It’s neither controlling nor a compromise. He has stated a boundary and he is right, this is a fundamental difference and if you aren’t on the same page you shouldn’t be together and you should find someone you’re more compatible with.
I think a lot of people forget that you can love someone completely and still not be compatible partners or even good for one another.
Exactly! There doesn't need to be anybody in there. Forgotten items are left all the time.
I'm not saying the GF's reaction wasn't suspicious though. However I can see thinking it's weird to ask about it at all. If somebody found a pair of my undies mixed into their laundry, I would prefer they just throw them away rather than keep them and try to investigate where they came from or try to return them. I just don't want people spending so much time handling my underwear haha.
Also it's possible she just doesn't know where the underwear came from and OP was so sure it couldn't be the laundromat (which would be the most obvious explanation) she made a random guess to get him to let it go and if he asks about it her family will think she's cheating.
OP should try to figure out why she's always working unpaid overtime though. THAT is the weird thing, not the underwear.
What’s happened since then? Did you have a follow up conversation? Did he apologize and ask how he could support you? Or you simply never address it again and it’s been hanging in the air for months?
That's the third baby-talker this week!
It’s neither controlling nor a compromise. He has stated a boundary and he is right, this is a fundamental difference and if you aren’t on the same page you shouldn’t be together and you should find someone you’re more compatible with.
I think a lot of people forget that you can love someone completely and still not be compatible partners or even good for one another.
Exactly! There doesn't need to be anybody in there. Forgotten items are left all the time.
I'm not saying the GF's reaction wasn't suspicious though. However I can see thinking it's weird to ask about it at all. If somebody found a pair of my undies mixed into their laundry, I would prefer they just throw them away rather than keep them and try to investigate where they came from or try to return them. I just don't want people spending so much time handling my underwear haha.
Also it's possible she just doesn't know where the underwear came from and OP was so sure it couldn't be the laundromat (which would be the most obvious explanation) she made a random guess to get him to let it go and if he asks about it her family will think she's cheating.
OP should try to figure out why she's always working unpaid overtime though. THAT is the weird thing, not the underwear.
No I'm not going to lie to her.
If you want to change, tell the other guys wife and show remorse. Do not defend your cheating ways,
Also I forget to mention- this same boy tried to try it on with me
What’s happened since then? Did you have a follow up conversation? Did he apologize and ask how he could support you? Or you simply never address it again and it’s been hanging in the air for months?
He doesn't deserve you.