If she’s not going to change, then they don’t need to stay together anyways. I glossed over bringing up her issues because at this point, I don’t think it matters. I think they both have deep resentment and negative feelings towards each other. And they’re likely better off without each other. Hopefully then maybe they can get some clarity and distance and start to heal on their own as individuals.
Why do people like you who realize your abusing a partner not just let that partner online their life because deep down inside you don’t love this person.
You one wouldn’t behave like this towards someone you love,
&Being it your first relationship your prolly just comfortable with the companionship but people who are in love don’t have to go to Reddit to ask how to treat a person they claim to love or be in a relationship with .
Or how to treat their bf “nicely” wtf go get therapy
Yeah. Honestly, this is also what my guts are telling me to do. Again, while I really appreciate everyone's comments, I do believe that he genuinely wants the best for me. I have experienced things in the past (bf who yelled at me during sex and cheated), and this.. This feels different. I really want to make it work, because I do still believe him. But yeah, I probably won't be comfortable doing anything intimate for a while, and I need time to rebuild my trust. So I really appreciate your advice.
I think that's just ridiculous that she can't go alone. Tell her you don't want to spend the $2K, but you'll accompany her if SHE will pay your fare. Let it be her decision.
No you are not in any way being selfish. People act like air travel is no concern when it comes to weddings. I'm very unsentimental about weddings, I realize, but so what if her good friend is getting married? You've seen one wedding, you've seen them all. This is amounting to a destination wedding for Mia, which offends my thrifty sensibilities. Hence why if it's THAT important to her, she should pay your way.
Especially since visitors are coming from Aus at Christmas the same year.
Well seems there’s emotional support/in jokes etc that he gets from her and not you. My guess is he may find u bossy/demanding at times and she isnt
If she’s not going to change, then they don’t need to stay together anyways. I glossed over bringing up her issues because at this point, I don’t think it matters. I think they both have deep resentment and negative feelings towards each other. And they’re likely better off without each other. Hopefully then maybe they can get some clarity and distance and start to heal on their own as individuals.
Seems like you're trusting this coworker a whole lot…
Why do people like you who realize your abusing a partner not just let that partner online their life because deep down inside you don’t love this person.
You one wouldn’t behave like this towards someone you love,
&Being it your first relationship your prolly just comfortable with the companionship but people who are in love don’t have to go to Reddit to ask how to treat a person they claim to love or be in a relationship with .
Or how to treat their bf “nicely” wtf go get therapy
Yeah. Honestly, this is also what my guts are telling me to do. Again, while I really appreciate everyone's comments, I do believe that he genuinely wants the best for me. I have experienced things in the past (bf who yelled at me during sex and cheated), and this.. This feels different. I really want to make it work, because I do still believe him. But yeah, I probably won't be comfortable doing anything intimate for a while, and I need time to rebuild my trust. So I really appreciate your advice.
Why do you want to be with someone who clearly doesnt have any respect for you?
I think that's just ridiculous that she can't go alone. Tell her you don't want to spend the $2K, but you'll accompany her if SHE will pay your fare. Let it be her decision.
No you are not in any way being selfish. People act like air travel is no concern when it comes to weddings. I'm very unsentimental about weddings, I realize, but so what if her good friend is getting married? You've seen one wedding, you've seen them all. This is amounting to a destination wedding for Mia, which offends my thrifty sensibilities. Hence why if it's THAT important to her, she should pay your way.
Especially since visitors are coming from Aus at Christmas the same year.