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It is kind of a bummer to be honest. I'm sure I wasn't moving at her pace, but I was moving forward at what felt like a natural pace to me, and now it kind of just took the wind out of my sails. She's very scientific and practical about how she thinks about thinks, so I guess she doesn't mind, but it doesn't feel like the fun, romantic think I imagined would happen from my perspective.
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Because you’re hoping he will change & be better. He won’t. & if he does…why wait? Who knows how long that will take? A year? Two years? Ten years? Why wait?
Nude disagree about public tears. There are situations where you absolutely can’t hold back. You may be embarrassed about crying in front of people, but some people aren’t ashamed of their sensitivity or expressing their emotions. It’s not necessarily a bad thing.
RUNNNN! Leave this abusive relationship as quickly as possible. Do not pass go, do not collect $200. Run straight away from this today! Be gone tomorrow. Expecting snd update / check-in
Lots of things going on here… but yes, you definitely need to talk to him.
I would think it’s a red flag he didn’t want to discuss this to you already. This is a big decision to make without having spoken with you first.
Assuming he goes through with it and you’re ok with that, figure out your money situation. Are you planning on paying him rent or co-signing on the property? Keep in mind that you get nothing in return if you go the “rent” route, and worst case scenario you lose that money in a breakup. Equity is good.
Money aside, it seems like the things you want are being ignored. Even if you’re living there for free, what you want still matters. If you can’t see yourself being happy in this place, or if his future doesn’t align with yours, it’s better to break it off or find an alternative now than to figure this out down the road.
So this is kind of me. I didn't even realize I was doing it and she might not
It's absolutely terrible advice to just “bare through it” that will literally not help anything.
It's totally reasonable to let her know it's stressful for you to have her raise her voice to you, it's a natural human reaction, even if she isn't angry and just communicates like that. Acknowledge that her sounding angry with u is not the intention however impact is more important than intention and u don't like it
Just mention that you'll casually mention it in the future, if she could try and work on it, it would really help u in the long run
EDIT: for context, I’m not currently in the same area. I am currently staying with one of my friends, as I intended to break up a couple days ago.
So, you have broken up with him. You have left. You don't need to do anything in respect to him.
Breakups are not negotiations. You have moved out, and are staying with a friend. Send him one message “To be crystal clear, I am no longer in a relationship with you. I am done. I do not want to discuss this, I don't owe you any chances or closure or time. Do not contact me. Don't call me, don't email, don't try and send me messages through friends. If you try and find out where I am or confront me in person, I will call the police.”
And then block him on everything, be ready to keep blocking him when he makes fake profiles to stalk you on social media and send you emails etc.
Is this harsh? Yes, yes it is. And that's what it's going to take. You cannot be reasonable with an unreasonable person. And he's using you being reasonable against you, he has learned that you are so polite, that you will adjust your wants and needs to cater to his unreasonable demands… so he is unreasonable, and you cater to it. Stop doing that. Stop being polite, stop being kind, stop being nice. Stop being empathetic with him… all the good things you are with him he is using against you to manipulate you into doing what HE wants. He has you wrapped around his little finger.
Make sure your friends and family know you have broken up with him and you do NOT want to hear from him. Tell them he was abusive and manipulative and he may tell them sad stories about you and how worried he is or something like that, but that no matter what he say's, you do not want to hear from him. Tell them that if anyone does give out your location or try and help him contact you, you will cut that person out of your life permanently as well. Tell them if he threatens suicide or self harm, to call the police on him immediately, not you.
Vary your routine, don't go to the same places at the same times as you did when you were with him. If you worked out every Thursday, 7pm, change gyms and work out on Monday's instead. Don't take the same bus to work, don't walk the same routes. Don't go anywhere without your trusted people knowing where you are and when they can expect you to check in, ideally, don't go out without a trusted person. At least for a little while to you learn exactly what he will do after he realizes you have left.
You think you know him, but you do not. You do not truly know what he's capable of, and you won't find out till you've walked away. So protect yourself, assume the worst. Better to assume the worst and be paranoid for a few weeks than to think “he wouldn't really hurt me” and me wrong.
You do not owe him an explanation, you do not owe him any more chances. Relationships end the moment 1 person is done, and you're done. You DO just walk away.
You have done the naked part already, you're not physically with him. Just complete the job now, heal and move on.
And do NOT give in to feeling sorry for him and hearing him out or anything like that. He knows exactly how to manipulate you into doing what he wants, stop allowing him that time & space to get into your head and control you.
Agreed. I guess I feel like losing my best friend is a bit of an overreaction… We've talked a lot about this over the past few days and it's clear there are deeper issues that have existed longer than I've even known my friend. I can see a future where the fundamental problem is fixed and I can keep both my friend and my wife, but maybe I'm just living in a fairy tale ?
Yep, I met one of my best guy friends on a dating app and we started out as a fwb thing. Mutually agreed that wasn't working and it turned into a close friendship, because we deeply care for each other, just not in a physical sense. Since then we have shared rooms and even a bed, but nothing has ever happened.
Who does the grocery shopping? Could you two not buy cookies and chips and chocolate sauces? I know I have problems not eating snacks if they're in the house, so there are certain things I don't buy.
You realise the vast majority of people can’t control what they dream about, right?
Of course she didn’t respond, and I’m assuming it was an uncomfortable moment based on the, “I knew the answer but I let it go.” Why would she want to tell literally anyone her ex kidnapped her in her dream?
I think that would be uncomfortable for a lot of people and I completely understand that she felt it might have caused a problem…as you’re literally now questioning whether or not she’s “seeking closure” or is “unfulfilled”.
You’re showing us with this post why she didn’t want to bring it up.
Sometimes people dream about people from their past. It’s one of those things. It literally means nothing and you Googling dream explanations really isn’t the way to go. Are you really going to let a dream she didn’t choose make you this insecure?
It is kind of a bummer to be honest. I'm sure I wasn't moving at her pace, but I was moving forward at what felt like a natural pace to me, and now it kind of just took the wind out of my sails. She's very scientific and practical about how she thinks about thinks, so I guess she doesn't mind, but it doesn't feel like the fun, romantic think I imagined would happen from my perspective.
Cheaters can be so digusting.
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Because you’re hoping he will change & be better. He won’t. & if he does…why wait? Who knows how long that will take? A year? Two years? Ten years? Why wait?
Nude disagree about public tears. There are situations where you absolutely can’t hold back. You may be embarrassed about crying in front of people, but some people aren’t ashamed of their sensitivity or expressing their emotions. It’s not necessarily a bad thing.
RUNNNN! Leave this abusive relationship as quickly as possible. Do not pass go, do not collect $200. Run straight away from this today! Be gone tomorrow. Expecting snd update / check-in
Leave, he is plain stupid and dissing you constantly.
And now what's the issue? He doesn't want to read it and you can't force him. He doesn't have to read your erotic fiction.
You enjoy writing it. You can share it with people willing to read it.
Lots of things going on here… but yes, you definitely need to talk to him.
I would think it’s a red flag he didn’t want to discuss this to you already. This is a big decision to make without having spoken with you first.
Assuming he goes through with it and you’re ok with that, figure out your money situation. Are you planning on paying him rent or co-signing on the property? Keep in mind that you get nothing in return if you go the “rent” route, and worst case scenario you lose that money in a breakup. Equity is good.
Money aside, it seems like the things you want are being ignored. Even if you’re living there for free, what you want still matters. If you can’t see yourself being happy in this place, or if his future doesn’t align with yours, it’s better to break it off or find an alternative now than to figure this out down the road.
THIS!!!!
So this is kind of me. I didn't even realize I was doing it and she might not
It's absolutely terrible advice to just “bare through it” that will literally not help anything.
It's totally reasonable to let her know it's stressful for you to have her raise her voice to you, it's a natural human reaction, even if she isn't angry and just communicates like that. Acknowledge that her sounding angry with u is not the intention however impact is more important than intention and u don't like it
Just mention that you'll casually mention it in the future, if she could try and work on it, it would really help u in the long run
Again, you’re doing that for yourself which is a bit selfish imo
EDIT: for context, I’m not currently in the same area. I am currently staying with one of my friends, as I intended to break up a couple days ago.
So, you have broken up with him. You have left. You don't need to do anything in respect to him.
Breakups are not negotiations. You have moved out, and are staying with a friend. Send him one message “To be crystal clear, I am no longer in a relationship with you. I am done. I do not want to discuss this, I don't owe you any chances or closure or time. Do not contact me. Don't call me, don't email, don't try and send me messages through friends. If you try and find out where I am or confront me in person, I will call the police.”
And then block him on everything, be ready to keep blocking him when he makes fake profiles to stalk you on social media and send you emails etc.
Is this harsh? Yes, yes it is. And that's what it's going to take. You cannot be reasonable with an unreasonable person. And he's using you being reasonable against you, he has learned that you are so polite, that you will adjust your wants and needs to cater to his unreasonable demands… so he is unreasonable, and you cater to it. Stop doing that. Stop being polite, stop being kind, stop being nice. Stop being empathetic with him… all the good things you are with him he is using against you to manipulate you into doing what HE wants. He has you wrapped around his little finger.
Make sure your friends and family know you have broken up with him and you do NOT want to hear from him. Tell them he was abusive and manipulative and he may tell them sad stories about you and how worried he is or something like that, but that no matter what he say's, you do not want to hear from him. Tell them that if anyone does give out your location or try and help him contact you, you will cut that person out of your life permanently as well. Tell them if he threatens suicide or self harm, to call the police on him immediately, not you.
Vary your routine, don't go to the same places at the same times as you did when you were with him. If you worked out every Thursday, 7pm, change gyms and work out on Monday's instead. Don't take the same bus to work, don't walk the same routes. Don't go anywhere without your trusted people knowing where you are and when they can expect you to check in, ideally, don't go out without a trusted person. At least for a little while to you learn exactly what he will do after he realizes you have left.
You think you know him, but you do not. You do not truly know what he's capable of, and you won't find out till you've walked away. So protect yourself, assume the worst. Better to assume the worst and be paranoid for a few weeks than to think “he wouldn't really hurt me” and me wrong.
You do not owe him an explanation, you do not owe him any more chances. Relationships end the moment 1 person is done, and you're done. You DO just walk away.
You have done the naked part already, you're not physically with him. Just complete the job now, heal and move on.
And do NOT give in to feeling sorry for him and hearing him out or anything like that. He knows exactly how to manipulate you into doing what he wants, stop allowing him that time & space to get into your head and control you.
Good luck, you deserve better.
Agreed. I guess I feel like losing my best friend is a bit of an overreaction… We've talked a lot about this over the past few days and it's clear there are deeper issues that have existed longer than I've even known my friend. I can see a future where the fundamental problem is fixed and I can keep both my friend and my wife, but maybe I'm just living in a fairy tale ?
Yep, I met one of my best guy friends on a dating app and we started out as a fwb thing. Mutually agreed that wasn't working and it turned into a close friendship, because we deeply care for each other, just not in a physical sense. Since then we have shared rooms and even a bed, but nothing has ever happened.
That breaks my heart
Who does the grocery shopping? Could you two not buy cookies and chips and chocolate sauces? I know I have problems not eating snacks if they're in the house, so there are certain things I don't buy.
You realise the vast majority of people can’t control what they dream about, right?
Of course she didn’t respond, and I’m assuming it was an uncomfortable moment based on the, “I knew the answer but I let it go.” Why would she want to tell literally anyone her ex kidnapped her in her dream?
I think that would be uncomfortable for a lot of people and I completely understand that she felt it might have caused a problem…as you’re literally now questioning whether or not she’s “seeking closure” or is “unfulfilled”.
You’re showing us with this post why she didn’t want to bring it up.
Sometimes people dream about people from their past. It’s one of those things. It literally means nothing and you Googling dream explanations really isn’t the way to go. Are you really going to let a dream she didn’t choose make you this insecure?
So do I have a chance with her or….?