One way to start would be telling her that you want to sleep in different rooms because of her hurtful comments. I can understand that you don't want her to see that you were hurt and felt small, but don't protect her from the consequences of her actions. You saw a side of her that is making you reconsider your marriage and think about what next steps you want to take. She should know that.
Do both of you want to reconcile, or are you sticking around only because she nearly died? If you both want to reconcile, get to counseling (individual and couples) asap. Regardless of the shape she's in, she needs to do whatever she can to earn back your trust, and you both need to be honest about whether or not she has it in her. If you're sticking around because you don't want to leave her alone during recovery, that's her problem, not yours. Maybe her bf can come take care of her.
Y'all are both 30 but still talk and act like you're both in high-school. She doesn't like you, she's getting banged out by some random guy on their weekend trip. But hey, at least the kissing is fun, right?
Tough love time: Cut her off. Move on with Hanna and start dating people who actually like you and aren't just keeping you as a last option if every other guy doesn't work out. She's trash and you need to man up and stop letting her have control over you. She loves the attention but doesn't want to commit. It's over.
Literally. My anxiety exponentially exacerbated last year coincidently had just started dating my bf. I would get and STILL get horrendous panic attacks, if you’re familiar you know scary it is. Not once has by bf complained. Always hugs me, runs me bath, gives me massages, snacks, aromatherapy, whatever I need. I even got horrid Covid at roughly 6 months of dating and he offered me a stay at his house, bought me medicine, bought me the Covid test and took care of me to the point he himself got covid. Every time I’ve been sick he takes a day off of work if he has a chance, just to take care of me.
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One way to start would be telling her that you want to sleep in different rooms because of her hurtful comments. I can understand that you don't want her to see that you were hurt and felt small, but don't protect her from the consequences of her actions. You saw a side of her that is making you reconsider your marriage and think about what next steps you want to take. She should know that.
Do both of you want to reconcile, or are you sticking around only because she nearly died? If you both want to reconcile, get to counseling (individual and couples) asap. Regardless of the shape she's in, she needs to do whatever she can to earn back your trust, and you both need to be honest about whether or not she has it in her. If you're sticking around because you don't want to leave her alone during recovery, that's her problem, not yours. Maybe her bf can come take care of her.
Y'all are both 30 but still talk and act like you're both in high-school. She doesn't like you, she's getting banged out by some random guy on their weekend trip. But hey, at least the kissing is fun, right?
Tough love time: Cut her off. Move on with Hanna and start dating people who actually like you and aren't just keeping you as a last option if every other guy doesn't work out. She's trash and you need to man up and stop letting her have control over you. She loves the attention but doesn't want to commit. It's over.
I told her she’s not allowed out late with my son again
I mean, it seems like the underlying problem is that you think your son is more yours than hers.
100% this ☝️☝️☝️☝️
Literally. My anxiety exponentially exacerbated last year coincidently had just started dating my bf. I would get and STILL get horrendous panic attacks, if you’re familiar you know scary it is. Not once has by bf complained. Always hugs me, runs me bath, gives me massages, snacks, aromatherapy, whatever I need. I even got horrid Covid at roughly 6 months of dating and he offered me a stay at his house, bought me medicine, bought me the Covid test and took care of me to the point he himself got covid. Every time I’ve been sick he takes a day off of work if he has a chance, just to take care of me.