Hi OP, my abusive ex treated me fairly similarly and I can say that how he treats you is emotionally abusive. He should not be berating or belittling you; if his first reaction to you two having a disagreement is to put you in the wrong and speak down to you, he needs help (but not from you.) No matter how you respond to him, he finds a way to take it negatively and make you the person responsible for all the problems; he’s using you as a scapegoat or proverbial punching bag.
He also may be trying to neg you- my ex would routinely tell me what my problems and failings were and compare me to others. I did better than her in school, but she would still constantly call me “stupid”. If your bf is in any way like her, then he’s incredibly insecure and uses this to put other people down as a way of making him look better in comparison. He needs to go to therapy, but I doubt he’ll ever admit he’s the problem to start.
You aren’t making sense. Even though OP never stated what her religion was or said a damn thing about religion at all, AND her and the fiancé can’t be too religious as they have been fucking for the past 9 years out of wedlock; she MUST have completely fabricated what happened to her at a party over 9 years ago while telling the story recently, because she’s a religious freak?
OP said they’d just worked a 24 hour shift. Perhaps the reason they haven’t commented is because OP went to bed after working a 24 hour shift. Like a lot of us would.
Ooh, so she tripped, derealised and landed on a penis? Riiight.
It’s sweet that you’re concerned for her well-being even after she took an opportunity to have sex with another man behind your back, but there’s a fine line between being caring and being taken for a mug.. I’d be wondering which side of that line I was on if I were you.
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He doesn’t care. Leave him.
Hi OP, my abusive ex treated me fairly similarly and I can say that how he treats you is emotionally abusive. He should not be berating or belittling you; if his first reaction to you two having a disagreement is to put you in the wrong and speak down to you, he needs help (but not from you.) No matter how you respond to him, he finds a way to take it negatively and make you the person responsible for all the problems; he’s using you as a scapegoat or proverbial punching bag.
He also may be trying to neg you- my ex would routinely tell me what my problems and failings were and compare me to others. I did better than her in school, but she would still constantly call me “stupid”. If your bf is in any way like her, then he’s incredibly insecure and uses this to put other people down as a way of making him look better in comparison. He needs to go to therapy, but I doubt he’ll ever admit he’s the problem to start.
I'm trying that. For weeks now. And I won't push it. I just don't know if that's what she really wants since neither is saying anything
I came here to vent and get kind advices
You aren’t making sense. Even though OP never stated what her religion was or said a damn thing about religion at all, AND her and the fiancé can’t be too religious as they have been fucking for the past 9 years out of wedlock; she MUST have completely fabricated what happened to her at a party over 9 years ago while telling the story recently, because she’s a religious freak?
OP said they’d just worked a 24 hour shift. Perhaps the reason they haven’t commented is because OP went to bed after working a 24 hour shift. Like a lot of us would.
Ooh, so she tripped, derealised and landed on a penis? Riiight.
It’s sweet that you’re concerned for her well-being even after she took an opportunity to have sex with another man behind your back, but there’s a fine line between being caring and being taken for a mug.. I’d be wondering which side of that line I was on if I were you.