No, don't go back. He did you a favor by breaking up with you. He doesn't trust you because of what you do for a living, and he's never going to. His trust and control issues will eventually spiral and he'll want you to quit your job so you're further under his control. I've been there and done that. You don't need that shit, girl. I know you love him but you can find someone else you love even more who supports what you do for a living and understands that just because you dance, that doesn't mean you're cheating on him with your clients.
From a pure practical standpoint (and nothing else), don't say a thing. It's not to your advantage as you work to divide assets.
Once the entire process is complete, you can tell her or not. It doesn't matter. Fundamentally the trust is broken. More importantly though, she will drift away in the future, as she develops new relationships and her own new life. The deep friendship you had is not coming back. It can't.
If you get the chance to talk to him in person while she's not around, that would probably be the best time to say anything. Unfortunately I don't think there's much you can do to convince him to leave, but maybe just remind him that even though you don't talk anymore, you still care for him as a friend and tell him he can always reach out to you if he needs help.
The other thing you can do is call a domestic violence hotline and ask if they have any advice for friends and family of someone who is in an abusive relationship.
You WILL do better. You believe you won’t because either 1) he has manipulated you into believing so, 2) you have low self esteem and low self worth, and I’m guessing it’s both.
Doesn’t matter how stable he appears. Even the most successful can engage in toxic behaviors. The “sweetest guy ever” you’re seeing is a façade he puts up to prevent you from leaving.
No, he's complaining that she drained the noodles using a clean pan to catch the cooking water. He listed the colander as part of the things both of them use.
No, don't go back. He did you a favor by breaking up with you. He doesn't trust you because of what you do for a living, and he's never going to. His trust and control issues will eventually spiral and he'll want you to quit your job so you're further under his control. I've been there and done that. You don't need that shit, girl. I know you love him but you can find someone else you love even more who supports what you do for a living and understands that just because you dance, that doesn't mean you're cheating on him with your clients.
From a pure practical standpoint (and nothing else), don't say a thing. It's not to your advantage as you work to divide assets.
Once the entire process is complete, you can tell her or not. It doesn't matter. Fundamentally the trust is broken. More importantly though, she will drift away in the future, as she develops new relationships and her own new life. The deep friendship you had is not coming back. It can't.
Sex with you sounds exhausting and not in the fun way lol
I honestly don't get why you can moan any name “on accident” I think it's just straight up bs. Fuck her, you deserve better!
This is the correct response.
If you get the chance to talk to him in person while she's not around, that would probably be the best time to say anything. Unfortunately I don't think there's much you can do to convince him to leave, but maybe just remind him that even though you don't talk anymore, you still care for him as a friend and tell him he can always reach out to you if he needs help.
The other thing you can do is call a domestic violence hotline and ask if they have any advice for friends and family of someone who is in an abusive relationship.
awww just give her all the hugs and kisses
Actually you do have a point.
You WILL do better. You believe you won’t because either 1) he has manipulated you into believing so, 2) you have low self esteem and low self worth, and I’m guessing it’s both.
Doesn’t matter how stable he appears. Even the most successful can engage in toxic behaviors. The “sweetest guy ever” you’re seeing is a façade he puts up to prevent you from leaving.
a 32 year old hitting on a 22 year old also seems a bit sus
Have you asked why she isn’t happy?
Well you already are cheating. Being pregnant is no excuse. You should tell your boyfriend.
No, he's complaining that she drained the noodles using a clean pan to catch the cooking water. He listed the colander as part of the things both of them use.