So I'm going to be honest. If you stay nothing will change. It will always be on you to accommodate their perfection. If the dogs had bitten the child, I would be on her side, even if were the kid's fault. These are just things and the natural consequence of not taking care of things is that they get destroyed. It was incredibly generous of you to replace his favorite things. Depending on how long he had lived with the dogs and how often we had discussed leaving things out, I might have not allowed you to replace them if I were his mother. I was a single mother, I don't think it's a bad idea to date single mothers but you can not be their whipping boy. It is unsustainable for you and toxic for the child.
Neither of my parents were abusive but I think they would have both been happier if they’d gone their separate ways at some point. I never said anything either. Maybe don’t suggest a divorce but ask him outright if he’s happy. If that’s the way he wants to spend the rest of his life. That abuse is not a normal way to online
Right. We tend to think of bad behaviors as an identity- rather than saying someone cheats, we characterize them as A Cheater. Which makes it easy to give yourself a pass on those behaviors- nobody ever thinks of themselves as A Cheater, because of course they would never! So they don't shut down the behaviors that set the stage for cheating (i.e. the “testing”) and they don't stop themselves from entering situations where they would have the opportunity. From there it's trivially easy to end up at, “Fuck it, might as well,” or “Just a quick little [hug/leg touch/kiss/whatever], no big deal, it doesn't mean anything.”
Thank you
Lol man she couldn’t make it more easier for you to drop the feelings you had for her.
I doubt it was conversations he was interested in at all
So I'm going to be honest. If you stay nothing will change. It will always be on you to accommodate their perfection. If the dogs had bitten the child, I would be on her side, even if were the kid's fault. These are just things and the natural consequence of not taking care of things is that they get destroyed. It was incredibly generous of you to replace his favorite things. Depending on how long he had lived with the dogs and how often we had discussed leaving things out, I might have not allowed you to replace them if I were his mother. I was a single mother, I don't think it's a bad idea to date single mothers but you can not be their whipping boy. It is unsustainable for you and toxic for the child.
No, I didn't get antibiotics prescribed after getting all 4 removed. Just an unnecessary bottle of percocet.
My opinion
Your ex is an ass.
Neither of my parents were abusive but I think they would have both been happier if they’d gone their separate ways at some point. I never said anything either. Maybe don’t suggest a divorce but ask him outright if he’s happy. If that’s the way he wants to spend the rest of his life. That abuse is not a normal way to online
Right. We tend to think of bad behaviors as an identity- rather than saying someone cheats, we characterize them as A Cheater. Which makes it easy to give yourself a pass on those behaviors- nobody ever thinks of themselves as A Cheater, because of course they would never! So they don't shut down the behaviors that set the stage for cheating (i.e. the “testing”) and they don't stop themselves from entering situations where they would have the opportunity. From there it's trivially easy to end up at, “Fuck it, might as well,” or “Just a quick little [hug/leg touch/kiss/whatever], no big deal, it doesn't mean anything.”