How it will affect future pregnancies… you have 3 kids, how many more do you want?? Leave him, he’s abusive. Have the baby or abort it, your call. You’re gonna be single mom of 4 for a while tho
Well then grow up and pull it together. Your kids shouldn’t be trying to comfort their mother, also ma’am you’re 33 years old with multiple kids do you really think raw dogging with a dude you’ve been with for 8 months who is clearly and obviously violent is smart? You are being the epitome of looking for love in all the wrong places. Keep the baby if you want but be prepared to do it alone, imo cut your losses abort the baby and keep it moving before this man ends up killing you and your 3 kids end up alone.
It also sounds like he hasn't exactly made it easier, he keeps promising to show more commitment and then will organize a romantic getaway… then bring up seeing his friends last minute.
Like she's insecure but it's his choice to deal with that.
I would bet the she told Sarah how she had stuff that meant she couldn't attend the surprise party but Sarah still went ahead with it? seems a bit suss to me. I get they don't like each other but sounds like Sarah against wasn't exactly making it easier for her.
Not to mention she also gave up her family for him, she's judging EVERYTHING because she is constantly wondering if the relationship is worth what she gave up.
Start by being honest. It's very hot to tell the truth when you've been lying about such things, but it sounds like both you and your brother need whatever support you can get.
Marijuana is often used to relax and escape the stresses of the real world. You mentioned your brother has undergone some traumatic experiences, and it may be that he can't face himself without the drugs because of it. This can lead to addiction which can have all sorts of negative affects.
It really sounds like you both need professional support, and unfortunately your not going to get that here on reddit.
I wish you the best of luck and hope you seek out a therapist who can help you through such a situation.
Well the problem is he is denying it so much I feel like deep inside he wants for something more to happen but is terrified of the consequences and reaction of people around him.
He doesnt like you girl. You’re not “the only woman he likes” you’re just the only one willing to sleep with him right now. If he hates women, and he knows you’re a woman, he doesn’t magically separate his hate for what you ARE from you. He will never see you as an equal because he dislikes a fundamental part of what makes you, you. Similar to racists who still have sex with minorities, you’re not a person to him
The fact that you are approaching this as if you are the problem and he isn't, is very telling. By always arguing with you, rather than hearing you out, he has manipulated you to the point that you think you are the problem. You aren't. The problem is that he is an asshole and that you two shouldn't be together.
Agree
How it will affect future pregnancies… you have 3 kids, how many more do you want?? Leave him, he’s abusive. Have the baby or abort it, your call. You’re gonna be single mom of 4 for a while tho
Well then grow up and pull it together. Your kids shouldn’t be trying to comfort their mother, also ma’am you’re 33 years old with multiple kids do you really think raw dogging with a dude you’ve been with for 8 months who is clearly and obviously violent is smart? You are being the epitome of looking for love in all the wrong places. Keep the baby if you want but be prepared to do it alone, imo cut your losses abort the baby and keep it moving before this man ends up killing you and your 3 kids end up alone.
It also sounds like he hasn't exactly made it easier, he keeps promising to show more commitment and then will organize a romantic getaway… then bring up seeing his friends last minute.
Like she's insecure but it's his choice to deal with that.
I would bet the she told Sarah how she had stuff that meant she couldn't attend the surprise party but Sarah still went ahead with it? seems a bit suss to me. I get they don't like each other but sounds like Sarah against wasn't exactly making it easier for her.
Not to mention she also gave up her family for him, she's judging EVERYTHING because she is constantly wondering if the relationship is worth what she gave up.
Start by being honest. It's very hot to tell the truth when you've been lying about such things, but it sounds like both you and your brother need whatever support you can get.
Marijuana is often used to relax and escape the stresses of the real world. You mentioned your brother has undergone some traumatic experiences, and it may be that he can't face himself without the drugs because of it. This can lead to addiction which can have all sorts of negative affects.
It really sounds like you both need professional support, and unfortunately your not going to get that here on reddit.
I wish you the best of luck and hope you seek out a therapist who can help you through such a situation.
Well the problem is he is denying it so much I feel like deep inside he wants for something more to happen but is terrified of the consequences and reaction of people around him.
He doesnt like you girl. You’re not “the only woman he likes” you’re just the only one willing to sleep with him right now. If he hates women, and he knows you’re a woman, he doesn’t magically separate his hate for what you ARE from you. He will never see you as an equal because he dislikes a fundamental part of what makes you, you. Similar to racists who still have sex with minorities, you’re not a person to him
Your husband is going to be a terrible father (to both your girl and boy) unless he unlearns that misogyny.
The fact that you are approaching this as if you are the problem and he isn't, is very telling. By always arguing with you, rather than hearing you out, he has manipulated you to the point that you think you are the problem. You aren't. The problem is that he is an asshole and that you two shouldn't be together.