Ten years ago I went on a date with a guy and had a blast. It was the best first date I’ve been on and we had a great connection. Second date, he picked me up and before we went anywhere, he said he had to tell me something before we went any further in the dating phase. He had genital herpes, and same as she told you, he was on antiviral and took precautions/was very aware of it. He got it from his exgf who had cheated on him and her ap had it.
We kept dating and in the back of my mind I was a little concerned, but did a lot of research on effects and chances I would get it and he was always open and honest about answering any questions I had.
Ten years, a marriage, and three kids later, the best decision of my life was not letting something as trivial as genital herpes stop me from dating him. And I still to this day test negative due to the precautions we have taken (even with unprotected sex to conceive children).
The things I learned are that genital herpes and herpes in general is WAY more common than I had thought, and with antiviral to minimizes breakouts and protection used, the chances of getting it from someone do drop dramatically lower.
Simple cause he’s an asshole. Look you aren’t going to change him. He hasn’t stopped even after you’ve asked him to. That indicates he doesn’t respect you or cares about your personal boundaries. Staying instead of leaving just tells him he can keep treating you like that.
If this were your mom or your bestfriend being treated like this would you still want them to be in that relationship?
I was believing the whole story and feeling empathy for her up until she followed the husband, first to the car and then hours at a motel… who was watching their kids and all that? Boo. Really took away from the plausibility of it.
“My flat mate moved out last month, so I’ve had to move back to my parents”
… could you not have just gotten a new flatmate? That seems like an easier plan than moving 2-3 hrs away (I can only imagine what your commute to work must be like now!).
But even if you don't want a new flatmate for whatever reason … just talk to your gf about plans. Asking “so any news on whether your parents are okay with me moving in?” doesn't seem like something that would cause issues. I think you're over-thinking it.
same! I am dying to know if it's the same couple haha
Fucking run and don't look back
Ten years ago I went on a date with a guy and had a blast. It was the best first date I’ve been on and we had a great connection. Second date, he picked me up and before we went anywhere, he said he had to tell me something before we went any further in the dating phase. He had genital herpes, and same as she told you, he was on antiviral and took precautions/was very aware of it. He got it from his exgf who had cheated on him and her ap had it.
We kept dating and in the back of my mind I was a little concerned, but did a lot of research on effects and chances I would get it and he was always open and honest about answering any questions I had.
Ten years, a marriage, and three kids later, the best decision of my life was not letting something as trivial as genital herpes stop me from dating him. And I still to this day test negative due to the precautions we have taken (even with unprotected sex to conceive children).
The things I learned are that genital herpes and herpes in general is WAY more common than I had thought, and with antiviral to minimizes breakouts and protection used, the chances of getting it from someone do drop dramatically lower.
Good to know haha.
I see Alex tomorrow so we’ll talk and figure things out, and who knows my outlook on it might change.
Thanks for commenting, you made my night a bit less stressful 🙂
Simple cause he’s an asshole. Look you aren’t going to change him. He hasn’t stopped even after you’ve asked him to. That indicates he doesn’t respect you or cares about your personal boundaries. Staying instead of leaving just tells him he can keep treating you like that.
If this were your mom or your bestfriend being treated like this would you still want them to be in that relationship?
I was believing the whole story and feeling empathy for her up until she followed the husband, first to the car and then hours at a motel… who was watching their kids and all that? Boo. Really took away from the plausibility of it.
“My flat mate moved out last month, so I’ve had to move back to my parents”
… could you not have just gotten a new flatmate? That seems like an easier plan than moving 2-3 hrs away (I can only imagine what your commute to work must be like now!).
But even if you don't want a new flatmate for whatever reason … just talk to your gf about plans. Asking “so any news on whether your parents are okay with me moving in?” doesn't seem like something that would cause issues. I think you're over-thinking it.