For the love of all things good and loving, help the man. Don't force him, talk to him. Just start with I'm concerned about and start talking. I had to be told my wife was cheating. Other friends knew, it's all good. Now I have a lot less people to buy gifts for? and I give my good few friends amazing times.
The guy who told me didn't pay for his wedding or honeymoon.
I was penniless back when he helped me. Focus dose a ton for a man.
You break up. Being without remorse is not the same thing as being without guilt. You’re a terrible partner, and your excuses and justifications are pure bullshit. You need to improve yourself before getting into another monogamous relationship.
Well seeing as he is not adult enough to police his own drinking, don't let him drive your car anymore. NTA for this, but you will be if you let him drive your car anymore.
It’s not a matter of personal preference when the concept of “body counts” didn’t even exist 10 years ago, it’s entirely over-hyped and popularized by social media.
Prior to that (as I previously mentioned) women couldn’t even have ONE partner before marriage or they were discarded as used or “trash”.
Throwing away human beings because they participate in sex is like if I threw you away for commenting too many times on Reddit. It’s a value judgment that if you are applying to anything, can be turned around on you just as illogically.
In its essence, you are placing value on a complex human life that you have absolutely no right to do, you can only judge and assess your own value.
Exactly this. You have no obligation to hide anything – but also no need to share if it's no going to help you feel better or recover. Do what's best for you and don't worry about her.
You're not creating any drama, his friends are. And frankly, his friends sound sketchy to me. Like, I wouldn't to be alone with any of them… especially considering your boyfriend doesn't seem to believe you or care when you tell him they're making you uncomfortable.
Personally, I would dump him. Do you really want to have to brace yourself for hours of discomfort and anxiety every time his friends come around? That is nothing something I would put up because he can't be bothered to check his friends.
No, he hasn't, but he is image-conscious. That's the mindset I've got about it as well – in theory, it would be an easy thing to explain – but I think the idea of being judged in that way, even initially, upsets him. I suspect it's more of a social anxiety thing on his end, I just wish there was something I could do to help. Maybe I'll just wear my jersey everywhere and let it speak for itself 😛
What are you waiting for?
For the love of all things good and loving, help the man. Don't force him, talk to him. Just start with I'm concerned about and start talking. I had to be told my wife was cheating. Other friends knew, it's all good. Now I have a lot less people to buy gifts for? and I give my good few friends amazing times.
The guy who told me didn't pay for his wedding or honeymoon.
I was penniless back when he helped me. Focus dose a ton for a man.
make sure to put naked sauce in the condom. it's called the “Drake method”
Last time I did that, I got the shit beaten out of me. Never again.
I seem to note you are talking about his grooming of himself, but i have questions about your grooming of him
You break up. Being without remorse is not the same thing as being without guilt. You’re a terrible partner, and your excuses and justifications are pure bullshit. You need to improve yourself before getting into another monogamous relationship.
Well seeing as he is not adult enough to police his own drinking, don't let him drive your car anymore. NTA for this, but you will be if you let him drive your car anymore.
It’s not a matter of personal preference when the concept of “body counts” didn’t even exist 10 years ago, it’s entirely over-hyped and popularized by social media.
Prior to that (as I previously mentioned) women couldn’t even have ONE partner before marriage or they were discarded as used or “trash”.
Throwing away human beings because they participate in sex is like if I threw you away for commenting too many times on Reddit. It’s a value judgment that if you are applying to anything, can be turned around on you just as illogically.
In its essence, you are placing value on a complex human life that you have absolutely no right to do, you can only judge and assess your own value.
Long distance relationships very rarely work out. Let him go – you can't keep someone fenced in that doesn't want to be fenced in.
What? It's not a boundary mate.
“Sorry, one of my boundaries is that I don't like to be falsely accused of rape.”
She is unhinged and incredibly dangerous. He needs to leave her immediately.
Exactly this. You have no obligation to hide anything – but also no need to share if it's no going to help you feel better or recover. Do what's best for you and don't worry about her.
She instigated a fight on behalf of her boyfriend that she wouldn't be fighting if it got out of hand. That's why people are mad at her.
If your words are going to put more than just yourself at risk, keep them to yourself.
yeah me too. seems like the pattern
That’s another conversation to have entirely, one I agree with, but was an example of how she cares and is not disgusting like you said.
You're not creating any drama, his friends are. And frankly, his friends sound sketchy to me. Like, I wouldn't to be alone with any of them… especially considering your boyfriend doesn't seem to believe you or care when you tell him they're making you uncomfortable.
Personally, I would dump him. Do you really want to have to brace yourself for hours of discomfort and anxiety every time his friends come around? That is nothing something I would put up because he can't be bothered to check his friends.
No, he hasn't, but he is image-conscious. That's the mindset I've got about it as well – in theory, it would be an easy thing to explain – but I think the idea of being judged in that way, even initially, upsets him. I suspect it's more of a social anxiety thing on his end, I just wish there was something I could do to help. Maybe I'll just wear my jersey everywhere and let it speak for itself 😛