Let’s put aside that she discussed with and intended to have sex with another guy. That in itself is a relationship changer/ender. It’s her thoughts on monogamy and your relationship that’s an immediate concern.
I’m saying that as the previous issue may have been directly related to the guy and situation and we’ll assume nothing happened.
Does she still hold the view that non-monogamy is her preference? Is she holding resentment that you’re not allowing this? She’s already tried to shame and guilt you into this lifestyle. That’s barely forgivable and it may be that, for the moment, she’s simply not willing to deal with the consequences.
I would begin/restart a conversion to get to the root of her thoughts and feelings on this. Find out if it was a fad that faded when faced with reality. Or is it something that she suppressing and, if so, how is she dealing with that? Above all of this, understand how you feel about this and how it’s changed, or changing, your relationship.
Express your anger every time you see her. She will let slip more info you that she though.
You are wondering if you must and can drop her. You always have reach the peak of your relationship,. From now it can only goes down. Better drop her now than in the next year.
Depends on the contract, what he needs to do is separate from her, and get his name off the lease. If she destroys the apartment he is liable. Is breaking up with your roommate a good enough reason, no, but he needs to either sublet and let his ex know she's going to have to pay half of the rent. We don't know if there month to month or what the contract entails. So yes he should break his lease.
A huge flaw that doesn't seem to be getting better. You tried communicating, you tried therapy, I'm not sure what else you can do here but it sounds like the resentment phase has already started.
A woman’s and a man’s value is 100% on how easily they give themselves to someone so freely. It’s not sexist or anything like it. No one expects someone to be a virgin but if you can list off a football roster that’s really gross. It also shows your inability to create a long term relationship. People in long term relationships have more sex than single people sleeping with 20 strangers a year. It’s not about the action of sex. It’s about how easy you are to get. I will bang a hoe but would never date one. She will get the “wyd” text @ 2am not the “I love you text” at 7am.
Note I am past hookup culture and and just raising my kids.
I would hope you would know that already as you guys got married. Until proven different, why not have 100% trust in the person you love, married, and had a child with.
I feel you should have your doubts addressed by your husband. Where you two have a good open conversation without judgment, or accusations, and in a calm manner where how you are feeling and the things you are feeling can be addressed so you know. I would also be honest in letting him know you snooped his phone as well in that conversation. Honesty and good conversation where things are on the table will do wonders for a couple.
Yes. You should both understand his method of ” birth control” just isn't. So he dies something that's likely to get you pregnant eventually, then says he'll leave you if you have an abortion. He's showing you who he is. Terminate the relationship and the pregnsncy.
Remove the personal nature of the ex. She lied. You asked her to respect your relationship a certain way and clearly articulated how you feel. She lied again because she doesn't believe you're valid in why you feel that way. She's gas lighting you and not taking accountability and it shows a lack of maturity and good partnership. Explain to her that the lying and prioritizing any aspect of another person over the reasonable boundary you have isn't something you'll compromise over and kindly show her out. Let her know returning once she maybe corrects it again isn't an option because she's been manipulative and shown she does not care how you feel.
Tell her she can explore, on her own and break up with her. She is cheating and is stupid too. She left it open….Tell her to explore before she gets in to a committed relationship and good luck.
Not exactly, my brother is very kind and laid back. My husband always told me since he was an only child he envied our relationship because he didn't have that growing up. so yes and no he was envious (or I thought it was that and not jealousy).
My brother is not feeling well a all after all this coming on top of his relationship ending. I feel sad that something is ruined between my brother and me. He prob feels sick like me but also guilt because I'm having issues in my marriage.
He did it because he wanted to and he saw an opportunity. (That is not your fault! Most men would tuck you in then get themselves ready for bed.) Don't let him use your kink as an excuse. You weren't scening with him, you'd withdrawn your consent despite the fact you were too drunk to provide valid consent to begin with, and how can you possibly indulge in a kink you aren't conscious to enjoy?
Yeah that scared me. Knowing my gf she's kind and naive, she'll meet the guy and one day she'll be comfortable meeting him without me and something bad might happen . I have a feeling the guy is playing a slow game to use her in order to gain her trust
maybe its your partner that created the fake account to see if he could bust you, thinking something was going on with you working late hours and his paranoia got the best of him? Sounds crazy, but im sure its happened before!
How bored are you?
Let’s put aside that she discussed with and intended to have sex with another guy. That in itself is a relationship changer/ender. It’s her thoughts on monogamy and your relationship that’s an immediate concern.
I’m saying that as the previous issue may have been directly related to the guy and situation and we’ll assume nothing happened.
Does she still hold the view that non-monogamy is her preference? Is she holding resentment that you’re not allowing this? She’s already tried to shame and guilt you into this lifestyle. That’s barely forgivable and it may be that, for the moment, she’s simply not willing to deal with the consequences.
I would begin/restart a conversion to get to the root of her thoughts and feelings on this. Find out if it was a fad that faded when faced with reality. Or is it something that she suppressing and, if so, how is she dealing with that? Above all of this, understand how you feel about this and how it’s changed, or changing, your relationship.
DNA test now.
Express your anger every time you see her. She will let slip more info you that she though.
You are wondering if you must and can drop her. You always have reach the peak of your relationship,. From now it can only goes down. Better drop her now than in the next year.
It seems like he just really likes the anime and wanted to share that with you, I dont feel that this had anything to do with his ex.
Depends on the contract, what he needs to do is separate from her, and get his name off the lease. If she destroys the apartment he is liable. Is breaking up with your roommate a good enough reason, no, but he needs to either sublet and let his ex know she's going to have to pay half of the rent. We don't know if there month to month or what the contract entails. So yes he should break his lease.
Bruhh please read what I just posted and understand please. Thanks
A huge flaw that doesn't seem to be getting better. You tried communicating, you tried therapy, I'm not sure what else you can do here but it sounds like the resentment phase has already started.
A woman’s and a man’s value is 100% on how easily they give themselves to someone so freely. It’s not sexist or anything like it. No one expects someone to be a virgin but if you can list off a football roster that’s really gross. It also shows your inability to create a long term relationship. People in long term relationships have more sex than single people sleeping with 20 strangers a year. It’s not about the action of sex. It’s about how easy you are to get. I will bang a hoe but would never date one. She will get the “wyd” text @ 2am not the “I love you text” at 7am.
Note I am past hookup culture and and just raising my kids.
But your wife is fine to hang out with him? A guy?
I think this person is a woman. Equally creepy tho.
Have you tried doing it with her? Then you'll see that it's really not a big deal.
This is not AITA ?
We both browse these subreddits way to often it seems ?
Happens to me as well haha
Didn't you already post this several days ago?
Are you in therapy? On medications? if so, talk to doc and get meds changed, if possible.
Otherwise? muscle through and continue helping each other. Sound like you guys have a good things so keep it up.
I would hope you would know that already as you guys got married. Until proven different, why not have 100% trust in the person you love, married, and had a child with.
I feel you should have your doubts addressed by your husband. Where you two have a good open conversation without judgment, or accusations, and in a calm manner where how you are feeling and the things you are feeling can be addressed so you know. I would also be honest in letting him know you snooped his phone as well in that conversation. Honesty and good conversation where things are on the table will do wonders for a couple.
Go and have a one to one with your boss, I think you deserve to know why your partner was picked and not you x
Yes. You should both understand his method of ” birth control” just isn't. So he dies something that's likely to get you pregnant eventually, then says he'll leave you if you have an abortion. He's showing you who he is. Terminate the relationship and the pregnsncy.
Remove the personal nature of the ex. She lied. You asked her to respect your relationship a certain way and clearly articulated how you feel. She lied again because she doesn't believe you're valid in why you feel that way. She's gas lighting you and not taking accountability and it shows a lack of maturity and good partnership. Explain to her that the lying and prioritizing any aspect of another person over the reasonable boundary you have isn't something you'll compromise over and kindly show her out. Let her know returning once she maybe corrects it again isn't an option because she's been manipulative and shown she does not care how you feel.
You’re the side piece bro. Leave with your dignity.
Tell her she can explore, on her own and break up with her. She is cheating and is stupid too. She left it open….Tell her to explore before she gets in to a committed relationship and good luck.
Not exactly, my brother is very kind and laid back. My husband always told me since he was an only child he envied our relationship because he didn't have that growing up. so yes and no he was envious (or I thought it was that and not jealousy).
My brother is not feeling well a all after all this coming on top of his relationship ending. I feel sad that something is ruined between my brother and me. He prob feels sick like me but also guilt because I'm having issues in my marriage.
I'm hearing that you don't feel safe talking to your strongwilled wife
That seems like a primary issue here
Your wife loves you. Stop framing her concern over your high fat diet as a personal attack.
Studies show a high fat diet can reduce your life by 10 years. Your wife and kids want you to live! the best version of your self.
The other woman doesn't comment- because she doesn't love you (or you kids) or give a crap about the quality or length of your life.
He did it because he wanted to and he saw an opportunity. (That is not your fault! Most men would tuck you in then get themselves ready for bed.) Don't let him use your kink as an excuse. You weren't scening with him, you'd withdrawn your consent despite the fact you were too drunk to provide valid consent to begin with, and how can you possibly indulge in a kink you aren't conscious to enjoy?
I appreciate that ? ? They deleted dammit!
Yeah that scared me. Knowing my gf she's kind and naive, she'll meet the guy and one day she'll be comfortable meeting him without me and something bad might happen . I have a feeling the guy is playing a slow game to use her in order to gain her trust
maybe its your partner that created the fake account to see if he could bust you, thinking something was going on with you working late hours and his paranoia got the best of him? Sounds crazy, but im sure its happened before!