Is it making you feel good not inviting them? If ‘punishing’ them for not inviting you to their wedding is your style, go for it. If it gives you satisfaction, so be it. If you’re going to be endlessly smiling to yourself and saying “Ha, ha, revenge” then yep, it’s your party, whatever floats your boat.
Just as it was their wedding and it was up to them who to invite and who not to. Nobody should expect an automatic right to an invitation. Not even family sometimes.
I think in these situations, it’s best to start with ourselves. We can’t choose what others do, only what we ourselves do. I can’t help feeling that the negativity associated with keeping this situation going isn’t helpful for you personally, forget them and whatever their motivations or reasons behind the lack of wedding invitation were. But honestly it is completely your call. Do what brings you peace!
Ditch her and find someone who'd actually appreciate the effort you went to instead of giving you the silent treatment. She's behaving like an entitled brat.
I quit college to be with my boyfriend and it was a massive mistake. I didn't get my undergrad until my 30s. But a few questions for you;
Is he going to college? If not, why can't he move with you instead of you staying home?
If you want to take a year break, do it. By the end of the year, you'll know much more about how you want to proceed in life. I think there's a 90% chance you'll move on from him but if it makes you feel better to call it a break, go for it. See how things play out.
If he does anything but support you, that is a red flag. Ultimately, love is about wanting what is best for your partner. Love is not someone wanting to keep you small.
You seem like you feel entitled to photos of her just because you would happily send them to her. That doesn't mean your love is one sided, it means you both need to work on communication with each other because your needs aren't being met.
As someone who used to be similar with my own partner before i became medicated, all you can really do is show him how much you've changed through actions rather than words, itll hurt a lot some days but thats what therapy is for. He shouldn't have to be your therapist for these feelings and so dumping this on him will be too much, if you've already apologized for everything youve done to him and thanked him for everything hes done for you then all you can do is take therapy and accept your guilt, be a changed person and do better for the future ahead of you two
Usually older men who date someone that young end up enjoying being more knowledgeable about things. The younger woman thinks he is so smart and wise and it becomes part of the dynamic for her to give more weight to his opinion rather than her own. Think of it as extreme sexism. This dynamic is unhealthy for the young woman because she disregards her own needs, her own thoughts, her own instincts, her own experiences, etc.
If you make a real effort to counteract this affect, then maybe it is not so bad. However, so many men don't. They don't give the younger actual room to grow up and become confident in their own selves. The older man feels like it is completely natural and normal for the woman to make extra efforts to please him and look up to him. In fact, he will never even notice that things are unbalanced.
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Oh hey I thought about that a lot before. But how exactly, like in which aspects, do you think this connects?
Is it making you feel good not inviting them? If ‘punishing’ them for not inviting you to their wedding is your style, go for it. If it gives you satisfaction, so be it. If you’re going to be endlessly smiling to yourself and saying “Ha, ha, revenge” then yep, it’s your party, whatever floats your boat.
Just as it was their wedding and it was up to them who to invite and who not to. Nobody should expect an automatic right to an invitation. Not even family sometimes.
I think in these situations, it’s best to start with ourselves. We can’t choose what others do, only what we ourselves do. I can’t help feeling that the negativity associated with keeping this situation going isn’t helpful for you personally, forget them and whatever their motivations or reasons behind the lack of wedding invitation were. But honestly it is completely your call. Do what brings you peace!
What can I do to fix this situation?
Ditch her and find someone who'd actually appreciate the effort you went to instead of giving you the silent treatment. She's behaving like an entitled brat.
I quit college to be with my boyfriend and it was a massive mistake. I didn't get my undergrad until my 30s. But a few questions for you;
Is he going to college? If not, why can't he move with you instead of you staying home?
If you want to take a year break, do it. By the end of the year, you'll know much more about how you want to proceed in life. I think there's a 90% chance you'll move on from him but if it makes you feel better to call it a break, go for it. See how things play out.
If he does anything but support you, that is a red flag. Ultimately, love is about wanting what is best for your partner. Love is not someone wanting to keep you small.
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She seems to be a shy person.
Do you not know your wife?
You seem like you feel entitled to photos of her just because you would happily send them to her. That doesn't mean your love is one sided, it means you both need to work on communication with each other because your needs aren't being met.
As someone who used to be similar with my own partner before i became medicated, all you can really do is show him how much you've changed through actions rather than words, itll hurt a lot some days but thats what therapy is for. He shouldn't have to be your therapist for these feelings and so dumping this on him will be too much, if you've already apologized for everything youve done to him and thanked him for everything hes done for you then all you can do is take therapy and accept your guilt, be a changed person and do better for the future ahead of you two
Usually older men who date someone that young end up enjoying being more knowledgeable about things. The younger woman thinks he is so smart and wise and it becomes part of the dynamic for her to give more weight to his opinion rather than her own. Think of it as extreme sexism. This dynamic is unhealthy for the young woman because she disregards her own needs, her own thoughts, her own instincts, her own experiences, etc.
If you make a real effort to counteract this affect, then maybe it is not so bad. However, so many men don't. They don't give the younger actual room to grow up and become confident in their own selves. The older man feels like it is completely natural and normal for the woman to make extra efforts to please him and look up to him. In fact, he will never even notice that things are unbalanced.