Any time he trash talks you in a mean way stop playing instantly. Put down the controller. The game is over. He just ruined it.
If he accuses you of being dramatic or whatever just say “I am your girlfriend. I will not put up with being spoken to that way. I don't care if you think you're just joking.”
He'll get the picture pretty fast. If he doesn't, we'll, then he doesn't respect you or care how you feel, so you need to make a decision with that in mind.
Wow, her coming out does not mean that you OWE her your body and emotions in a relationship. Their behavior is really rapey, if that makes sense. Getting physically assaulted because you won't give yourself to someone just because they want to is REALLY over the line and wrong. None of those people were ever your friends, unfortunately. :'(
There’s only one solution for this and that is to leave them alone and move on.
She used to reciprocate, we used to be friends. She liked me. Until I showed neediness and clingy behavior, that destroyed everything ? ? ? ? ?. I couldn't resist my anxiety, wanting to try fixing everything, that went exactly in opposite direction. The more I tried to fix, the more she started distancing ? ? .
Now, she don't want me to see her at all ? ? ? ? ? . I am at a place where she is ready to take legal action if I reach out to her, imagine the kind of pain :(.
I never had a breakup with anyone in my life, I never had any close relationship as this one. I always used to be homely guy.
I am so scared, I don't think I can find like this joyful person ever in my life ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? . She is very good person, very joyful and humorous.
I don't know how to make friends, she became as friend naturally. I am so scared right now, I don't know. That rushed my emotions so high and wanting to protect this relationship at any cost. But you know ? ? ? ? .
I mean I would reconsider marrying someone has so little care for your comfort and opinion on your own wedding-day. Take this as a wakeup call to all the other stuff you been ignoring. Tell her your position and if she doesn't see it then I would walk away as hard it might feel at that moment, you would probably be thankful to yourself later in wife when you didn't marry her
Well, you do need to reflect not so much on her but on why. There is a reason you are fixated on her and you should give deep thought as to why she is occupying your thoughts. It may not be as straightforward or romantic as you might think.
Because he said it right in front of me. I’m not naive enough to think the person you’re dating isn’t the ONLY attractive person in the world, but I find it a little disrespectful to mention it in such a manner when I’m right there. He could have said attractive, but hard is such a sexual term. So to say it in front of me was bothersome. I have never ever said another guy was hard in front of him, I think a lot of people in relationships would find it uncomfortable to hear their S/O call another person hit. I know it’s a small problem but it’s a problem I’ve never had with him before. I’m allowed to feel a little uncomfortable at it if that’s how I feel. I did not enjoy hearing him call another woman that. He’s called other girls good looking or cute or attractive, that doesn’t bother me, but very hot??? That’s what I say and what he says when we’re in the middle of f*cking. That’s why it’s bothers me. And I could be completely over thinking it because I know girls tend to over think more than guys, but “hot” bothered me
Agreed! That shit is damaging.
Any time he trash talks you in a mean way stop playing instantly. Put down the controller. The game is over. He just ruined it.
If he accuses you of being dramatic or whatever just say “I am your girlfriend. I will not put up with being spoken to that way. I don't care if you think you're just joking.”
He'll get the picture pretty fast. If he doesn't, we'll, then he doesn't respect you or care how you feel, so you need to make a decision with that in mind.
Him: sorry, you’re just a nude s*ut to me.
Dump him!! You can and will find better very quickly and he will be begging for you back.
Colorism is so shitty imo dark skinned black women are far more attractive to me than lighter skinned black women.
Wow, her coming out does not mean that you OWE her your body and emotions in a relationship. Their behavior is really rapey, if that makes sense. Getting physically assaulted because you won't give yourself to someone just because they want to is REALLY over the line and wrong. None of those people were ever your friends, unfortunately. :'(
There’s only one solution for this and that is to leave them alone and move on.
She used to reciprocate, we used to be friends. She liked me. Until I showed neediness and clingy behavior, that destroyed everything ? ? ? ? ?. I couldn't resist my anxiety, wanting to try fixing everything, that went exactly in opposite direction. The more I tried to fix, the more she started distancing ? ? .
Now, she don't want me to see her at all ? ? ? ? ? . I am at a place where she is ready to take legal action if I reach out to her, imagine the kind of pain :(.
I never had a breakup with anyone in my life, I never had any close relationship as this one. I always used to be homely guy.
I am so scared, I don't think I can find like this joyful person ever in my life ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? . She is very good person, very joyful and humorous.
I don't know how to make friends, she became as friend naturally. I am so scared right now, I don't know. That rushed my emotions so high and wanting to protect this relationship at any cost. But you know ? ? ? ? .
With friends like you who needs enemies
I mean I would reconsider marrying someone has so little care for your comfort and opinion on your own wedding-day. Take this as a wakeup call to all the other stuff you been ignoring. Tell her your position and if she doesn't see it then I would walk away as hard it might feel at that moment, you would probably be thankful to yourself later in wife when you didn't marry her
Weeeeell that's kinda why it's very ill-advised to do that after only 7 months.
John Redcorn is probably just stopping by to administer her migraine treatments!
Well, you do need to reflect not so much on her but on why. There is a reason you are fixated on her and you should give deep thought as to why she is occupying your thoughts. It may not be as straightforward or romantic as you might think.
Because he said it right in front of me. I’m not naive enough to think the person you’re dating isn’t the ONLY attractive person in the world, but I find it a little disrespectful to mention it in such a manner when I’m right there. He could have said attractive, but hard is such a sexual term. So to say it in front of me was bothersome. I have never ever said another guy was hard in front of him, I think a lot of people in relationships would find it uncomfortable to hear their S/O call another person hit. I know it’s a small problem but it’s a problem I’ve never had with him before. I’m allowed to feel a little uncomfortable at it if that’s how I feel. I did not enjoy hearing him call another woman that. He’s called other girls good looking or cute or attractive, that doesn’t bother me, but very hot??? That’s what I say and what he says when we’re in the middle of f*cking. That’s why it’s bothers me. And I could be completely over thinking it because I know girls tend to over think more than guys, but “hot” bothered me
From personal experience: RUN!!!!!
“Testing” what? Get less dumb friends
You’re describing deflection and DARVO. Not every shitty manipulative behavior or dishonesty is gaslighting. None of this is gaslighting.
maybe..it makes me feel anxious that I come across too strongly ?