I'm curious as to why you view it solely as disrespect and lack of trust when people are wholly fallible? Not to say I don't see your point, mfs just curious.
If you want to keep the baby and are certain you want it even without him, that’s your choice, but please don’t keep it hoping your partner will change his mind.
Pregnancy and babies are so difficult and you already have a child together. If he isn’t staying now he won’t change his mind with the addition of a second child.
My advice would be to focus on yourself and the child you have. You’re still young and it’s better to be free of someone who doesn’t value you.
If your wife was as great as you say she was, she would be so grateful that you found someone that would treat your kids the way she did! As parents, we should all hope for that in the event that the worst happens. Encourage your gf to carry on your wife's traditions with the kids. That can help keep her memory alive.
I mean she said she’s bad with financies and wants to give me access to all her bank accounts etc so I can manage them better. She has adhd so she forgets to pay bills etc and pays late fees and I’m the opposite financially
She said she's been dating older men for two years and leaves when those expectations aren't met and that the current guy has treated her better than other guys. Let's give her the benefit of the doubt and let's not assume all older guys dating younger women are groomers, there are some genuinely healthy age gap relationships out there. Not every older guy is Leonardo Decaprio where they only date younger women.
What doesn’t add up is that she expects him to pay to move & all associated costs, and to spend more money every month so that she’s in a more comfortable living situation. More palatable would be if she just wanted to move in with him & pay the $1200/month she can afford. However, she’s deciding what he should be willing to spend and on what. I find her demands fairly strident.
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I'm curious as to why you view it solely as disrespect and lack of trust when people are wholly fallible? Not to say I don't see your point, mfs just curious.
If you want to keep the baby and are certain you want it even without him, that’s your choice, but please don’t keep it hoping your partner will change his mind.
Pregnancy and babies are so difficult and you already have a child together. If he isn’t staying now he won’t change his mind with the addition of a second child.
My advice would be to focus on yourself and the child you have. You’re still young and it’s better to be free of someone who doesn’t value you.
But the equivalent of ghosting is going radio silent for an unlimited period. Sick leave will have a limit.
Wow, you are overreacting. Also, don’t ask questions of your man that you don’t want the answers to.
If your wife was as great as you say she was, she would be so grateful that you found someone that would treat your kids the way she did! As parents, we should all hope for that in the event that the worst happens. Encourage your gf to carry on your wife's traditions with the kids. That can help keep her memory alive.
I mean she said she’s bad with financies and wants to give me access to all her bank accounts etc so I can manage them better. She has adhd so she forgets to pay bills etc and pays late fees and I’m the opposite financially
She said she's been dating older men for two years and leaves when those expectations aren't met and that the current guy has treated her better than other guys. Let's give her the benefit of the doubt and let's not assume all older guys dating younger women are groomers, there are some genuinely healthy age gap relationships out there. Not every older guy is Leonardo Decaprio where they only date younger women.
What doesn’t add up is that she expects him to pay to move & all associated costs, and to spend more money every month so that she’s in a more comfortable living situation. More palatable would be if she just wanted to move in with him & pay the $1200/month she can afford. However, she’s deciding what he should be willing to spend and on what. I find her demands fairly strident.
You get over him by getting under someone else