Just be straight up, from what you said you were not in the wrong, and she should receive what you are saying, and understand and if she doesn’t, then she’s not that great of a partner in my opinion because she is taking advantage of the situation it sounds like… there’s no way I could let my husband work all day and while I do almost nothing around the house but sit on my phone. I work from home and I do 75% of the housework because I have plenty of time to do so…He works outside of the home & much longer hours than me and he still does the yardwork and helps cook and clean up the kitchen but that’s because he likes to do it not because he has to.
Just buy a simple band propose. Then go pick out a ring together. Every woman I know loves their engagement ring…. but there's always a “but…” after it. It's too chunky. It gets stuck in my hair. Etc etc. My friends would not have been able to pick out the perfect ring for me. But me and my BEST friend (aka my fiance) were able to pick the perfect one together. It was so much fun. She'll be wearing this the rest of her life. Let her have some input.
Last I checked, there are buses, taxis, Uber & Lyft availability, rides from her mother, rides from friends, transport cost sharing with co-workers, and any combination of all those options available to a person interested in getting to work. She lost that job to prove a point.
She’s letting anger and jealousy overtake rational thinking and responsibility — just like that 15 year old mindset you referenced.
Why are you jumping to incest? That’s so weird. Someone can’t share a bed with their sibling workout people thinking there is something sexual going on… that’s so odd. I find this incredibly unsettling; like you guys weren’t loved enough as children so you’re uncomfortable with closeness.
All the money in the world is not going to change the fact that his mask is slipping and he's going to abuse you. Please don't marry him. Don't let the sunk cost fallacy cloud your judgment. In you gut, you know this man is quite capable of physical violence against you. In the meantime, prepare for the gaslighting, manipulation, emotional and verbal abuse.
Right? My grandma helped me get my prescriptions and dropped me off at home after and I lived alone. I took a nap and after that, I was good to go. Everything I had to do was something I specifically needed to do, like brush my own teeth, gargle the special mouth wash, take my pills as needed, etc. i set it up so I’d be ok. I had soft foods easily available. And to be fair, my removal was not easy, 2 of my wisdom teeth were decayed and infected (so much fun) but I honestly could’ve gone to work the day after, I just figured since I took the time off, I’ll take the time off. She’s being very very extreme.
If you understood the difference, you'd probably view this behaviour differently. This situation is a completely standard thing that happens all the time for extremely obvious reasons. If you disagree, you probably don't take the threat of male violence as seriously as women do.
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Just be straight up, from what you said you were not in the wrong, and she should receive what you are saying, and understand and if she doesn’t, then she’s not that great of a partner in my opinion because she is taking advantage of the situation it sounds like… there’s no way I could let my husband work all day and while I do almost nothing around the house but sit on my phone. I work from home and I do 75% of the housework because I have plenty of time to do so…He works outside of the home & much longer hours than me and he still does the yardwork and helps cook and clean up the kitchen but that’s because he likes to do it not because he has to.
I played Russian roulette and am still alive. Does not mean the next round would not kill me.
My sis has PCOC, got pregnant with 20, one time with her new lover. Later tried with her husband for years, without it happens.
This is a good comment and makes the point that I was going to type. It was there however deep down.
Yes a phone can last 12 hours without the need to plug it in…
Just buy a simple band propose. Then go pick out a ring together. Every woman I know loves their engagement ring…. but there's always a “but…” after it. It's too chunky. It gets stuck in my hair. Etc etc. My friends would not have been able to pick out the perfect ring for me. But me and my BEST friend (aka my fiance) were able to pick the perfect one together. It was so much fun. She'll be wearing this the rest of her life. Let her have some input.
If she favetimes you with him and says she's cool with it, believe it. If she hasn't spoken to you, she doesn't know and wouldn't be cool with it.
Even after your edit…..what in the world????? That's still nuts. That's still like reporting to a warden, not your s/o.
If I want to stop by the park randomly for half an hour after work I gotta tell my gf? Good grief
Last I checked, there are buses, taxis, Uber & Lyft availability, rides from her mother, rides from friends, transport cost sharing with co-workers, and any combination of all those options available to a person interested in getting to work. She lost that job to prove a point.
She’s letting anger and jealousy overtake rational thinking and responsibility — just like that 15 year old mindset you referenced.
Why are you jumping to incest? That’s so weird. Someone can’t share a bed with their sibling workout people thinking there is something sexual going on… that’s so odd. I find this incredibly unsettling; like you guys weren’t loved enough as children so you’re uncomfortable with closeness.
All the money in the world is not going to change the fact that his mask is slipping and he's going to abuse you. Please don't marry him. Don't let the sunk cost fallacy cloud your judgment. In you gut, you know this man is quite capable of physical violence against you. In the meantime, prepare for the gaslighting, manipulation, emotional and verbal abuse.
Right? My grandma helped me get my prescriptions and dropped me off at home after and I lived alone. I took a nap and after that, I was good to go. Everything I had to do was something I specifically needed to do, like brush my own teeth, gargle the special mouth wash, take my pills as needed, etc. i set it up so I’d be ok. I had soft foods easily available. And to be fair, my removal was not easy, 2 of my wisdom teeth were decayed and infected (so much fun) but I honestly could’ve gone to work the day after, I just figured since I took the time off, I’ll take the time off. She’s being very very extreme.
If you understood the difference, you'd probably view this behaviour differently. This situation is a completely standard thing that happens all the time for extremely obvious reasons. If you disagree, you probably don't take the threat of male violence as seriously as women do.