Are there no limits? I don't mean jealousy related limits, i mean ick related ones. Can he also sleep with OP's sister or mother without her having a right to be upset? I tend to put real friends in a sister style category, that's why i think it does matter.
Your fiancé needs to practice boundaries for sure, but you can ask him if he’s ok with you speaking to her on his behalf. Something should be said about her behavior. I know I’d be pissed.
I’m really sorry to say this but you are a walking cliche. What you’re saying is what every age gap victim says and you will look back and cringe. It doesn’t matter if you pursued him, it was so inappropriate and predatory and creepy of him to be with you. No wonder how controlling tendencies are coming out when you’re trying to spread your wings.
agree with this guy! Tell her you are going out with your ex because she needed closure and watch her ignite! She sounds like she doesnt care about you whatsoever, so im still not sure why you got back with her and why you continue to be her doormat. Quit wasting time bro! End this fiasco now. I bet she was the one that needed closure from the ex, not him.
Yes it depends on context because “nice” can be applied broadly, which is why I said this is what being nice ~can- be. But if someone is only doing things or acting a certain way for other people and not for themselves that is not the type of person I’d personally gravitate toward.
Fucking yikes. You guys always find the extra real shit in the history. OP, there is no quality a man could possess that is redeeming enough for anything that he's doing to you. Also, even if this were a cultural thing (it's not) – that doesn't mean you have to put up with it. And jokes should be funny.
'I've been seeing my boyfriend for about 4 months'
Best advice anyone can give here is 'Don't rush into things'. Four months may seem long, but really it's probably no more than 25-30 dates, which is absolutely no time to evaluate anyone is truly like. Throw a potentially difficult 3 year old child into the mix and really caution is your best way forward.
If he's the one, and he may well be, there is absolutely nothing to be gained by haste. You haven't introduced him to your family, you say nothing about his child's mother and so on.
It also begs the question, what age was his best friend's cousin when he first met her, was she a child? Because that changes things
How long have they been close? Or did he meet her at 19 and they feel into this kind of relationship?
Are there no limits? I don't mean jealousy related limits, i mean ick related ones. Can he also sleep with OP's sister or mother without her having a right to be upset? I tend to put real friends in a sister style category, that's why i think it does matter.
Your fiancé needs to practice boundaries for sure, but you can ask him if he’s ok with you speaking to her on his behalf. Something should be said about her behavior. I know I’d be pissed.
Well, now you know where she belongs…
I’m really sorry to say this but you are a walking cliche. What you’re saying is what every age gap victim says and you will look back and cringe. It doesn’t matter if you pursued him, it was so inappropriate and predatory and creepy of him to be with you. No wonder how controlling tendencies are coming out when you’re trying to spread your wings.
agree with this guy! Tell her you are going out with your ex because she needed closure and watch her ignite! She sounds like she doesnt care about you whatsoever, so im still not sure why you got back with her and why you continue to be her doormat. Quit wasting time bro! End this fiasco now. I bet she was the one that needed closure from the ex, not him.
Yes it depends on context because “nice” can be applied broadly, which is why I said this is what being nice ~can- be. But if someone is only doing things or acting a certain way for other people and not for themselves that is not the type of person I’d personally gravitate toward.
As much as I generally detest the phrase “for the streets” I feel this is the best usage I've seen.
Fucking yikes. You guys always find the extra real shit in the history. OP, there is no quality a man could possess that is redeeming enough for anything that he's doing to you. Also, even if this were a cultural thing (it's not) – that doesn't mean you have to put up with it. And jokes should be funny.
Can't post something like this if you're not going to give us the dims so we can be honest with you.
'I've been seeing my boyfriend for about 4 months'
Best advice anyone can give here is 'Don't rush into things'. Four months may seem long, but really it's probably no more than 25-30 dates, which is absolutely no time to evaluate anyone is truly like. Throw a potentially difficult 3 year old child into the mix and really caution is your best way forward.
If he's the one, and he may well be, there is absolutely nothing to be gained by haste. You haven't introduced him to your family, you say nothing about his child's mother and so on.
Just be careful. Good luck.