Never feel guilty about wanting a monogamous relationship. If she feels this need to be open, those are hers only, and I'm betting she feels no guilt especially in trying to push you into it.
Usually there's already another person picked out or she's already has an AP and is looking to legitimize it.
Most open relationships start that way. Starting an open relationship after monogamy is almost disastrous.
What is the point of that? How is that beneficial to a marriage?
It is completely contradictory to the point of marriage.
It sounds like you both are in heavy denial and too sacred to end it.
Stop believing it’s incompatible and just make a stand for what you want. It’s time to get what you want from a relationship and if she’s not interested then find someone else.
Recently my mom visited us, and it became clear to me that while I really try to accommodate him and his family
It sucks that you didn't figure this one out before getting engaged….at least you learnt about it now.
He doesn't seem to understand how demanding it is for me and expects me to have a crazy high number of social interactions, or he feels like “I don't like his family”.
well, then how comes he's not made any effort so far? If it's that easy…..how comes he's not doing anything?
If she can't handle working now and calls in all the time how will she handle being a working mother? She won't. My guess is she wants to be a sahm so she doesn't have to deal with work anymore.
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All he heard was “ my ex was a firehose compared to you, pin dick the bug fucker”
Wanna make it up: Let him in the back door and it’ll be BIG and he’ll be happy
Wouldn't you rather be alive than in your culture's good graces?
Never feel guilty about wanting a monogamous relationship. If she feels this need to be open, those are hers only, and I'm betting she feels no guilt especially in trying to push you into it.
Usually there's already another person picked out or she's already has an AP and is looking to legitimize it.
Most open relationships start that way. Starting an open relationship after monogamy is almost disastrous.
What is the point of that? How is that beneficial to a marriage?
It is completely contradictory to the point of marriage.
It sounds like you both are in heavy denial and too sacred to end it.
Stop believing it’s incompatible and just make a stand for what you want. It’s time to get what you want from a relationship and if she’s not interested then find someone else.
Recently my mom visited us, and it became clear to me that while I really try to accommodate him and his family
It sucks that you didn't figure this one out before getting engaged….at least you learnt about it now.
He doesn't seem to understand how demanding it is for me and expects me to have a crazy high number of social interactions, or he feels like “I don't like his family”.
well, then how comes he's not made any effort so far? If it's that easy…..how comes he's not doing anything?
That's what i got too from what you shared. I just mentioned FWB as a sort of way to test the grounds…
If she can't handle working now and calls in all the time how will she handle being a working mother? She won't. My guess is she wants to be a sahm so she doesn't have to deal with work anymore.
It's easier to break up with a mommy's boy than to divorce a mommy's boy, either one is easier than changing a mommy's boy.
Find a man you don't need to fix.