My ex was an abusive alcoholic and he slowly but surely isolated me from the people who loved me as a tactic to get me to never leave him. I would seriously reconsider this relationship and take a good nude look at what he brings to the table. If your boyfriend brings you nothing but stress and rules then dump him. A man should be supportive, loving, kind, and give you sense of peace and comfort. They should not be a source of stress.
Either he thinks your ugly, has testosterone issue, has a psych issue, or has a porn issue. Take him to a doctor and see if you can find a fix and don’t listen to old dick liberals comments about sexual incompatibility. Statistically 99% of all relationships have been built on compromise because everyone has differing sex drives and your sex drives even change over time. Gotta work towards a solution. If he won’t work towards one then leave him
I don't know if this will change your opinion, but my current partner says I'm quite affectionate and when we spent the night together (just sleeping) for the first time, he said I/we were clingy, but in a good way. We had a lot of cute moments like him falling asleep in my arms and me telling him how cute he was and smiling in his sleep. He hugged me throughout the night and then didn't remember any of it and was happy to know how happy his subconscious was. I'm fully aware of how nice this is and how I never had a single night like that with my ex. I think I'm doing a great job at not showing my partner this fear at all. He knows that the relationship hurt me because my ex slowly pulled away and was not honest about what he wanted. I've been considerate of the fact that my fears are not his responsibility and I want to enjoy him and celebrate him and deal with my fears privately.
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If you’re only 4 months in, I assume you don’t on-line together. The solution, then, is to not sleep over at her place, put your phone in do not disturb at night, and tell her why you’re doing it. Who cares if she calls you selfish? She’s wrong, we all know she wrong. She is the selfish one. She may never agree with you, she may break up with you, but at least you’ll finally be able to sleep again.
She 100% cheated and was trying to make him cool with it after the fact.
Just break up with her man
My ex was an abusive alcoholic and he slowly but surely isolated me from the people who loved me as a tactic to get me to never leave him. I would seriously reconsider this relationship and take a good nude look at what he brings to the table. If your boyfriend brings you nothing but stress and rules then dump him. A man should be supportive, loving, kind, and give you sense of peace and comfort. They should not be a source of stress.
Either he thinks your ugly, has testosterone issue, has a psych issue, or has a porn issue. Take him to a doctor and see if you can find a fix and don’t listen to old dick liberals comments about sexual incompatibility. Statistically 99% of all relationships have been built on compromise because everyone has differing sex drives and your sex drives even change over time. Gotta work towards a solution. If he won’t work towards one then leave him
Give an honest apology, and expect nothing of it. Just make sure its from the heart and fine-tuned by the mind
I don't know if this will change your opinion, but my current partner says I'm quite affectionate and when we spent the night together (just sleeping) for the first time, he said I/we were clingy, but in a good way. We had a lot of cute moments like him falling asleep in my arms and me telling him how cute he was and smiling in his sleep. He hugged me throughout the night and then didn't remember any of it and was happy to know how happy his subconscious was. I'm fully aware of how nice this is and how I never had a single night like that with my ex. I think I'm doing a great job at not showing my partner this fear at all. He knows that the relationship hurt me because my ex slowly pulled away and was not honest about what he wanted. I've been considerate of the fact that my fears are not his responsibility and I want to enjoy him and celebrate him and deal with my fears privately.
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If you’re only 4 months in, I assume you don’t on-line together. The solution, then, is to not sleep over at her place, put your phone in do not disturb at night, and tell her why you’re doing it. Who cares if she calls you selfish? She’s wrong, we all know she wrong. She is the selfish one. She may never agree with you, she may break up with you, but at least you’ll finally be able to sleep again.
You’re deliberately being obtuse. She’s your wife, not some random person. Of course you should learn her language.
So…is his therapist even qualified to diagnose him?
As reddit loves to say, this guy is wrapped in a quilt made of red flags, simmered in marinara sauce.