Okay granted idk your weight and height, but as a female who has competed in bodybuilding competitions 1200 calories is pretty slow and you don’t need to do anything that drastic to see results. I also hate the idea of losing weight just for your husband, if you have your own personal goals I’m more than happy to give some suggestions and tips, but this sounds like your husband is controlling. If weight loss is your goal your husband should be supportive and trying to make it a lifestyle change to both of your lives and doing activities with you or cooking meals with you, not just mocking you and making you feel bad.
I’m open minded , I’m listening and taking in everything that’s said. I’m not perfect nor is anyone else. And I definitely know it could fail. No matter what, I have already been through worse, I do believe that. So when the signs are shown, he’s out. But I believe SOME people deserve a second chance, and to me, he means a lot to me, so I’m going to give him that. Not a third. But you never know, this could turn out the exact opposite of what most are observing from the outside & predicting (which I understand why).
i mean I definitely asked WHEN i would be able to see her and it felt like she was giving me the run around but no I didn’t exactly ask her if she was free on a certain day or plan something and state this is what we’re doing lol. Looking back at it, I definitely could’ve been more forward with my intentions and how I wanted to take her on a date and all of that lmao.
Thank you for the advice. Unfortunately I’ve brought up their closeness multiple times a week and she continues to justify it by calling it mindless. It’s still energy that she’s reciprocating to him and being vague with me. I never wanted to give her an ultimatum because her ex was very manipulative and controlling. She’s saying that I’m behaving like he is now and that’s why it seems like I need to just be ok with everything. We’re both exhausted and neither of us can put up with it anymore. I expect her to change, she expects me to be ok with everything. Neither are happening
If you can't ever trust her then yes, leave her. If you ask what is reasonable in such dituation however, this is a different matter.
She was drunk, this I can guarantee can make people do things they would never do while sober. People also react differently to being drunk.
Personally, I don't think this alone should lose your trust to her permanently. Your trust to her staying faithful while heavily drunk though, should be lost forever. With that said as long as she agrees to stop getting drunk it should be fine. If she really likes it you could still get drunk in a safe environment only when in safe environment with you, and only close friends present.
There is no reason to distrust her sober self so far, right? If she agrees to stay sober outside of very specific situations, I would try to get over this, and give her the benefit of the doubt. Stop going through her messages, and closely control her behaviour in general. Perhaps therapy and/or couple counselling may be able to help in this.
Stop being afraid you will be alone because of your age and go find a guy who knows what he is doing lol
Okay granted idk your weight and height, but as a female who has competed in bodybuilding competitions 1200 calories is pretty slow and you don’t need to do anything that drastic to see results. I also hate the idea of losing weight just for your husband, if you have your own personal goals I’m more than happy to give some suggestions and tips, but this sounds like your husband is controlling. If weight loss is your goal your husband should be supportive and trying to make it a lifestyle change to both of your lives and doing activities with you or cooking meals with you, not just mocking you and making you feel bad.
I’m open minded , I’m listening and taking in everything that’s said. I’m not perfect nor is anyone else. And I definitely know it could fail. No matter what, I have already been through worse, I do believe that. So when the signs are shown, he’s out. But I believe SOME people deserve a second chance, and to me, he means a lot to me, so I’m going to give him that. Not a third. But you never know, this could turn out the exact opposite of what most are observing from the outside & predicting (which I understand why).
If you have balls check to see if they receded into your body
if you dont have balls you might as well cut them off if you ever take them back
Id sooner eat shit from a plate with a fork and knife and wash it down with nude piss then SPEAK to that woman again let alone date her
She
Tried to leave with a random guy
Got mad at you when you tried to stop her from fucking a random guy
Physically assaulted you and told you that she can do what she wants – which is to FUCK ANOTHER GUY
SHE WANTS TO FUCK OTHER GUYS and not a close friend or a co-worker as if that makes it better but NOPE she wants to fuck a RANDO from a club.
You had to make a post to Reddit to ask advice about this?
A kid in high school would know to dump the cunt
Do it at her place. She will be able to cry in peace and you will be able to make the exit any time you want without kicking her out.
Bruh moments, I'm out lmao.
i mean I definitely asked WHEN i would be able to see her and it felt like she was giving me the run around but no I didn’t exactly ask her if she was free on a certain day or plan something and state this is what we’re doing lol. Looking back at it, I definitely could’ve been more forward with my intentions and how I wanted to take her on a date and all of that lmao.
You can and should end the relationship.
Thank you for the advice. Unfortunately I’ve brought up their closeness multiple times a week and she continues to justify it by calling it mindless. It’s still energy that she’s reciprocating to him and being vague with me. I never wanted to give her an ultimatum because her ex was very manipulative and controlling. She’s saying that I’m behaving like he is now and that’s why it seems like I need to just be ok with everything. We’re both exhausted and neither of us can put up with it anymore. I expect her to change, she expects me to be ok with everything. Neither are happening
If you can't ever trust her then yes, leave her. If you ask what is reasonable in such dituation however, this is a different matter.
She was drunk, this I can guarantee can make people do things they would never do while sober. People also react differently to being drunk.
Personally, I don't think this alone should lose your trust to her permanently. Your trust to her staying faithful while heavily drunk though, should be lost forever. With that said as long as she agrees to stop getting drunk it should be fine. If she really likes it you could still get drunk in a safe environment only when in safe environment with you, and only close friends present.
There is no reason to distrust her sober self so far, right? If she agrees to stay sober outside of very specific situations, I would try to get over this, and give her the benefit of the doubt. Stop going through her messages, and closely control her behaviour in general. Perhaps therapy and/or couple counselling may be able to help in this.