I don't know how likely it is that cocaine caused your friends delusions, or if they are due to underlying mental illness. These paranoid delusions are exactly typical of someone with schizophrenia. I'm not diagnosing him, just indicating that his mental status is very seriously altered and abnormal.
You are right that this is crazy stuff. Part of my opinion is to make sure you are protected, and part is to understand that you want to remain helpful to your friend. Since he gets angry when you confront him with the unreality of his thoughts, you probably should avoid being alone with him; it is unlikely he will seek psychiatric help on your advice. Maybe continue a friendship but only in public places like a cafe. If you choose not to see him any more, that is all right as well. It sounds like you need to focus on taking care of yourself and not be so invested in your friend's mental health.
You know she’s been cheating- probably getting to work early to be with that person. So sorry but you can do this! Please get yourself together and get a lawyer and make plans for an exit. Good luck
Return the money and break up with him. He used your insecurities that you felt comfortable sharing with him against you. There is no coming back from the trust you’ve lost in him.
The problem is you never developed your personal strength and power, which you still need to do.
You say when you don't “set boundaries” (empty buzz phrase), she does. She claim you think she might be trying to control you. No, she just is assertive and strong in her personhood.
The time to learn strength would have been when you were dealing with bullies and growing up in general.
You don't need to worry about setting boundaries with girlfriend; you need to learn courage and strength. The fact that you are even scared to voice things she doesn't like is quite sad and dysfunctional. You might need a male therapist to coach you at this point.
Block him. I have no respect for those who start feeling like they are better than their partner over something relatively superficial. He is trying to keep you as a backup.
I imagine it’s because a lot of women get brought up in a way in which cultural expectations dictate they should keep their house tidy and clean to considered good human beings. It’s usually women who get judged especially in certain cultures and in certain older age groups of the house isn’t in good shape.
Having said all that if someone could come and clean and tidy for me I would feel the opposite of bad.
Thanks I appreciate your comment. I do think that there’s nothing wrong with having one, I guess I was just not expecting him to have one, and for him to bring it up like that.
Best answer!
I don't know how likely it is that cocaine caused your friends delusions, or if they are due to underlying mental illness. These paranoid delusions are exactly typical of someone with schizophrenia. I'm not diagnosing him, just indicating that his mental status is very seriously altered and abnormal.
You are right that this is crazy stuff. Part of my opinion is to make sure you are protected, and part is to understand that you want to remain helpful to your friend. Since he gets angry when you confront him with the unreality of his thoughts, you probably should avoid being alone with him; it is unlikely he will seek psychiatric help on your advice. Maybe continue a friendship but only in public places like a cafe. If you choose not to see him any more, that is all right as well. It sounds like you need to focus on taking care of yourself and not be so invested in your friend's mental health.
You know she’s been cheating- probably getting to work early to be with that person. So sorry but you can do this! Please get yourself together and get a lawyer and make plans for an exit. Good luck
I didn’t say you were a cop. I was using “you”’in the general sense
Return the money and break up with him. He used your insecurities that you felt comfortable sharing with him against you. There is no coming back from the trust you’ve lost in him.
The problem is you never developed your personal strength and power, which you still need to do.
You say when you don't “set boundaries” (empty buzz phrase), she does. She claim you think she might be trying to control you. No, she just is assertive and strong in her personhood.
The time to learn strength would have been when you were dealing with bullies and growing up in general.
You don't need to worry about setting boundaries with girlfriend; you need to learn courage and strength. The fact that you are even scared to voice things she doesn't like is quite sad and dysfunctional. You might need a male therapist to coach you at this point.
Start watching stand up! I highly recommend Dan Cummins. He is hilarious.
I'd get screen shots just in case
Block him. I have no respect for those who start feeling like they are better than their partner over something relatively superficial. He is trying to keep you as a backup.
I imagine it’s because a lot of women get brought up in a way in which cultural expectations dictate they should keep their house tidy and clean to considered good human beings. It’s usually women who get judged especially in certain cultures and in certain older age groups of the house isn’t in good shape.
Having said all that if someone could come and clean and tidy for me I would feel the opposite of bad.
Thanks so much, I'll look it up. Cheers.
Thanks I appreciate your comment. I do think that there’s nothing wrong with having one, I guess I was just not expecting him to have one, and for him to bring it up like that.