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I may have been able to let slide the fact that this is obviously fake, if only it were written well. But it's like a bad creative writing assignment written by a 5th grade. Don't quit your day job, OP.
Wait, only 9 months together with 2 years apart from each other in perspective? Are you mad, it's never going to work. Even if you decide to stay one of you will change their mind, but not before both you will suffer as a result of this unhealthy arrangement.
Do you two go on dates regularly? Do you have that emotional intimacy still? What makes her feel loved? What’s makes you feel loved?
She might be depressed, she might want more from you but is reluctant to communicate that with you, she might just be stressed about finances and doesn’t mind the state of your relationship.
I know you just want to vent, I hear you and you are totally valid. I’m also so sorry she’s cheated on you in the past, you deserve better than that. But I think you should consider going to counseling together. If she refuses, suggest individual therapy, if that’s a no then have a serious conversation about your relationship.
It sounds like you are “put on a shelf” for his convenience. He doesn’t make you a priority and clearly thinks of your time and emotions aren’t important. Sad truth is that if he cared he would make you a priority.
I don't think you two should meet. There's a danger of getting sucked in. And I definitely don't think the two of you should get back together and even marry.
There's a reason you had to get away from him, and frankly, I doubt he has changed all that much, even if you have.
If you still don't want this advice, send me your phone number. I'll get on the phone with you and “communicate” by yelling at you. You can see if you still like it!
Don't do it OP. You're going to regret it. If your gut is telling you no follow it. Your husband is trying to intimidate you into agreeing. It seems likes he's ready to cheat abd that's not right either.
Yes.
I also agree with this view. I'm gonna give it a shot, but will explain I'm probably not down for kid stuff later.
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I may have been able to let slide the fact that this is obviously fake, if only it were written well. But it's like a bad creative writing assignment written by a 5th grade. Don't quit your day job, OP.
Wait, only 9 months together with 2 years apart from each other in perspective? Are you mad, it's never going to work. Even if you decide to stay one of you will change their mind, but not before both you will suffer as a result of this unhealthy arrangement.
Lawyering is tricky. I mean security guards might have a better chance at having stable work than some lawyers.
Do you two go on dates regularly? Do you have that emotional intimacy still? What makes her feel loved? What’s makes you feel loved?
She might be depressed, she might want more from you but is reluctant to communicate that with you, she might just be stressed about finances and doesn’t mind the state of your relationship.
I know you just want to vent, I hear you and you are totally valid. I’m also so sorry she’s cheated on you in the past, you deserve better than that. But I think you should consider going to counseling together. If she refuses, suggest individual therapy, if that’s a no then have a serious conversation about your relationship.
Dude
She's spent time flirting w you
And come over to spend alone time “watching a movie”
That is universaly known aa space to make a move. If you don't she feels rejected and pushes away. It's very simple.
You fucked it up and you can fix it – you just need to go and be honest w her and ask for another shot.
As far as rapey – I will say I would not want to be a kid dating in this age because of hypersensitivity BUT she gave you the green light.
all you need to do is be aware that she may want to stop at any time. And when that happens you say ok, and go back to where she is comfortable.
Start with cuddles
You're going to have to trust me on this one
It sounds like you are “put on a shelf” for his convenience. He doesn’t make you a priority and clearly thinks of your time and emotions aren’t important. Sad truth is that if he cared he would make you a priority.
I don't think you two should meet. There's a danger of getting sucked in. And I definitely don't think the two of you should get back together and even marry.
There's a reason you had to get away from him, and frankly, I doubt he has changed all that much, even if you have.
If you still don't want this advice, send me your phone number. I'll get on the phone with you and “communicate” by yelling at you. You can see if you still like it!
Whether or not you call it one, you're still in a relationship. It sounds like this could get painful.
Don't do it OP. You're going to regret it. If your gut is telling you no follow it. Your husband is trying to intimidate you into agreeing. It seems likes he's ready to cheat abd that's not right either.