You don't work together, so in case it doesn't work out you won't have much contact. There is nothing holding you back. Just tell him that you enjoyed hanging out with him and you would like to meet him outside of work. Just a casual coffee date to get you better know each other. Then you can still decide how to proceed.
There is absolutely nothing about you that is special enough to warrant 11 kids…13 if you count the upcoming twins. Your mom is beyond right; if anything, she should have said that like 6 kids ago. God damn.
My take on this is that the most important things here are that you've communicated clearly that you're interested in her romantically, she told you that she is not romantically or sexually interested in you, and it's only been two months.
There are generally two ways to interpret her behavior:
1) This is a woman who is interested in you romantically but is keeping you at arms length because of trauma and reaffirms boundaries to remind herself that she's not ready and avoid leading you on.
2) This is a woman who is interested in you platonically and keeps reaffirming that your relationship is just friendship because you are interpreting innocuous acts romantically or she's desperately lonely and having trouble enforcing boundaries herself.
In either case, what she's asking you for, and what you should be giving her is only friendship.
You should also consider dating (other women) because you're ready to date and there's no reason to wait for a woman who is telling you that she's not interested.
I'm sure this isn't the answer you were hoping to hear, and I applaud you for being open and honest with your feelings thus far, but at the end of the day the ball is in her court and you should respect her verbal wishes and either be her friend or let her go.
I wasnt heavily flirting, he did 90% of the talking. But I never told him this is inappropriate, never told him to shut up or never tried to move away. Even when he said lets continue this conversation in my bedroom I just smiled at him.
Lmao!
You don't work together, so in case it doesn't work out you won't have much contact. There is nothing holding you back. Just tell him that you enjoyed hanging out with him and you would like to meet him outside of work. Just a casual coffee date to get you better know each other. Then you can still decide how to proceed.
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There is absolutely nothing about you that is special enough to warrant 11 kids…13 if you count the upcoming twins. Your mom is beyond right; if anything, she should have said that like 6 kids ago. God damn.
Go back to your house, she is setting you up to take the house. Go back, move back in, if that triggers the divorce so be it.
My take on this is that the most important things here are that you've communicated clearly that you're interested in her romantically, she told you that she is not romantically or sexually interested in you, and it's only been two months.
There are generally two ways to interpret her behavior:
1) This is a woman who is interested in you romantically but is keeping you at arms length because of trauma and reaffirms boundaries to remind herself that she's not ready and avoid leading you on.
2) This is a woman who is interested in you platonically and keeps reaffirming that your relationship is just friendship because you are interpreting innocuous acts romantically or she's desperately lonely and having trouble enforcing boundaries herself.
In either case, what she's asking you for, and what you should be giving her is only friendship.
You should also consider dating (other women) because you're ready to date and there's no reason to wait for a woman who is telling you that she's not interested.
I'm sure this isn't the answer you were hoping to hear, and I applaud you for being open and honest with your feelings thus far, but at the end of the day the ball is in her court and you should respect her verbal wishes and either be her friend or let her go.
I wasnt heavily flirting, he did 90% of the talking. But I never told him this is inappropriate, never told him to shut up or never tried to move away. Even when he said lets continue this conversation in my bedroom I just smiled at him.
this was really helpful, thank you for your comment :,)