He was the one that initiated the break up with me. So ya, finding it super weird that he's now messaging some of my friends saying how much he misses them…
One of the reasons he broke up with me was because I would say no to sex sometimes… and now he's doing this, so I'm even more concerned for the motive behind it
He broke up with me once before because according to him, he didn’t know what he wants and he wants too many things at the same time. He wants to stay with me but at the same time he wants to leave me. He acknowledges that he was a shitty bf and I deserve someone better.
I pointed out all the times he let me down and how his “improvements” have just been him finally meeting the bare minimum. He kept apologizing to me and cried. I was the one who got dumped that day but I ended up having to comfort him. It’s just, if you’re truly sorry then shouldn’t you be actively trying to do better or making an effort to improve yourself?
I’m so tired of hearing ‘sorry’ because it’s just a reminder of each and every time he’s let me down. Why should I be let down so many times and why do I allow myself to be treated this way? 🙁
I have no trauma or issues around this type of behavior, but if I asked my boyfriend/husband not to touch me in a way I’m uncomfortable and THAT was the response I got, it’d be the last time he touched any part of me.
Physical intimacy, like sex, is supposed to be enjoyable for BOTH parties. The fact that your husband thinks he’s “entitled” to your body even if it’s in a way you don’t enjoy, actually find traumatic, is revolting. His sexual satisfaction takes priority over your ability to feel safe and secure in your own home. Please really think about that when considering your next steps.
Time to work on yourself, go to therapy, be single for awhile
he did go submit it today. so we should know within a week or so. its just very hot to cope until then. im so uncomfortable with them talking
“I’ve tried nude to convince him to go raw”
oh gross, don't do that. what the fuck, dude? You'd get eviscerated if you were guy and you said that, fuck. Respect his goddamn choices ffs
He was the one that initiated the break up with me. So ya, finding it super weird that he's now messaging some of my friends saying how much he misses them…
One of the reasons he broke up with me was because I would say no to sex sometimes… and now he's doing this, so I'm even more concerned for the motive behind it
He broke up with me once before because according to him, he didn’t know what he wants and he wants too many things at the same time. He wants to stay with me but at the same time he wants to leave me. He acknowledges that he was a shitty bf and I deserve someone better.
I pointed out all the times he let me down and how his “improvements” have just been him finally meeting the bare minimum. He kept apologizing to me and cried. I was the one who got dumped that day but I ended up having to comfort him. It’s just, if you’re truly sorry then shouldn’t you be actively trying to do better or making an effort to improve yourself?
I’m so tired of hearing ‘sorry’ because it’s just a reminder of each and every time he’s let me down. Why should I be let down so many times and why do I allow myself to be treated this way? 🙁
No problem, this helps me see that I'm not alone 😉
Truly appreciate the support. All the best to you.
You got almost 60 comments when you posted this before. At this point you aren't asking for advice, you just want attention.
Is that your boyfriend? Have you told him how you feel or tried to start a romantic relationship with him? No?
Then he's fair game.
I have no trauma or issues around this type of behavior, but if I asked my boyfriend/husband not to touch me in a way I’m uncomfortable and THAT was the response I got, it’d be the last time he touched any part of me.
Physical intimacy, like sex, is supposed to be enjoyable for BOTH parties. The fact that your husband thinks he’s “entitled” to your body even if it’s in a way you don’t enjoy, actually find traumatic, is revolting. His sexual satisfaction takes priority over your ability to feel safe and secure in your own home. Please really think about that when considering your next steps.