These are the type of relationships that turn into married couples that hate each other. You shouldn't have to compromise who you fundamentally are. There is no changing for him, only change for yourself.
I noticed you didn't give your relationship with him a label. Does that mean you aren't in an exclusive relationship and he doesn't see you as his girlfriend?
The way he handled this shows exactly how he feels about you. This isn't about you being selfish because you want to be patient while he grieves. He stopped talking to you a month ago and allowed his child's mother to plan the funeral. He hasn't gone to you for support because he doesn't want it. That may sound harsh, but it's better to deal with the truth and move on than to remain stuck in a relationship that's going nowhere.
You may feel stupid, don’t. You tried your best and did what you could to try and save it. She had decided she doesn’t want to save it and there isn’t anything you can do to change that. She’s made her choice. All you can do is move forward. Do what’s best for you and your kids going forward, don’t worry about her.
Also fight for your kids. She may not realize her leaving and not sharing custody won’t work out well for her. Don’t let her use your children as pawns to get child support and alimony. She has no job, and may want you to continue to support her. Them being neglected by her will only be more damaging, because they won’t have you with them day in day out.
Make sure you have all the evidence you can gather in regard to her infidelity and neglecting the children. It will only help your case to gain custody.
Sounds like a great opportunity to help out- fix a few things at first, clean a few things, try and be helpful. You will score big time with the GF I bet. Don't dare say thing, just be helpful.
Your baby was fed, burped bathed and entertained already. He cried, you knew he was crying, you held him while you were working. How were you “a shitty mom”? What else could you have done in that moment? Genuinely curious.
The sex cannot possibly be so good you are willing to be with a racist
These are the type of relationships that turn into married couples that hate each other. You shouldn't have to compromise who you fundamentally are. There is no changing for him, only change for yourself.
I noticed you didn't give your relationship with him a label. Does that mean you aren't in an exclusive relationship and he doesn't see you as his girlfriend?
The way he handled this shows exactly how he feels about you. This isn't about you being selfish because you want to be patient while he grieves. He stopped talking to you a month ago and allowed his child's mother to plan the funeral. He hasn't gone to you for support because he doesn't want it. That may sound harsh, but it's better to deal with the truth and move on than to remain stuck in a relationship that's going nowhere.
You may feel stupid, don’t. You tried your best and did what you could to try and save it. She had decided she doesn’t want to save it and there isn’t anything you can do to change that. She’s made her choice. All you can do is move forward. Do what’s best for you and your kids going forward, don’t worry about her.
Also fight for your kids. She may not realize her leaving and not sharing custody won’t work out well for her. Don’t let her use your children as pawns to get child support and alimony. She has no job, and may want you to continue to support her. Them being neglected by her will only be more damaging, because they won’t have you with them day in day out.
Make sure you have all the evidence you can gather in regard to her infidelity and neglecting the children. It will only help your case to gain custody.
You can get through this.
I don’t think so but we all have different opinions or whatever lol
That therapist is a criminal and needs to be reported to the board.
hes a shitty dude, not ADHD
Do you think it changes anything that I haven't talked to her about it yet?
Sounds like a great opportunity to help out- fix a few things at first, clean a few things, try and be helpful. You will score big time with the GF I bet. Don't dare say thing, just be helpful.
Your baby was fed, burped bathed and entertained already. He cried, you knew he was crying, you held him while you were working. How were you “a shitty mom”? What else could you have done in that moment? Genuinely curious.