
Second flag- kids are too attached at 8 months. Of course they are! They want a parent and stability. The fact that she now is concerned after introducing you is weird AF. To me it means she has one foot out of the door already because she doesn’t want to deal with the fallout when she breaks your and the kids hearts when she breaks up with you.
Third flag- adults do not jump and beat up other adults. It is a a felony! Repeat felony! Why the hell would she associate with friends like this especially when she has kids!!! Talk about stupid people winning stupid prizes. Like when did it become ok to randomly beat the crap out of someone. I guess I am a boomer because the thought of ever going to jail scares the crap out of me.
Fourth red flag- blowing you off at Christmas. Literally karaoke and partying is more important than spending time with you! You are not a priority.
Dude you deserve better from a partner. You deserve better than being a placeholder for her next boyfriend. This is not love because when you love someone you make time for them! Please stop selling yourself short. There are lots of women who would love a guy that works, likes kids and would rather spend quality time together. Please realize you deserve more!!!
I would break up with my boyfriend if he tried to dictate who my friends are. Crosses the line into controlling behavior, in my opinion. Do you want him to only be faithful to you because you gave him tearful ultimatums? Or do you trust him to be faithful to you because he wants to.
IMO her message she was attending an afterwork vs going for a drink with this man gives you solid evidence for being concerned.
Nobody can accuse you of being insecure or controlling.
Based on this message you can say: I don't trust you.
She intentionally met with this guy behind your back knowing how it looks. Her confession is evidence she knew it looks bad.
But that's not the point. The point is she deceived you in order to get some alone time with this man. Confessing later doesn't change that.
Married people don't normally risk their marital trust for some clown they've only known for 5 months.
And you are on the high ground to insist she provide a plan to rebuild your trust.
Time alone doesn't rebuild trust and she can't say “trust me”. This is her mess to clean up. That plan could include moving cubes, zero non business chat/texts, and if that doesn't work changing jobs.
So there’s a high probability that your partner of a year and a half doesn’t care about your financial situation.
Happy Holidays! You are only 8 months in and she is showing her true colors. First red flag/ She has had a job for years? Literally everywhere is hiring. Hell the McDonalds up the street can’t keep workers and is starting at $15 an hour JC she has kids! Who is feeding and clothing these children? Who doesn’t work in this economy? Yes it hot to be a single Mom but several of my friends are busting their hump to make sure that there kids are fed clothed and safe. I don’t get that vibe at all from your GF.
Second flag- kids are too attached at 8 months. Of course they are! They want a parent and stability. The fact that she now is concerned after introducing you is weird AF. To me it means she has one foot out of the door already because she doesn’t want to deal with the fallout when she breaks your and the kids hearts when she breaks up with you.
Third flag- adults do not jump and beat up other adults. It is a a felony! Repeat felony! Why the hell would she associate with friends like this especially when she has kids!!! Talk about stupid people winning stupid prizes. Like when did it become ok to randomly beat the crap out of someone. I guess I am a boomer because the thought of ever going to jail scares the crap out of me.
Fourth red flag- blowing you off at Christmas. Literally karaoke and partying is more important than spending time with you! You are not a priority.
Dude you deserve better from a partner. You deserve better than being a placeholder for her next boyfriend. This is not love because when you love someone you make time for them! Please stop selling yourself short. There are lots of women who would love a guy that works, likes kids and would rather spend quality time together. Please realize you deserve more!!!
Stop trying to dismantle useful words just because they happen to be accusatory about your behaviors.
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yeah sure 51% of humanity are all the same when it comes to money.
So I'll raise you a Men are like that. They earn more on the strength of having a penis and begrudge sharing with the woman they supposedly love.
I would break up with my boyfriend if he tried to dictate who my friends are. Crosses the line into controlling behavior, in my opinion. Do you want him to only be faithful to you because you gave him tearful ultimatums? Or do you trust him to be faithful to you because he wants to.
IMO her message she was attending an afterwork vs going for a drink with this man gives you solid evidence for being concerned.
Nobody can accuse you of being insecure or controlling.
Based on this message you can say: I don't trust you.
She intentionally met with this guy behind your back knowing how it looks. Her confession is evidence she knew it looks bad.
But that's not the point. The point is she deceived you in order to get some alone time with this man. Confessing later doesn't change that.
Married people don't normally risk their marital trust for some clown they've only known for 5 months.
And you are on the high ground to insist she provide a plan to rebuild your trust.
Time alone doesn't rebuild trust and she can't say “trust me”. This is her mess to clean up. That plan could include moving cubes, zero non business chat/texts, and if that doesn't work changing jobs.