It’s not the worst thing in the world, with messy situations like that, no one really is a winner if they come out on top. There will be massive complications in addition.
OP, I want you to know how much I admire how considerate you are in wanting to make him happy. You are a thoughtful, loving partner, and I hope you're able to be with someone who adores you just as much. You are worthy of and deserve all the love and affection. Thank you for being a light. ❤️
I have made dialogue. On multiple occasions, like I said on the post as well. She Dosent communicate her feelings. This is what I’m struggling with. But thanks for making me out to be the bad guy here by questioning whether or not I actually care about the woman who occupies my mind 24/7.
Don’t get me wrong, the reason you’re concerned is 100000% valid and that whole situation is gross and icky and makes me want to vomit a little. But for me, the biggest red flag is him disrespecting your boundaries and him continuing to ask even after you showed discomfort. And then during the sex, I can’t imagine you were too into it? If I had sex with someone and they looked uncomfortable, I would stop immediately. It seems like he isn’t checking in with you to see if you’re enjoying yourself. You shouldn’t be with someone who is willing to make you uncomfortable for their pleasure
Your doing amazing. I hear your concerns are for your step-daughter. Strategically I would say ask mark to hand over parental rights. Say you want to adopt her. If he doesn’t have to put up any money for school anymore and she might come around less it may be super easy to get. Then your her dad (you absolutely are already)x Your in a better position to then divorce and get custody.
She’s being abused – and you are too. This is a bad situation and I’m really sorry your in it. Def leave when the kids go to college but if start now. These people don’t care, you’ll be happier with your kids alone. Plus you deserve a great woman.
What sick abuse did you go through to think you can love someone like this ??? Like what the actual fuck happened to you to sit here and say “oh yeah no biggie we really do love each other though “
Maybe it is for the best when you and your friend break up. You both behaved as if you were in a relationship. She reacted as if you were her property and you can't have other friends, you need to have her as the number one… Funny, when she let you hang because of her bf. She demand stuff that she isn't willing to give. If the roles were reversed and you had skipped the apartment deal, your “friend” would have made you a living hell. And i wonder if her bf faked the allergy just so you both don't live together. I mean, otherwise he wouldn't see his gf never and he mostly find the relationship between you both pretty shady and thought “when they also live together, they will either finally end as lovers or i need a chainsaw to remove my gf”.
You are just 24. You will met people, find new friends, find love. But what your friend does is just unhealthy. She is controlling, jealous and toxic. Even in a relationship this behaviour is too much. And you both are just friends. You may think about the great times you spend together as friends, but people change. And friendships change. Stop trying to excuse yourself because you did nothing wrong. If your friend can't accept that you have a life outside of her…
Potential future children would not be safe with your boyfriend. You could not in good faith trust his judgement or that he’d protect them and maintain a safe environment for them. His father is not a changed man. I’m not sure you ever could be after someone like that, but if anyone is, it’s not him. He never took any accountability whatsoever, instead they punished the daughter, and he is surrounded by apologists and enabler, AND he’s still creepy towards the daughter. You and your boyfriend do not share the same morals regarding this matter. And in my opinion, it’s a subject matter where compatibility is non-negotiable.
Looks like she doesn't want to stop following this dude
Constant barking to her about this guy makes you look weak
Follow your gut , either dump her or just put up with it in silence
Just make a decision and act on it
Hey! No worries, thanks for the report back.
It’s not the worst thing in the world, with messy situations like that, no one really is a winner if they come out on top. There will be massive complications in addition.
You’ll find someone much more suitable for you.
OP, I want you to know how much I admire how considerate you are in wanting to make him happy. You are a thoughtful, loving partner, and I hope you're able to be with someone who adores you just as much. You are worthy of and deserve all the love and affection. Thank you for being a light. ❤️
I have made dialogue. On multiple occasions, like I said on the post as well. She Dosent communicate her feelings. This is what I’m struggling with. But thanks for making me out to be the bad guy here by questioning whether or not I actually care about the woman who occupies my mind 24/7.
Don’t get me wrong, the reason you’re concerned is 100000% valid and that whole situation is gross and icky and makes me want to vomit a little. But for me, the biggest red flag is him disrespecting your boundaries and him continuing to ask even after you showed discomfort. And then during the sex, I can’t imagine you were too into it? If I had sex with someone and they looked uncomfortable, I would stop immediately. It seems like he isn’t checking in with you to see if you’re enjoying yourself. You shouldn’t be with someone who is willing to make you uncomfortable for their pleasure
Your doing amazing. I hear your concerns are for your step-daughter. Strategically I would say ask mark to hand over parental rights. Say you want to adopt her. If he doesn’t have to put up any money for school anymore and she might come around less it may be super easy to get. Then your her dad (you absolutely are already)x Your in a better position to then divorce and get custody.
She’s being abused – and you are too. This is a bad situation and I’m really sorry your in it. Def leave when the kids go to college but if start now. These people don’t care, you’ll be happier with your kids alone. Plus you deserve a great woman.
What sick abuse did you go through to think you can love someone like this ??? Like what the actual fuck happened to you to sit here and say “oh yeah no biggie we really do love each other though “
Have you considered that he might put his plan into action if for some reason he decided to believe you had cheated on him?
Divorce
Maybe it is for the best when you and your friend break up. You both behaved as if you were in a relationship. She reacted as if you were her property and you can't have other friends, you need to have her as the number one… Funny, when she let you hang because of her bf. She demand stuff that she isn't willing to give. If the roles were reversed and you had skipped the apartment deal, your “friend” would have made you a living hell. And i wonder if her bf faked the allergy just so you both don't live together. I mean, otherwise he wouldn't see his gf never and he mostly find the relationship between you both pretty shady and thought “when they also live together, they will either finally end as lovers or i need a chainsaw to remove my gf”.
You are just 24. You will met people, find new friends, find love. But what your friend does is just unhealthy. She is controlling, jealous and toxic. Even in a relationship this behaviour is too much. And you both are just friends. You may think about the great times you spend together as friends, but people change. And friendships change. Stop trying to excuse yourself because you did nothing wrong. If your friend can't accept that you have a life outside of her…
Potential future children would not be safe with your boyfriend. You could not in good faith trust his judgement or that he’d protect them and maintain a safe environment for them. His father is not a changed man. I’m not sure you ever could be after someone like that, but if anyone is, it’s not him. He never took any accountability whatsoever, instead they punished the daughter, and he is surrounded by apologists and enabler, AND he’s still creepy towards the daughter. You and your boyfriend do not share the same morals regarding this matter. And in my opinion, it’s a subject matter where compatibility is non-negotiable.