In my hometown growing up in the 80's, there was a woolen clothes shop run by an eccentric woman who had lots of dogs inside the shop. The shop and the dogs were never cleaned it seemed like, and you'd literally have to hold your breath passing by the door of the shop, it was an intense and quite offensive smell.
Permanent wet dog smell but turned up a thousand times.
Talking about your absolutely idiotic ass, thinking since you deleted posts about this same asinine thing we won’t see your comments on those posts. Grow up or leave that poor man alone.
I think you really need to think about what you're willing to accept and what you need in a fulfilling marriage. So set yourself a boundary he shouldn't cross or a goal that needs to be reached. For example if you sit him down and he admits that he only ever forced himself to have sex with you, but doesn't want to do that anymore anymore and you should just get over it because you're now married. Would you draw the line there, and get a divorce? If you sat down with him and demanded couples therapy but he would repeatedly refuse, would that be your line?
You need that line in the sand for your own sanity and well being. A happy marriage means that the couple is in tune with each others sexuality. Having a vastly different view on what to expect in a marriage can lead to resentment, especially if you're the one waiting for the partner to improve and being pulled along with “not now. Later. I need time. ” and so on. Your husband isn't telling you what is going on. Whether he is ashamed of something, whether there was some trauma in the past, if he lied to you and pretended to be more sexually in tune with you than he actually was (and yes that is lying) or something else. He needs to communicate this with his wife.
Sit him down when you've come to a conclusion where your line is and then communicate this to him. But if you do this, then you need to be fully okay with the consequences. No “I threatend divorce, but now i really want to wait a few more years for him to maybe come around.”
In my hometown growing up in the 80's, there was a woolen clothes shop run by an eccentric woman who had lots of dogs inside the shop. The shop and the dogs were never cleaned it seemed like, and you'd literally have to hold your breath passing by the door of the shop, it was an intense and quite offensive smell.
Permanent wet dog smell but turned up a thousand times.
Talking about your absolutely idiotic ass, thinking since you deleted posts about this same asinine thing we won’t see your comments on those posts. Grow up or leave that poor man alone.
This is it here. Get help.
You can't live until you're 80 with that kind of thing on your back. You have to resolve it. Either trust again, or divorce.
I get it. I got cheated on 7 years in, and we had a little boy. I stayed because I loved her and she left me anyway.
I think you really need to think about what you're willing to accept and what you need in a fulfilling marriage. So set yourself a boundary he shouldn't cross or a goal that needs to be reached. For example if you sit him down and he admits that he only ever forced himself to have sex with you, but doesn't want to do that anymore anymore and you should just get over it because you're now married. Would you draw the line there, and get a divorce? If you sat down with him and demanded couples therapy but he would repeatedly refuse, would that be your line?
You need that line in the sand for your own sanity and well being. A happy marriage means that the couple is in tune with each others sexuality. Having a vastly different view on what to expect in a marriage can lead to resentment, especially if you're the one waiting for the partner to improve and being pulled along with “not now. Later. I need time. ” and so on. Your husband isn't telling you what is going on. Whether he is ashamed of something, whether there was some trauma in the past, if he lied to you and pretended to be more sexually in tune with you than he actually was (and yes that is lying) or something else. He needs to communicate this with his wife.
Sit him down when you've come to a conclusion where your line is and then communicate this to him. But if you do this, then you need to be fully okay with the consequences. No “I threatend divorce, but now i really want to wait a few more years for him to maybe come around.”
OP absolutely will not reveal.
It must have been pretty awful
That's kind of where I'm at ?