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Oh, wow. I think I have something in my eye. Yep, definitely something in my eye.
Show her this post. Then tell her that you love her and would be honored if you could call her Mom. Have a box of kleenex handy, OP, because I guarantee happy tears of love and joy. Probably the same for your Dad. They love you. I'm so proud of you for wanting to tell them how much they mean to you.
Okay, here's my advice as a threesome professional:
Everyone take one shot. If you smoke, do so. Dim the lights. Everyone takes their shoes and socks off, pants if you're already that comfy, and lies down on the same soft surface. Pass a joint or everyone have one beer to mull over. With alcohol it's important to not exceed more than one or two drinks. Chill, play viby music, start with massages, touch, asking what they want to do. Don't wedge yourself into every situation, watching is sometimes participation. Remember to ask (“is it okay my (dant!!) Is near your (dint!!)?”) Consent carries on. Don't rush, don't try to do every damn porno move you ever saw. Just enjoy it and steer minimally.
You sexually coerced her, which means you didn't have actual consent.
You should indeed be deeply ashamed of yourself, and you need to learn about actual consent and healthy boundaries.
A lot of people have this misconception that sexual assault only happens with violence. It does not.
Most rapes happen within relationships.
It's also very short-sighted to think she can not have experienced a sexually traumatising experience because she still has feelings for you and misses you. You were her boyfriend, whom she had/has strong feelings for. That doesn't just disappear when you violate her sexual boundaries.
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milk allergies don't make your heart cold. this dude is straight up lying to you
Oh, wow. I think I have something in my eye. Yep, definitely something in my eye.
Show her this post. Then tell her that you love her and would be honored if you could call her Mom. Have a box of kleenex handy, OP, because I guarantee happy tears of love and joy. Probably the same for your Dad. They love you. I'm so proud of you for wanting to tell them how much they mean to you.
Stay away – never look for the third strike
Okay, here's my advice as a threesome professional:
Everyone take one shot. If you smoke, do so. Dim the lights. Everyone takes their shoes and socks off, pants if you're already that comfy, and lies down on the same soft surface. Pass a joint or everyone have one beer to mull over. With alcohol it's important to not exceed more than one or two drinks. Chill, play viby music, start with massages, touch, asking what they want to do. Don't wedge yourself into every situation, watching is sometimes participation. Remember to ask (“is it okay my (dant!!) Is near your (dint!!)?”) Consent carries on. Don't rush, don't try to do every damn porno move you ever saw. Just enjoy it and steer minimally.
You sexually coerced her, which means you didn't have actual consent.
You should indeed be deeply ashamed of yourself, and you need to learn about actual consent and healthy boundaries.
A lot of people have this misconception that sexual assault only happens with violence. It does not.
Most rapes happen within relationships.
It's also very short-sighted to think she can not have experienced a sexually traumatising experience because she still has feelings for you and misses you. You were her boyfriend, whom she had/has strong feelings for. That doesn't just disappear when you violate her sexual boundaries.
“Oh, I don’t mind OP! It doesn’t feel like very hot work because I love doing it and I love that you love them!”
You solve nothing by being too indirect.