I see huge amounts of text about what your girlfriend wants. All about what your girlfriend thinks would be ideal and what her preferences are.
What I donāt see in what you wrote is your honest opinion. Does her news make you sad, make you excited for her? Make you jealous? Make you happy? What is your thought?
If you want monogamy then say you want no cheating ever. If she disagrees break up.
If you want her to explore her options while dating you then let her.
Whatever you do be honest with yourself. Itās better to have no partner than a partner that resents you or doesnāt want to be with you.
Itās a scam. Even if it wasnāt If she can afford a PlayStation for her kid (also how old could this kid be if sheās only 25) and not afford to buy him a game to play, what other financially poor decisions has she made.
Na, stick with your step-dad, I'm sure being effectively disowned by his daughter won't kill him. Besides, you are obviously a mommy's girl and catering to HER wishes for YOUR wedding. You and your mum are trash for considering this
I get it. I feel that way too sometimesā¦like, if āWhat if after I leave these people, no one else enters my life? I donāt want to be alone forever!ā. But itās also kind of freeing in a way. Time is a currency, and suddenly all that time you spent on those people who werenāt any good to you is now free to be spent on something else. Or someONE else. Or a whole bunch of other people.
In this situation, it sounds like theyāve already left you. You already are alone. Arenāt you?
ā¦Itās going to be okay. This isnāt the end for you. Just the beginning of something new. Something better.
Cook . When you are on your own and on a tight budget in school, you'll need to learn how your last 40$ will last for the rest of the week for food. If you focus on that particular skill, such as shopping for groceries, using coupons, cooking, and baking for your mom. This will take a big chunk out of her day of what she has to deal with when she gets home from work. So she can relax when she gets home. Plus, it'll help you learn a valuable skill.
Look at his behaviors. The whole point of dating is to find a long-term partner. You are not a partner when you are being disregarded. You asked him to stop doing someone that hurts your feelings and he does it anyways. You like being treated this way? Itās not going to get better. Because youāve ignored it and only want to see rainbows and sunshine, he been cheating in your whole relationship because he easily able to get away with it. His behavior is consistent with cheating military guys. You have been downgraded to a weekend fling and still fighting for that status.
Iād 100% be leaving a review about my experience with that photographer. Who thinks thatās professional and a good idea at someoneās WEDDING? People need to know what theyāre getting if they pats this āprofessionalā.
Iāve had the surgery and itās not even bad. Youāre in and out in one day and sleep it off. Youāll get some pain meds and be okay within a few days. Youāll have 4 people with you, itās not open heart surgery, you will be fine.
Ok i definetey do understand wanting him to be close with your family, it is important to you. Does he ever say what can be done to make him less nervous about meeting them? Is their certein scenarios that might make him more comfortable around them? I was very much like him when i was 20 as well so if he can atleast tell you how to make the family thing easier that could help. As for the planning of more dates could it be something were every two weeks or once a month he plans something then the next you alternate and see if that works? Unless your gonna listen to everyone else and just dump him.
Itās her boundary and he agreed to it
I 100% agree with your conclusion that he thinks it's a demeaning act. Of course he says it's unfair, he wants blow jobs.
I see huge amounts of text about what your girlfriend wants. All about what your girlfriend thinks would be ideal and what her preferences are.
What I donāt see in what you wrote is your honest opinion. Does her news make you sad, make you excited for her? Make you jealous? Make you happy? What is your thought?
If you want monogamy then say you want no cheating ever. If she disagrees break up.
If you want her to explore her options while dating you then let her.
Whatever you do be honest with yourself. Itās better to have no partner than a partner that resents you or doesnāt want to be with you.
Maybe see a therapist and try to unlock why you cannot fall in love.
Also, has she expressed that she loves you? If so, best not to lead her on.
They don't know what you have…
Thanks for the wise words, I really appreciate it
Itās a scam. Even if it wasnāt If she can afford a PlayStation for her kid (also how old could this kid be if sheās only 25) and not afford to buy him a game to play, what other financially poor decisions has she made.
looks like you made up your mind with this comment. tell her this is important, give her an ultimatum.
Na, stick with your step-dad, I'm sure being effectively disowned by his daughter won't kill him. Besides, you are obviously a mommy's girl and catering to HER wishes for YOUR wedding. You and your mum are trash for considering this
I get it. I feel that way too sometimesā¦like, if āWhat if after I leave these people, no one else enters my life? I donāt want to be alone forever!ā. But itās also kind of freeing in a way. Time is a currency, and suddenly all that time you spent on those people who werenāt any good to you is now free to be spent on something else. Or someONE else. Or a whole bunch of other people.
In this situation, it sounds like theyāve already left you. You already are alone. Arenāt you?
ā¦Itās going to be okay. This isnāt the end for you. Just the beginning of something new. Something better.
And heās undermining her medical issue. ?
at same time heads up there guest at home would be nice from the wife..
we call it home so we can unwind relex be moody or whatever mood without people judging u..
if im a guest and I see the owner is unhappy or moody I will excuse myself rather than giving judgments..
u intrude on people space u don't expect sunshine and rainbows everytime..
Foreplay with one and then slowly multiple fingers.
Yeah, it just takes off a layer of potential conflict.
It would be different if one of us were stay at home parents or something and had no income at all. But thatās not our situation. ?āāļø
Why do you want to be married to someone with anger issues who thinks you should finish the fights she starts?
Tell him you know
Cook . When you are on your own and on a tight budget in school, you'll need to learn how your last 40$ will last for the rest of the week for food. If you focus on that particular skill, such as shopping for groceries, using coupons, cooking, and baking for your mom. This will take a big chunk out of her day of what she has to deal with when she gets home from work. So she can relax when she gets home. Plus, it'll help you learn a valuable skill.
Look at his behaviors. The whole point of dating is to find a long-term partner. You are not a partner when you are being disregarded. You asked him to stop doing someone that hurts your feelings and he does it anyways. You like being treated this way? Itās not going to get better. Because youāve ignored it and only want to see rainbows and sunshine, he been cheating in your whole relationship because he easily able to get away with it. His behavior is consistent with cheating military guys. You have been downgraded to a weekend fling and still fighting for that status.
Iād 100% be leaving a review about my experience with that photographer. Who thinks thatās professional and a good idea at someoneās WEDDING? People need to know what theyāre getting if they pats this āprofessionalā.
Iāve had the surgery and itās not even bad. Youāre in and out in one day and sleep it off. Youāll get some pain meds and be okay within a few days. Youāll have 4 people with you, itās not open heart surgery, you will be fine.
After reading this I feel like I need alone time away from your boyfriend, and Iāve never met him. Get out while you can. It will only get worse.
Ok i definetey do understand wanting him to be close with your family, it is important to you. Does he ever say what can be done to make him less nervous about meeting them? Is their certein scenarios that might make him more comfortable around them? I was very much like him when i was 20 as well so if he can atleast tell you how to make the family thing easier that could help. As for the planning of more dates could it be something were every two weeks or once a month he plans something then the next you alternate and see if that works? Unless your gonna listen to everyone else and just dump him.