I can't understand a reason anyone would propose this. Especially because 1. He only met him once 2. HE ALREADY HAS PARENTS. I would talk ASAP. This is a red flag the size of the statuebof liberty. Maybe he has an innocent reason but I can't think of one. Taking a kid away from his parents at that age would be a huge shock to the child and he would probably be miserable for an amount of time. It's not like he has the best interest of the kid…he only met him once.
Hey, I've been cheated on by multiple partners. Here's the sauce reduction:
If they can violate your most intimate trust, there's no trust of yours they can't violate.
People who would cheat you, are not worthy of having you.
You want to work it out, because you can't acknowledge the fact that the two years you spent together, that was just your experience, for her to do this, she had a different experience these past two years. It doesn't make it justified.
Right now, you are just a dupe who was tricked into loving someone who didn't love you back, it happens every day, and since you have been cheated on, statistically you are more likely to be cheated on a second time than someone who has not been cheated on yet.
But you have endured a terrible traumatic event that a lot of men don't survive. Sometimes the feeling of lost and betrayal is too much for some men and they lose themselves to their negative emotions.
Because you are alive today and you are making plans for tomorrow, you have survived this event and you are better prepared to handle more traumatic events in the future than someone who has not dealt with traumatic events.
Life is life, you were never anymore special than anyone else. Your girlfriend was never specially picked to be just for you. The illusion of the world wears thin as you see that all takeable actions are the facade of free will.
But that's OK. I was never more special than you either. And no matter how high I climb, we will still be equals. But living is climbing, and suffering, and falling. And if you survive the fall, you get up and continue climbing and the more you suffer and fall, the stronger you become and the faster you climb.
Life isn't supposed to be idle enjoyment, if the perfect life was handed to you on a golden platter you wouldn't be able to reach out and take it. You have to scoop dirt into your own hand and squeeze it into diamonds and gold, milk and honey. And through the struggle of that process, the very struggle itself is the essence of being alive.
Don't date your cheating ex. She had her shot, and you had yours, learn from your experience and move on in good faith.
It’s weird. You two have been on 1.5 dates. He should not be asking for any type of exclusivity or relationship even if you two hit it off really well.
It's not weird at all. When I was dating there was no fuckin chance I'd have dated anyone seeing other people. Most definitely not sleeping with other people.
Eerrrrr……… listen: why are you dating this man? He seems douchey, racist and inconsiderate! Do you actually love this person? He defo doesn't love you, he likes the idea of you. I wouldn't be surprised if he woos some Japanese woman and replaces you with her.
Doing the “asian accent” while talking to you?! Boys will be boys?! Girl, he is made of red flags!
There's no fresh starts with cheaters, there are only fresh slates. All you've done here is prolong the inevitable and given her another chance to cheat on you.
You got told – flat out – that a GUEST’S behavior got you KICKED OUT.
Stop asking yourself how to feel and GET MAD!
HIS behavior had a direct effect on YOUR living situation!
This isn’t about his initiative or his feelings of inadequacy. This is about him being an asshole who’s so unconcerned with your life that he’s willing to affect your life.
Don’t think of it as giving up on him but as loving yourself enough to leave the almost 40 year old man-child.
Let’s give a shoutout to our schooling/government system for ruining a relationship. Shouldn’t have to spend the price of a mortgage just to educate yourself
Both responses translate honestly to he isn’t a safe space for you and you need to explore divorce and not be near him at all anymore. Not sleeping, not awake.
Either there is more to the story, or your GF is really immature.
If she broke up just because your checked an IG page, be it an ex or not, she has deep anxiety issues and you should avoid this burden in your life as much as possible.
I think you have the upper hand in that case. I don't know how you can do it legally, better if you do it by the books and consult a professional.
In the meantime, 2 months have passed, so maybe look into it a little if the dog is fine and take much evidence as you can without rising any suspicion and see what is the best course of action.
I know I have too.
Nope. You can say no to anything you are uncomfortable with.
She said it had nothing to do with my dick
So what is her reason? It might be worth investigating. If you know her reasoning, it brings you a little closer to finding a win-win situation.
I can't understand a reason anyone would propose this. Especially because 1. He only met him once 2. HE ALREADY HAS PARENTS. I would talk ASAP. This is a red flag the size of the statuebof liberty. Maybe he has an innocent reason but I can't think of one. Taking a kid away from his parents at that age would be a huge shock to the child and he would probably be miserable for an amount of time. It's not like he has the best interest of the kid…he only met him once.
Try rewriting this. It doesn't make any sense
Is this concerning?
Why is it?
He's exhibiting signs of an orientation of your own. Asexual.
Are you concerned about your own lack of desire? No? Then why are you for him ?
I don't think you guys are compatible tbh
Hey, I've been cheated on by multiple partners. Here's the sauce reduction:
If they can violate your most intimate trust, there's no trust of yours they can't violate.
People who would cheat you, are not worthy of having you.
You want to work it out, because you can't acknowledge the fact that the two years you spent together, that was just your experience, for her to do this, she had a different experience these past two years. It doesn't make it justified.
Right now, you are just a dupe who was tricked into loving someone who didn't love you back, it happens every day, and since you have been cheated on, statistically you are more likely to be cheated on a second time than someone who has not been cheated on yet.
But you have endured a terrible traumatic event that a lot of men don't survive. Sometimes the feeling of lost and betrayal is too much for some men and they lose themselves to their negative emotions.
Because you are alive today and you are making plans for tomorrow, you have survived this event and you are better prepared to handle more traumatic events in the future than someone who has not dealt with traumatic events.
Life is life, you were never anymore special than anyone else. Your girlfriend was never specially picked to be just for you. The illusion of the world wears thin as you see that all takeable actions are the facade of free will.
But that's OK. I was never more special than you either. And no matter how high I climb, we will still be equals. But living is climbing, and suffering, and falling. And if you survive the fall, you get up and continue climbing and the more you suffer and fall, the stronger you become and the faster you climb.
Life isn't supposed to be idle enjoyment, if the perfect life was handed to you on a golden platter you wouldn't be able to reach out and take it. You have to scoop dirt into your own hand and squeeze it into diamonds and gold, milk and honey. And through the struggle of that process, the very struggle itself is the essence of being alive.
Don't date your cheating ex. She had her shot, and you had yours, learn from your experience and move on in good faith.
It’s weird. You two have been on 1.5 dates. He should not be asking for any type of exclusivity or relationship even if you two hit it off really well.
It's not weird at all. When I was dating there was no fuckin chance I'd have dated anyone seeing other people. Most definitely not sleeping with other people.
Eerrrrr……… listen: why are you dating this man? He seems douchey, racist and inconsiderate! Do you actually love this person? He defo doesn't love you, he likes the idea of you. I wouldn't be surprised if he woos some Japanese woman and replaces you with her.
Doing the “asian accent” while talking to you?! Boys will be boys?! Girl, he is made of red flags!
Ditch him
There's no fresh starts with cheaters, there are only fresh slates. All you've done here is prolong the inevitable and given her another chance to cheat on you.
THANK YOU
You got told – flat out – that a GUEST’S behavior got you KICKED OUT.
Stop asking yourself how to feel and GET MAD!
HIS behavior had a direct effect on YOUR living situation!
This isn’t about his initiative or his feelings of inadequacy. This is about him being an asshole who’s so unconcerned with your life that he’s willing to affect your life.
Don’t think of it as giving up on him but as loving yourself enough to leave the almost 40 year old man-child.
Let’s give a shoutout to our schooling/government system for ruining a relationship. Shouldn’t have to spend the price of a mortgage just to educate yourself
Both responses translate honestly to he isn’t a safe space for you and you need to explore divorce and not be near him at all anymore. Not sleeping, not awake.
Either there is more to the story, or your GF is really immature.
If she broke up just because your checked an IG page, be it an ex or not, she has deep anxiety issues and you should avoid this burden in your life as much as possible.
Be glad
I think you have the upper hand in that case. I don't know how you can do it legally, better if you do it by the books and consult a professional.
In the meantime, 2 months have passed, so maybe look into it a little if the dog is fine and take much evidence as you can without rising any suspicion and see what is the best course of action.