If you don’t leave immediately then you are a criminal and don’t deserve your son. Your husband fed him drugs and you also suspect him to be a pedophile because of those photos of your SON. You merely “THINK” you should leave him???
Is this a troll post because where the actual f*ck is your common sense. LEAVE!
He’s damn if do, damned if he don’t. I understand your frustration with him from before, any of us would have been frustrated with him, but he’s done everything you asked. He needed the swift kick in the ass, yes, but now you’re not happy because he’s not himself. You can’t have it both ways, my love. He sounds like he’s become a shell of himself. But…that’s what you wanted, wasn’t it?
Sigh. That sounds mean when I read it back and I don’t want to be mean to you. He HAD to change from before, absolutely, but his going so extreme to the other side is concerning. I don’t know what the answer is here.
Does he know how much you love him? Do you ever just… Take care of him? Do you ever surprise him? Do you ever, I don’t know, give him a massage? Do you bring him flowers? Do you get him little gifts since he won’t buy anything for himself? Have you shown him how appreciative you are of his effort? Or was this all just sort of one-sided?
He needed to grow up.
He needed to be more responsible, like with the money.
He needed to give in his relationship.
This wasn’t just you who was worried about him. His family and friends were also worried.
Maybe this is just…the man he is? Maybe he’s afraid if he just slips up one time you’re gonna leave him.
Correct. Sorry to say that OP has just been used. Everything he knows about the husband is only through her and there’s a lot of hiding and manipulation at play here. I say this despite being a fellow South Asian that has seen several true stories of controlling and abusive husbands in my own family, let alone in society. I am also in the states on a work visa. While she may really have been dependent on him to come to the US, it needn’t be that way forever as she could have found her employment and gotten her own independent visa within a year or two of arriving if she really thought that her relationship with her husband was so bad that she had to have an AP.
Sorry OP! Just like there are thousands of true stories of abusive husbands in Nepal and other south Asian regions, there are also a handful of manipulative women who will utilize their distance from their partners to get everything they want, even if it means you need two men to get it.
It sounds really like the trash took itself out. It sounds like she was more interested in what you could give her financially than anything. Please please please get therapy!!! Don’t end things over a woman whose name you may not even remember 10 years from now. I promise you she’s not worth it at all. She’s borderline abusive to you. Get therapy and build up your self esteem. This was not a healthy relationship like you think if she’s breaking up with you because you can’t buy her things.
Sincerely apologize to him without reservation. Articulate exactly what you did and why it was wrong.
Come up with a plan for how you will ensure that you will never physically abuse him again. Cutting out alcohol, working with your therapist, strategies for dealing with your frustration, whatever other things you need to do.
If he wants to leave let him leave and make the divorce as amicable as possible and figure out how to be a good coparent. Maybe you can repair the relationship, but if not then part of making amends is to let him move on with the least amount of extra stress and difficulty as possible.
Though I really wonder if this relationship is worth salvaging. If he’s accusing you of cheating when you have not been then that suggests that there is some thing deeper going on here and it sounds toxic.
To be fair the traveling is hot on him too, he says he does miss me and he doesn't like being away from home all the time. Sometimes he works closer to home so he is at home but I work during the week and he works weekends so its still sucks
I dont know if its by default but I feel like it is nude to do relationships where one person travels a lot. Just based on what I have heard other people say about it
I think she is preparing to cheat without feeling guilty. She tells him now that it could happen. If he stays with her and she cheats she can say “well, I told you I can't promise anything and you were fine with that. You can't suddenly change your mind”
I wanted to say no when he asked me out so bad but I was dumb and said yes.
Amazing 3some potential?
Anyone???
Too soon????
I’ll just leave.
*Walks out of room. Shuts door.
If you don’t leave immediately then you are a criminal and don’t deserve your son. Your husband fed him drugs and you also suspect him to be a pedophile because of those photos of your SON. You merely “THINK” you should leave him???
Is this a troll post because where the actual f*ck is your common sense. LEAVE!
He’s damn if do, damned if he don’t. I understand your frustration with him from before, any of us would have been frustrated with him, but he’s done everything you asked. He needed the swift kick in the ass, yes, but now you’re not happy because he’s not himself. You can’t have it both ways, my love. He sounds like he’s become a shell of himself. But…that’s what you wanted, wasn’t it?
Sigh. That sounds mean when I read it back and I don’t want to be mean to you. He HAD to change from before, absolutely, but his going so extreme to the other side is concerning. I don’t know what the answer is here.
Does he know how much you love him? Do you ever just… Take care of him? Do you ever surprise him? Do you ever, I don’t know, give him a massage? Do you bring him flowers? Do you get him little gifts since he won’t buy anything for himself? Have you shown him how appreciative you are of his effort? Or was this all just sort of one-sided?
He needed to grow up.
He needed to be more responsible, like with the money.
He needed to give in his relationship.
This wasn’t just you who was worried about him. His family and friends were also worried.
Maybe this is just…the man he is? Maybe he’s afraid if he just slips up one time you’re gonna leave him.
I wish you luck…?
Correct. Sorry to say that OP has just been used. Everything he knows about the husband is only through her and there’s a lot of hiding and manipulation at play here. I say this despite being a fellow South Asian that has seen several true stories of controlling and abusive husbands in my own family, let alone in society. I am also in the states on a work visa. While she may really have been dependent on him to come to the US, it needn’t be that way forever as she could have found her employment and gotten her own independent visa within a year or two of arriving if she really thought that her relationship with her husband was so bad that she had to have an AP.
Sorry OP! Just like there are thousands of true stories of abusive husbands in Nepal and other south Asian regions, there are also a handful of manipulative women who will utilize their distance from their partners to get everything they want, even if it means you need two men to get it.
It sounds really like the trash took itself out. It sounds like she was more interested in what you could give her financially than anything. Please please please get therapy!!! Don’t end things over a woman whose name you may not even remember 10 years from now. I promise you she’s not worth it at all. She’s borderline abusive to you. Get therapy and build up your self esteem. This was not a healthy relationship like you think if she’s breaking up with you because you can’t buy her things.
Sincerely apologize to him without reservation. Articulate exactly what you did and why it was wrong.
Come up with a plan for how you will ensure that you will never physically abuse him again. Cutting out alcohol, working with your therapist, strategies for dealing with your frustration, whatever other things you need to do.
If he wants to leave let him leave and make the divorce as amicable as possible and figure out how to be a good coparent. Maybe you can repair the relationship, but if not then part of making amends is to let him move on with the least amount of extra stress and difficulty as possible.
Though I really wonder if this relationship is worth salvaging. If he’s accusing you of cheating when you have not been then that suggests that there is some thing deeper going on here and it sounds toxic.
To be fair the traveling is hot on him too, he says he does miss me and he doesn't like being away from home all the time. Sometimes he works closer to home so he is at home but I work during the week and he works weekends so its still sucks
I dont know if its by default but I feel like it is nude to do relationships where one person travels a lot. Just based on what I have heard other people say about it
I think she is preparing to cheat without feeling guilty. She tells him now that it could happen. If he stays with her and she cheats she can say “well, I told you I can't promise anything and you were fine with that. You can't suddenly change your mind”
No, I did not. This is my first post