Just be honest and tell her what you just wrote, that you know she’s going through something very hard but at the same time, you need her to stop repeating the same thoughts because it’s effecting your anxiety.
They also make lamps that light up when the other touches them, but I can't remember what they are called.
On the NSFW side of things, check out Lovesnse the Lush for her, and the Max for you. You can control each other's toys via the app, so there is some bit of participation from both sides.
Dude she kissed two men. She is a lying cheater. She doesn't love you and is blaming you for her kissing them. You didn't make her do anything. She chose to kiss them. If she wants to kiss other men, then she can do so as a single woman.
Having grown up in a family of difficult people who love attention, this is it. I would opt to say it one more time in writing (e.g. just confirming with you that you’re aware our dress code is non negotiable and will be enforced by the venue) or phrase it as a question, leave it at that, and let him try it. Your ass is covered when he inevitably tries it and fails, and if anyone else gives you a hot time, there’s no debate as to whether he “didn’t know you were serious” or whatever excuse the attention seeker and their enabler friends and family members give when the attention seeking behaviors backfire.
You need to understand that he does understand. Everything he did was an intentional act. He didn’t accidentally order you exercise equipment. He didn’t not hear you when you said you were upset about weight gain. He hasn’t not had the time or opportunity to make it up to you. He is choosing not to.
He saw you were looking forward to something. He saw a situation where you’d be happy and the center of attention and he actively took steps to shit all over it and make sure you couldn’t take away a single good memory from your milestone event.
You feel hurt because this is a hurtful situation. I guarantee you that you’ll have to beg and plead for the cat cafe and park outing and then he’ll sulk and moan through them.
This kind of behavior is intentional. He’s putting you in what he thinks is your place. You have given him the map by which to abuse you. Go to the cat cafe by yourself. Have a nice time and really be honest with yourself about why you are accepting this behavior.
Would you have issues with her going with a girl? If the answer is no then let it go. I’ve had close no sex relationships with male friends.
If you can’t talk to him about sex you shouldn’t be having sex with him.
Just be honest and tell her what you just wrote, that you know she’s going through something very hard but at the same time, you need her to stop repeating the same thoughts because it’s effecting your anxiety.
Your ideas are solid.
They also make lamps that light up when the other touches them, but I can't remember what they are called.
On the NSFW side of things, check out Lovesnse the Lush for her, and the Max for you. You can control each other's toys via the app, so there is some bit of participation from both sides.
Good luck, 90 days goes fast.
Dude she kissed two men. She is a lying cheater. She doesn't love you and is blaming you for her kissing them. You didn't make her do anything. She chose to kiss them. If she wants to kiss other men, then she can do so as a single woman.
Having grown up in a family of difficult people who love attention, this is it. I would opt to say it one more time in writing (e.g. just confirming with you that you’re aware our dress code is non negotiable and will be enforced by the venue) or phrase it as a question, leave it at that, and let him try it. Your ass is covered when he inevitably tries it and fails, and if anyone else gives you a hot time, there’s no debate as to whether he “didn’t know you were serious” or whatever excuse the attention seeker and their enabler friends and family members give when the attention seeking behaviors backfire.
You need to understand that he does understand. Everything he did was an intentional act. He didn’t accidentally order you exercise equipment. He didn’t not hear you when you said you were upset about weight gain. He hasn’t not had the time or opportunity to make it up to you. He is choosing not to.
He saw you were looking forward to something. He saw a situation where you’d be happy and the center of attention and he actively took steps to shit all over it and make sure you couldn’t take away a single good memory from your milestone event.
You feel hurt because this is a hurtful situation. I guarantee you that you’ll have to beg and plead for the cat cafe and park outing and then he’ll sulk and moan through them.
This kind of behavior is intentional. He’s putting you in what he thinks is your place. You have given him the map by which to abuse you. Go to the cat cafe by yourself. Have a nice time and really be honest with yourself about why you are accepting this behavior.