She's ill, their daughter is also ill, you don't know the extent of the symptoms either of them are feeling. She still has to parent to children & he doesn't care enough to make an effort in any way. She was more than considerate and generous in suggesting he take extra time with his mum before they fell ill, he's in no way returning the consideration for his entire family.
yep! that is why im going to tell him. i would want to know if he was moving in with a girl he hooked up with, even if it is just his friend. thanks for the perspective
Not wanting something doesn’t make you closed-minded. People have their boundaries for relationships and that’s okay. This is yours. She’s trying to manipulate you by saying something is wrong with you (being closed minded) for not wanting what she wants. Now you feel like something is wrong with you when there isn’t.
Therapists can be wrong, but in this case they're pretty accurate. I guess it depends on the age you are talking about. A 30 year old man being attracted to a 25 year old woman? Perfectly normal. A 30 year old man being attracted to a 16 year old girl? Creepy as fuck. And no, beauty and age are not intrinsically connected. For example, I think Chris Evans is much more attractive now than he was in “Not Another Teen Movie” (or look at Jessica Lang and Meryl Streep for female examples). MILF and DILF being common terms for attractive people who are older also shows an obvious flaw in your agruement.
I'm not saying that you are (you didn't give enough info to say one way or another) but if you are struggling with pedophilic urges, I would suggest working with your therapist to rehabilitate yourself rather than trying to prove them wrong.
I understand that, however, your bf clearly has no idea what he's talking about, and tbh, I don't understand how you still feel this calm after everything your bf told you.
Have you both got wills? What happens in a medical emergency? Who's listed as next-of-kin and will be able to make any medical decisions? Have you got life insurance? How are you able to get any other benefit of marriage without being married?
Thank you. Wow when you put it this way without it being weaved into my rose colored glasses it does seem like he’s a horrible boyfriend. I appreciate and thank you for giving me an outsider look into this situation. Also I edited my post to add he ignored me 90% of the time during the hours I technically worked for him while he drove. It got to the point he would blatantly ignore me having to repeat my questions and say “hello?” Only to just be ignored. That’s what really hurt me. But I appreciate you again for this. You’re helping make this so much easier for me to know my worth. I’m glad I made this post.
Can we order succubus tanks?
So he's trickle truthing you. And you need to know this isn't the only time it's happened nor is it going to be the last if you stay with him.
She's ill, their daughter is also ill, you don't know the extent of the symptoms either of them are feeling. She still has to parent to children & he doesn't care enough to make an effort in any way. She was more than considerate and generous in suggesting he take extra time with his mum before they fell ill, he's in no way returning the consideration for his entire family.
yep! that is why im going to tell him. i would want to know if he was moving in with a girl he hooked up with, even if it is just his friend. thanks for the perspective
Not wanting something doesn’t make you closed-minded. People have their boundaries for relationships and that’s okay. This is yours. She’s trying to manipulate you by saying something is wrong with you (being closed minded) for not wanting what she wants. Now you feel like something is wrong with you when there isn’t.
You need to do your own thing. Go to school be a nurse. Try a long distance relationship maybe or take a break.
Therapists can be wrong, but in this case they're pretty accurate. I guess it depends on the age you are talking about. A 30 year old man being attracted to a 25 year old woman? Perfectly normal. A 30 year old man being attracted to a 16 year old girl? Creepy as fuck. And no, beauty and age are not intrinsically connected. For example, I think Chris Evans is much more attractive now than he was in “Not Another Teen Movie” (or look at Jessica Lang and Meryl Streep for female examples). MILF and DILF being common terms for attractive people who are older also shows an obvious flaw in your agruement.
I'm not saying that you are (you didn't give enough info to say one way or another) but if you are struggling with pedophilic urges, I would suggest working with your therapist to rehabilitate yourself rather than trying to prove them wrong.
I understand that, however, your bf clearly has no idea what he's talking about, and tbh, I don't understand how you still feel this calm after everything your bf told you.
Have you both got wills? What happens in a medical emergency? Who's listed as next-of-kin and will be able to make any medical decisions? Have you got life insurance? How are you able to get any other benefit of marriage without being married?
Even when he's met more than one friend group of mine?
Ofc man. Wish you all the best
And there's no resentment from me to him?? Sounds like you're a misogynist. Bye
This relationship is dead. You’re young, first loves are overrated tend not to last sadly and you’ll find someone way better.
I completely agree with this.
That’s for anyone
Thank you. Wow when you put it this way without it being weaved into my rose colored glasses it does seem like he’s a horrible boyfriend. I appreciate and thank you for giving me an outsider look into this situation. Also I edited my post to add he ignored me 90% of the time during the hours I technically worked for him while he drove. It got to the point he would blatantly ignore me having to repeat my questions and say “hello?” Only to just be ignored. That’s what really hurt me. But I appreciate you again for this. You’re helping make this so much easier for me to know my worth. I’m glad I made this post.
Move on
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