You’re probably going to get a lot of shit, but I hope you see this first:
What you’re feeling is normal. Don’t beat yourself up over feelings you can’t control. If you don’t accept this as normal and expected, it’s easy to lose perspective and get wracked with guilt and self-loathing, which can make you feel inclined towards bad decisions, because you think that you must be a terrible person for feeling this way.
Don’t get lost.
Allow yourself some grace, accept that most people feel this way at one point or another, but that none of it needs to be acted on. You don’t have to f follow through with every terrible thing that occurs to you in life, and this is no exception.
It’s important to never leave yourself any room to make bad decisions in. Don’t ever “accidentally” wind up alone, after a few drinks. Just keep acting like this will pass, and you aren’t going to make a mistake. You’ll find that it gets very easy to let it pass.
Well, I can’t say what career we work in, but, it is in the public eye, so that adds a whole other level. It’s not ideal, definitely not ideal. He actually helped me not lose my job, and he’s my superior, it’s complicated. I definitely won’t lose my job, and he says he wants me to go with him to whatever the next job is, but, idk if that’s a good idea. I know I’m okay careerwise, I’m really smart & have already saved a lot, I just don’t want his wife to get hurt. I kind of wish he would just divorce her, and not to be with me, but because they clearly aren’t happy together and I hate that I’m contributing to that
These comments are really harsh, you're allowed to have feelings op, you're allowed to not be a sociopath like these redditors think you should
Advice wise, distract yourself with something. Gym is the go to as exercise makes you feel good and you can really focus on goals (losing weight, lifting weights etc). Surround yourself with friends, ask them not to bring her up in the future. Block her on everything, don't give yourself the temptation to check her insta or message her when you're lonely.
Having someone who was a huge part of your life move on so quickly from you is a really shitty feeling, don't know how on earth these commenters haven't realised this
She is going to live a long time.
Show him. Say “well that’s fucking weird. Did t realise he still had my number. I’ll just block it”. Then block it.
You’re probably going to get a lot of shit, but I hope you see this first:
What you’re feeling is normal. Don’t beat yourself up over feelings you can’t control. If you don’t accept this as normal and expected, it’s easy to lose perspective and get wracked with guilt and self-loathing, which can make you feel inclined towards bad decisions, because you think that you must be a terrible person for feeling this way.
Don’t get lost.
Allow yourself some grace, accept that most people feel this way at one point or another, but that none of it needs to be acted on. You don’t have to f follow through with every terrible thing that occurs to you in life, and this is no exception.
It’s important to never leave yourself any room to make bad decisions in. Don’t ever “accidentally” wind up alone, after a few drinks. Just keep acting like this will pass, and you aren’t going to make a mistake. You’ll find that it gets very easy to let it pass.
Well, I can’t say what career we work in, but, it is in the public eye, so that adds a whole other level. It’s not ideal, definitely not ideal. He actually helped me not lose my job, and he’s my superior, it’s complicated. I definitely won’t lose my job, and he says he wants me to go with him to whatever the next job is, but, idk if that’s a good idea. I know I’m okay careerwise, I’m really smart & have already saved a lot, I just don’t want his wife to get hurt. I kind of wish he would just divorce her, and not to be with me, but because they clearly aren’t happy together and I hate that I’m contributing to that
These comments are really harsh, you're allowed to have feelings op, you're allowed to not be a sociopath like these redditors think you should
Advice wise, distract yourself with something. Gym is the go to as exercise makes you feel good and you can really focus on goals (losing weight, lifting weights etc). Surround yourself with friends, ask them not to bring her up in the future. Block her on everything, don't give yourself the temptation to check her insta or message her when you're lonely.
Having someone who was a huge part of your life move on so quickly from you is a really shitty feeling, don't know how on earth these commenters haven't realised this
Stay strong op