Most men see therapy as a weakness. So getting him to go alone or with you probably won’t happen. Has he always been like this or just since the vasectomy? If it’s because of the vasectomy, he’s probably depressed himself because his penis doesn’t work anymore. Maybe try to talk to him about what’s going on with him. “Honey, are you alright? You’ve been different in XYZ way and I just wanna check on you. How can I help?” And has the conversation progresses, hopefully, you’ll be able to talk to him about you
My partner is Asian and has asked me several times why I won't visit or talk to my parents. I remind him that it's a choice and what they did to me doesn't deserve forgiveness.
He is just sad that I'm not close to them and that it's not something he he has ever experienced.
There are some very innocent fantasies e.g. cop and prisoner.
But this type of fantasy I would not be happy with entertaining at all. I would always be feeling urgh that I’m not everything to her. Personally dealbreaker but your choice
Op communication with your wife for how you want things like this to go in the future is key. As with any issues regarding your kids you have to communicate with her. That said my little girl 3. Loves the shower or bath anytime she hears the water she tries to take one with the person. She loves bath time. She has stripped off herself and knocked on the shower door with both me and my mom. Also with her sister (9). It is just convenient when the child does take one with mom or this case grandma cause 1 mom got a break and 2 they probably wanted it and as a parent myself I will never tell my kid no you can’t take a bath/shower.
I see. Except that I actually had the full intention to stay. I’ve always thought that people would fight for what they want, make a move, make an attempt, or have a back-up plan if their current plan fail. I didn’t see any of those, so I really thought that he just didn’t care at all about me as a person, but rather just wanna find someone who has all the labels and tags that he’s looking for. Am I misunderstanding the situation?
Frankly, I have no clue. Plus the last partner I was with that I had to use that option with was many years ago. But hey, parenthood was the planned result. 🙂
But in this specific case she may be not that wrong. You know that she rather be with you than without you. So the only thing which she can do more is to make the decision for you. And she understandably does not want to make it.
You are being financially, emotionally, and verbally abused.
Please get in contact with your local domestic violence shelter and have your direct deposit put into a new account at an unrelated bank account. Switch it without telling him via contacting your employer.
My husband and I share all our money in one account so it’s never really one paying for the other. We don’t really say thank you if we eat out because… it’s OUR money. But if one of us picks up take out or goes to the grocery store to get stuff for dinner when we wanted a specific thing we say thank you. Before we shared money, we always said thank you if the other paid, even though it was very even taking turns. Is it possible she sees your money as “our”?
Maybe a Sand?
Most men see therapy as a weakness. So getting him to go alone or with you probably won’t happen. Has he always been like this or just since the vasectomy? If it’s because of the vasectomy, he’s probably depressed himself because his penis doesn’t work anymore. Maybe try to talk to him about what’s going on with him. “Honey, are you alright? You’ve been different in XYZ way and I just wanna check on you. How can I help?” And has the conversation progresses, hopefully, you’ll be able to talk to him about you
I agree with zealous. See if he would be willing to bring dad with if dad wants to go. It could go a long way!
Hi, thank you so much for this I really appreciate you
My partner is Asian and has asked me several times why I won't visit or talk to my parents. I remind him that it's a choice and what they did to me doesn't deserve forgiveness.
He is just sad that I'm not close to them and that it's not something he he has ever experienced.
However your bf is a dick.
There are some very innocent fantasies e.g. cop and prisoner.
But this type of fantasy I would not be happy with entertaining at all. I would always be feeling urgh that I’m not everything to her. Personally dealbreaker but your choice
Op communication with your wife for how you want things like this to go in the future is key. As with any issues regarding your kids you have to communicate with her. That said my little girl 3. Loves the shower or bath anytime she hears the water she tries to take one with the person. She loves bath time. She has stripped off herself and knocked on the shower door with both me and my mom. Also with her sister (9). It is just convenient when the child does take one with mom or this case grandma cause 1 mom got a break and 2 they probably wanted it and as a parent myself I will never tell my kid no you can’t take a bath/shower.
I see. Except that I actually had the full intention to stay. I’ve always thought that people would fight for what they want, make a move, make an attempt, or have a back-up plan if their current plan fail. I didn’t see any of those, so I really thought that he just didn’t care at all about me as a person, but rather just wanna find someone who has all the labels and tags that he’s looking for. Am I misunderstanding the situation?
She wants you to get one too. So do it. Then you can ????
Yes. You should. It’s been 3 months. You’re just asking for a date. Why not?
Frankly, I have no clue. Plus the last partner I was with that I had to use that option with was many years ago. But hey, parenthood was the planned result. 🙂
Just a woman being woman.
But in this specific case she may be not that wrong. You know that she rather be with you than without you. So the only thing which she can do more is to make the decision for you. And she understandably does not want to make it.
Wow, this got terrifying fast.
You are being financially, emotionally, and verbally abused.
Please get in contact with your local domestic violence shelter and have your direct deposit put into a new account at an unrelated bank account. Switch it without telling him via contacting your employer.
They're both animal abusers. I would have kicked my partner out before I would have allowed them to actively abuse a cat in front of me.
My husband and I share all our money in one account so it’s never really one paying for the other. We don’t really say thank you if we eat out because… it’s OUR money. But if one of us picks up take out or goes to the grocery store to get stuff for dinner when we wanted a specific thing we say thank you. Before we shared money, we always said thank you if the other paid, even though it was very even taking turns. Is it possible she sees your money as “our”?
I'd let him know unless he can articulate a satisfactory payment plan you will be taking him to small claims court.