Maybe she realised it just wasn’t going to work out, you’re young, it’s only been 2 months, it’ll be hot but you’re best off finding someone else. You’ll look back and won’t have any regrets
Okay I talked to him again. He doesn’t care about me at all. Not at all. He’s into being nice to soothe his own conscience. I’m gutted. Fml how did I get involved with this loser
Maybe they're looking for some kind of support? There could also be a slim chance it's yours if you had sex before you broke up. Better to find out how far along they are or when they found out before you do or say anything else.
Who knows what their motive is, especially if things ended poorly.
Stop wits out the situation & do something about it. This is your wedding. Hire security. Tell them one last time that the dress code will be enforced THEN STOP TALKING ABOUT IT! Refuse to be brought into this crazy-making time after time.
Get your fiancée into better therapy right now. Go into her 1st appointment with her & explain the situation to the therapist so that they can work on the right situation 1st. Or start couples counselling too. She needs to find her spine immediately or I’d postpone the wedding.
That's good that therapy is helping you. Learn from it and watch out for red flags. The question would be he repentant for how he behaves…stringing women along and be willing to go therapy. He has to want to change first.
I don't wanna keep leaving if I keep going back, as it is very stressful to break up and get back together again. I almost feel stuck here, like he is somehow keeping me here mentaly. It's nude to explain. I am defenetly not trying to blame anyone and that's also why I didn't go in detail. But maybe it is just that I don't know how to survive by myself.
Everyone is just saying have her currant husband adopt. He can’t. If the father is not on the birth certificate, the court will do a search to find the father to establish if there is a birth father. At this point either she would have to lie to the court (not smart) or admit this guy is their dad. Either way, the ex is their dad as he would have to agree to the adoption.
Lots of emotion in this thread, but on a factual situation she is in the wrong. According to her, she had never let him know, and he was assuming she had an abortion and skipped town. So she hid that from him. If he wants to lawyer up and push the issue, he will establish paternity, and will get visitation as they are his kids. Now, this would probably mean he’s on the hook for many years of support, but again since she hid the fact that they existed, there’s a strong chance that won’t happen.
I have an account where my paycheck goes into that is at bank Y for savings only. Bank X is for bills/ fun money. I accidentally overdrawn bank X and it was less than 50 USD. I don't have them linked so that I don't overspend. What's in there is what's in there. I had to adjust amounts accordingly once groceries/ household necessities became more expensive. I have a budget that I made and don't go over that, except the less than a handful of times I over drafted in a YEAR.
Honestly, him saying that this celebrity is his wife and you’re the side chick sounds like a joke. Either that or he’s seriously delusional and needs to be institutionalized.
It slowed down with age, but as of a month ago I'm not allowed to have my phone upstairs in my room. I wa son it after like a 11-ish, way past. Talking 3am-is. It was spring break and I wasn't allowed to go on my phone after 11 at college so I kinda just rolled with it.
he mostly checks my screen time and texts and whatnot. Sometimes my photos or deleted file too.
Anti depressants can be emotionally numbing. But it's not like a psych drug that makes you see things that aren't real and do things you don't want to do.
Fuck him. He shouldn't be in a relationship if he had depression anyways. He can't contribute to a relationship he can only take.
Thats great advice thank you very much!
Maybe she realised it just wasn’t going to work out, you’re young, it’s only been 2 months, it’ll be hot but you’re best off finding someone else. You’ll look back and won’t have any regrets
Definitely thought she was telling you that you have a hygiene issue
Okay I talked to him again. He doesn’t care about me at all. Not at all. He’s into being nice to soothe his own conscience. I’m gutted. Fml how did I get involved with this loser
Maybe they're looking for some kind of support? There could also be a slim chance it's yours if you had sex before you broke up. Better to find out how far along they are or when they found out before you do or say anything else.
Who knows what their motive is, especially if things ended poorly.
Stop wits out the situation & do something about it. This is your wedding. Hire security. Tell them one last time that the dress code will be enforced THEN STOP TALKING ABOUT IT! Refuse to be brought into this crazy-making time after time.
Get your fiancée into better therapy right now. Go into her 1st appointment with her & explain the situation to the therapist so that they can work on the right situation 1st. Or start couples counselling too. She needs to find her spine immediately or I’d postpone the wedding.
It's definitely the 2nd one. He was more focused on the exclusivity than the fact that if he did that, no harm will come to his wife.
That's good that therapy is helping you. Learn from it and watch out for red flags. The question would be he repentant for how he behaves…stringing women along and be willing to go therapy. He has to want to change first.
I don't wanna keep leaving if I keep going back, as it is very stressful to break up and get back together again. I almost feel stuck here, like he is somehow keeping me here mentaly. It's nude to explain. I am defenetly not trying to blame anyone and that's also why I didn't go in detail. But maybe it is just that I don't know how to survive by myself.
Everyone is just saying have her currant husband adopt. He can’t. If the father is not on the birth certificate, the court will do a search to find the father to establish if there is a birth father. At this point either she would have to lie to the court (not smart) or admit this guy is their dad. Either way, the ex is their dad as he would have to agree to the adoption.
Lots of emotion in this thread, but on a factual situation she is in the wrong. According to her, she had never let him know, and he was assuming she had an abortion and skipped town. So she hid that from him. If he wants to lawyer up and push the issue, he will establish paternity, and will get visitation as they are his kids. Now, this would probably mean he’s on the hook for many years of support, but again since she hid the fact that they existed, there’s a strong chance that won’t happen.
I have an account where my paycheck goes into that is at bank Y for savings only. Bank X is for bills/ fun money. I accidentally overdrawn bank X and it was less than 50 USD. I don't have them linked so that I don't overspend. What's in there is what's in there. I had to adjust amounts accordingly once groceries/ household necessities became more expensive. I have a budget that I made and don't go over that, except the less than a handful of times I over drafted in a YEAR.
Did you ever get help after your PPD?
Honestly, him saying that this celebrity is his wife and you’re the side chick sounds like a joke. Either that or he’s seriously delusional and needs to be institutionalized.
It slowed down with age, but as of a month ago I'm not allowed to have my phone upstairs in my room. I wa son it after like a 11-ish, way past. Talking 3am-is. It was spring break and I wasn't allowed to go on my phone after 11 at college so I kinda just rolled with it.
he mostly checks my screen time and texts and whatnot. Sometimes my photos or deleted file too.
It was 12 years ago.
Forget it
Anti depressants can be emotionally numbing. But it's not like a psych drug that makes you see things that aren't real and do things you don't want to do.
Fuck him. He shouldn't be in a relationship if he had depression anyways. He can't contribute to a relationship he can only take.