He sounds like a child who has been living with his parents his whole life and more like 21 than 31. I would dump a guy who can’t take less than minute to spot the detergent and then turns petulant and threatens to ruin laundry. No ones future partner or future responsible parent. If you’re looking to get more settled in your 30s – run away. ❤️?
I don’t think it has much to do with her husband, honestly. I think it has more to do with her wanting to go on a lavish trip, one that’s planned, paid for, and managed by her sister.
First thing, she doesn’t hate your kids. She’s having a rough patch. Seriously, have you never had a “just scream” moment about anything? If not, lucky you, cuz most of us have.
Second, don’t immediately try to FIX IT. What I believe she wants is for you to hear her frustration, to just listen & acknowledge that she has every right to feel as she does. Let her cry (sob even) if that will make her feel better by giving her a release.
Third, ask her if there is anything you can do to make her less stressed…& not just kid related. Maybe a foot rub, running a bath & giving her a whole hour to herself with no kids.
Fourth, you sound like an involved Dad. Good on you, many aren’t…BUT…you have absolutely no way to know what it’s like to be the SAHP. Think of all the things you get to do, without kid responsibilities. Just driving to/from work is a break she doesn’t have. Your lunch time would be the thing of dreams.
It’s often said two kids are way harder than just double the work, seems like everything multiplies by 10 not 2. So take a deep breath, listen/hug your Wife and stay as involved as you have been
Ain't nothin wrong with havin high standards, we all do. But if he can't even handle the little things, like updatin his passport or insurance card, it's probs a red flag. Ur better off findin someone who can handle the adulting and not make excuses like “mom safeguards all the docs”. Just be upfront with him about how u feel and see if he's willing to step up, if not, it's time to move on.
I know it definitely is weird. He is acting like he wants to still try and be together but he doesn't want the relationship title I guess? He is not very clear in what this break even is about or how long it will be. When I ask he tells me he doesn't know and to give him time. I am kinda afraid he is sleeping around but he swears he isn't.
he said that he felt i “cheated on him” because i supposedly “threathend him” . like????it makes no sense
Oh wow…lose the loser…I would never date a man if he told me that. If you want to love then do it for yourself and health reasons and never for a man.
Damn you cant make this shit up…?
He sounds like a child who has been living with his parents his whole life and more like 21 than 31. I would dump a guy who can’t take less than minute to spot the detergent and then turns petulant and threatens to ruin laundry. No ones future partner or future responsible parent. If you’re looking to get more settled in your 30s – run away. ❤️?
We were planing on just exploring afterwards 🙂
I don’t think it has much to do with her husband, honestly. I think it has more to do with her wanting to go on a lavish trip, one that’s planned, paid for, and managed by her sister.
First thing, she doesn’t hate your kids. She’s having a rough patch. Seriously, have you never had a “just scream” moment about anything? If not, lucky you, cuz most of us have.
Second, don’t immediately try to FIX IT. What I believe she wants is for you to hear her frustration, to just listen & acknowledge that she has every right to feel as she does. Let her cry (sob even) if that will make her feel better by giving her a release.
Third, ask her if there is anything you can do to make her less stressed…& not just kid related. Maybe a foot rub, running a bath & giving her a whole hour to herself with no kids.
Fourth, you sound like an involved Dad. Good on you, many aren’t…BUT…you have absolutely no way to know what it’s like to be the SAHP. Think of all the things you get to do, without kid responsibilities. Just driving to/from work is a break she doesn’t have. Your lunch time would be the thing of dreams.
It’s often said two kids are way harder than just double the work, seems like everything multiplies by 10 not 2. So take a deep breath, listen/hug your Wife and stay as involved as you have been
This ??
You should tell your parents. It may be embarassing but they might be the only ones that can break this apart between him and your sister.
Ain't nothin wrong with havin high standards, we all do. But if he can't even handle the little things, like updatin his passport or insurance card, it's probs a red flag. Ur better off findin someone who can handle the adulting and not make excuses like “mom safeguards all the docs”. Just be upfront with him about how u feel and see if he's willing to step up, if not, it's time to move on.
I know it definitely is weird. He is acting like he wants to still try and be together but he doesn't want the relationship title I guess? He is not very clear in what this break even is about or how long it will be. When I ask he tells me he doesn't know and to give him time. I am kinda afraid he is sleeping around but he swears he isn't.
he’s not responsible for his actions while drunk
Then who is? Leave while you can, he's clearly not sorry for hurting you and I wouldn't be surprised if he does it again.