You deserve to know if the person that you’re dating has children, he purposely deceived you and lied about the situation that he’s in to get you to consider him. That is one shady person. At 24 you have the ability to move on to a simpler situation with someone who won’t lie to you to get you to be with them…?
If you’ve been dating for several years, why are you only seeing each other every other weekend and why isn’t he invited on vacay?
I’m all for solo trips and trips with friends and whatever, but it sounds like he’s feeling pretty neglected and left out.
As a child free woman who is partnered with a man with a kiddo, we took things slowly in the beginning until we were a pretty sure thing and I was ready to meet his child (8 mos or so). Once I met kiddo, we got together twice a week or so. And while I totally encourage my partner to have one on one time with his kiddo, I’d feel pretty hurt if he planned a spring break trip without me.
I’d probably not be super excited for you either especially if I was always second, third, fourth in line of priorities.
It's a reminder of both something that hurt the one you love AND a reminder of an experience she had with someone before you that you will not have with her as a result.
I would recommend talking to your girlfriend about it. Quite often i feel…out of sorts myself about this sort of thing. I don't always know why.
I revert to talking to my fiance and asking questions to explore and investigate what's bothering me. Always ends up with me better understanding what's wrong and with me being able to work through my feelings.
The thing about trust is that no one is owed it. Trust is something that one earns by acting trustworthy. What OPs boyfriend is wanting to do is already not trustworthy. She needs to say “bye.”
The only weight you should lose is his dead weight dragging you down.
You deserve to know if the person that you’re dating has children, he purposely deceived you and lied about the situation that he’s in to get you to consider him. That is one shady person. At 24 you have the ability to move on to a simpler situation with someone who won’t lie to you to get you to be with them…?
Is he OCD? Has he been tested?
It’s not you, it’s me.
If you’ve been dating for several years, why are you only seeing each other every other weekend and why isn’t he invited on vacay?
I’m all for solo trips and trips with friends and whatever, but it sounds like he’s feeling pretty neglected and left out.
As a child free woman who is partnered with a man with a kiddo, we took things slowly in the beginning until we were a pretty sure thing and I was ready to meet his child (8 mos or so). Once I met kiddo, we got together twice a week or so. And while I totally encourage my partner to have one on one time with his kiddo, I’d feel pretty hurt if he planned a spring break trip without me.
I’d probably not be super excited for you either especially if I was always second, third, fourth in line of priorities.
It's a tough thing to reconcile.
It's a reminder of both something that hurt the one you love AND a reminder of an experience she had with someone before you that you will not have with her as a result.
I would recommend talking to your girlfriend about it. Quite often i feel…out of sorts myself about this sort of thing. I don't always know why.
I revert to talking to my fiance and asking questions to explore and investigate what's bothering me. Always ends up with me better understanding what's wrong and with me being able to work through my feelings.
Good luck
The thing about trust is that no one is owed it. Trust is something that one earns by acting trustworthy. What OPs boyfriend is wanting to do is already not trustworthy. She needs to say “bye.”
He will show himself soon.
I am also an only child. Personally, I wouldn't marry someone who wouldn't want me to keep my name, and is that hell bent on me not having that.
This would depend on how important is it to keep your name.