Oh hey. I'm considered fully disabled because of OCD, so yeah, wow, OCD sucks. I “just” have compulsions and basically no intrusive thoughts, though, so I guess I can't really relate too much.
But honestly? Aging will, one day, very likely make you end not having sex anymore. There just comes a day when the body doesn't want to do it anymore. Be it the bones, lack of energy, some other physical issue happening with age or simply no more libido. But honestly, from what I have seen in my social circle and in the generation of my parents, it's usually the woman who loses interest first.
Some people are willing to be the responsible person who does everything and earns the money and puts up the price of admission because the person they love is worth all the extra hassle.
Some people don't like being their lover's mother.
No shame whatever you choose, but know that he will never change and you can only control the boundaries you set for yourself
Because posts like this are harmful, they give anti-trans people a narrative to fall back on that literally does not exist in a context like this.
It's fear mongering. Stuff like this doesn't fucking happen.
You'd have to be a fucking idiot or have an agenda to want to believe this, here is a quote from another poster showing just a few of the inconsistencies in this story.
Even if they aren’t having sex, how is it that Sadie has never seen Jake without a shirt? They’ve never been swimming? Changed clothes in front of each other? Does Jake have breasts? Mastectomy scars? Neither of those clued Sadie in?
Let’s say Jake is just very slender and has small breasts that Sadie wouldn’t notice even if Jake doesn’t have a shirt on. Surely Jake is taking hormones and has regular doctor visits. Is he hiding the pills/injections, and appointments? Who is paying for this? It sounds like Jake is in university. Is he on your insurance?
If both of those things are true, I find it interesting that Jake has been through the trauma of losing his parents, being raised by his sister, and has medically transitioned, all without therapy. If Jake did have therapy through transitioning that was a pretty shitty therapist that never covered how to come out to people, especially a significant other. As his parental figure did the two of you never discuss any of this?
You, loving sister of Jake, find out that he created a fake dead sister, hid his transition from his gf, and never intends to tell her and your FIRST concern isn’t for your beloved brother. It’s for his fiancée. Nowhere in here do you mention advising Jake that his SO needs his medical info in case there’s an emergency. You don’t ask about his mental health and what led to him trying to keep a secret like this for the rest of his life. You don’t question his willingness to lie to his SO. You don’t suggest he get therapy and maybe have the therapist help him come out to his gf. No, you go straight to “we must disclose this dark secret to a person I barely know. She deserves the truth!!” And you have no regrets.
the people assigning massive significance to every hook up their partner has ever had are red flags. like someone else said, I don't even think about the fact that I fooled around with those people, it's not a big deal and it's not relevant to my current life. it's not lying if no one thought to mention it. pretending this is a common dealbreaker is bizarre and shows insecurity and distrust imo. reactions like this would be a dealbreaker to me.
You're a lucky man. Keep her forever!
Put money aside as much as possible don't tell him about it then leave without warning don't give a SINGLE CLUE u are leaving
Oh hey. I'm considered fully disabled because of OCD, so yeah, wow, OCD sucks. I “just” have compulsions and basically no intrusive thoughts, though, so I guess I can't really relate too much.
But honestly? Aging will, one day, very likely make you end not having sex anymore. There just comes a day when the body doesn't want to do it anymore. Be it the bones, lack of energy, some other physical issue happening with age or simply no more libido. But honestly, from what I have seen in my social circle and in the generation of my parents, it's usually the woman who loses interest first.
So this depends on you.
Some people are willing to be the responsible person who does everything and earns the money and puts up the price of admission because the person they love is worth all the extra hassle.
Some people don't like being their lover's mother.
No shame whatever you choose, but know that he will never change and you can only control the boundaries you set for yourself
Because posts like this are harmful, they give anti-trans people a narrative to fall back on that literally does not exist in a context like this.
It's fear mongering. Stuff like this doesn't fucking happen.
You'd have to be a fucking idiot or have an agenda to want to believe this, here is a quote from another poster showing just a few of the inconsistencies in this story.
Even if they aren’t having sex, how is it that Sadie has never seen Jake without a shirt? They’ve never been swimming? Changed clothes in front of each other? Does Jake have breasts? Mastectomy scars? Neither of those clued Sadie in?
Let’s say Jake is just very slender and has small breasts that Sadie wouldn’t notice even if Jake doesn’t have a shirt on. Surely Jake is taking hormones and has regular doctor visits. Is he hiding the pills/injections, and appointments? Who is paying for this? It sounds like Jake is in university. Is he on your insurance?
If both of those things are true, I find it interesting that Jake has been through the trauma of losing his parents, being raised by his sister, and has medically transitioned, all without therapy. If Jake did have therapy through transitioning that was a pretty shitty therapist that never covered how to come out to people, especially a significant other. As his parental figure did the two of you never discuss any of this?
You, loving sister of Jake, find out that he created a fake dead sister, hid his transition from his gf, and never intends to tell her and your FIRST concern isn’t for your beloved brother. It’s for his fiancée. Nowhere in here do you mention advising Jake that his SO needs his medical info in case there’s an emergency. You don’t ask about his mental health and what led to him trying to keep a secret like this for the rest of his life. You don’t question his willingness to lie to his SO. You don’t suggest he get therapy and maybe have the therapist help him come out to his gf. No, you go straight to “we must disclose this dark secret to a person I barely know. She deserves the truth!!” And you have no regrets.
No therapy in the world is going to resolve this BS. End it, now before you get drug under
the people assigning massive significance to every hook up their partner has ever had are red flags. like someone else said, I don't even think about the fact that I fooled around with those people, it's not a big deal and it's not relevant to my current life. it's not lying if no one thought to mention it. pretending this is a common dealbreaker is bizarre and shows insecurity and distrust imo. reactions like this would be a dealbreaker to me.