It IS cheating if you feel like he cheated on you. You are not wrong to feel like this. The fact that he's with someone so much younger and is happily gaslighting you into thinking it isn't cheating says a lot about who he is.
Causing the child to ingest a controlled substance is child abuse. Child Protective Services would likely validate as abuse if there's evidence, like the child tests positive for THC. CPS doesn't remove children that are protected by one parent despite being abused by the other parent. They remove kids they determine to be unsafe and unprotected by both parents.
The photographs alone are not enough to indicate abuse. Lots of parents take photos of young kids in various states of undress. What would make it very concerning would be if you had reason to believe that your husband derived sexual gratification from the photos. For example, you caught him masturbating to the photos, photos show explicit sexual activity, not just nudity, etc.
I understand you wanting to leave over this. If you follow through, be sure to lawyer up asap. Probably want to get out and go stay with family and friends. That said, if you decide to stay, I recommend setting some bottom line conditions, including therapy, no further abuse of any kind and possible consequences if bottom lines are crossed. If you leave, he's still financially responsible for his kid. If you report his doping your kid right now, it's entirely possible he goes to jail. Good luck.
OP I'm gonna tell you straight. My current partner (he's 28 now) was in a relationship with a girl for 4 years, exactly how you're describing. He couldn't play games. He couldn't go to the gym. He couldn't see friends. Eventually he was isolated with no hobbies or interests or anything to look forward too. He eventually gained weight, was depressed and felt hopeless. Every time he tried to leave her she would cry and threaten to kill herself. All this shit your gf is doing is manipulative af. She needs professional help for her insecurities but I am telling you now, if she doesn't sort herself out, you're going to head down the same way my partner did. Thankfully now he's recovering but he still feels guilty for playing games and hanging with his friends because of the emotional damage she caused him. I reassure him it's fine and healthy to do his hobbies, socialise etc. A relationship involved happiness and growth together, no this stuff you're describing. Look after yourself, you're still so young.
If you were about to break up with her, why does a pregnancy matter?
Let’s imagine she was pregnant and decided to keep the baby, kids are better off with separate happy parents who love them, than unhappy parents who online together and resent the kid for being the reason they “had to” stay together.
This hit me very hot, but I know you’re right. Her “loving herself” has always been a problem, even using those exact words. I just don’t know how to go about approaching it without making her feel worse…. or maybe that’s it. Maybe something kind and respectful , but stern and serious….from a place of love. I just don’t know if she cares about herself enough. I mean, it affects me and the kids, which she should know. Maybe I’ll use that as an incentive.
Yeah this is definitely an ad.
Is it unreasonable to suggest that his GF also make an effort is the onus for a healthy relationship ENTIRELY on op's shoulders?
Last time I checked, if it's 2 hours for him, it's also 2 hours for her.
I think it depends on the family. I always invite people I know if they’re not doing anything. It’s my excuse to cook a fuck ton of food.
It IS cheating if you feel like he cheated on you. You are not wrong to feel like this. The fact that he's with someone so much younger and is happily gaslighting you into thinking it isn't cheating says a lot about who he is.
I said I hate men jokingly and he got mad about that it was stupid
Causing the child to ingest a controlled substance is child abuse. Child Protective Services would likely validate as abuse if there's evidence, like the child tests positive for THC. CPS doesn't remove children that are protected by one parent despite being abused by the other parent. They remove kids they determine to be unsafe and unprotected by both parents.
The photographs alone are not enough to indicate abuse. Lots of parents take photos of young kids in various states of undress. What would make it very concerning would be if you had reason to believe that your husband derived sexual gratification from the photos. For example, you caught him masturbating to the photos, photos show explicit sexual activity, not just nudity, etc.
I understand you wanting to leave over this. If you follow through, be sure to lawyer up asap. Probably want to get out and go stay with family and friends. That said, if you decide to stay, I recommend setting some bottom line conditions, including therapy, no further abuse of any kind and possible consequences if bottom lines are crossed. If you leave, he's still financially responsible for his kid. If you report his doping your kid right now, it's entirely possible he goes to jail. Good luck.
OP I'm gonna tell you straight. My current partner (he's 28 now) was in a relationship with a girl for 4 years, exactly how you're describing. He couldn't play games. He couldn't go to the gym. He couldn't see friends. Eventually he was isolated with no hobbies or interests or anything to look forward too. He eventually gained weight, was depressed and felt hopeless. Every time he tried to leave her she would cry and threaten to kill herself. All this shit your gf is doing is manipulative af. She needs professional help for her insecurities but I am telling you now, if she doesn't sort herself out, you're going to head down the same way my partner did. Thankfully now he's recovering but he still feels guilty for playing games and hanging with his friends because of the emotional damage she caused him. I reassure him it's fine and healthy to do his hobbies, socialise etc. A relationship involved happiness and growth together, no this stuff you're describing. Look after yourself, you're still so young.
Call your local domestic violence/abuse hotline & talk to a professional.
If you were about to break up with her, why does a pregnancy matter?
Let’s imagine she was pregnant and decided to keep the baby, kids are better off with separate happy parents who love them, than unhappy parents who online together and resent the kid for being the reason they “had to” stay together.
Just break up and stop the mind games.
This hit me very hot, but I know you’re right. Her “loving herself” has always been a problem, even using those exact words. I just don’t know how to go about approaching it without making her feel worse…. or maybe that’s it. Maybe something kind and respectful , but stern and serious….from a place of love. I just don’t know if she cares about herself enough. I mean, it affects me and the kids, which she should know. Maybe I’ll use that as an incentive.
She said cant afford monthly with 300k down, which is what they have.
better ensure no more available any where & if found delete it even at the trash bin.
once done better think hot if you wanna be with this guy as too many red flags.