I never said he wasn’t drunk. I said he wasn’t drunk to the point of not understanding the consequences of his own actions.
Yes, like everyone I’m sharing my opinion. You said he didn’t do anything wrong and I said he did.
He can have his companionship but there are some lines which shouldn’t be crossed and he knows sleeping with the sibling is wrong. That’s why he feels so guilty. Bc if the roles were reversed, he knows what he would have felt and how he would have viewed the situation. And he projected this thoughts and feelings onto his dead wife and that’s why he is feeling guilty like this.
He could have chosen anybody but he chose his dead wife’s family. That’s the problem
If you know you are young and dumb, you need to take that into account. By which i mean, take some time for yourself and just be still. Neither of these guys is relationship material. You have a bad “picker”, and it sounds like you have an issue just being single. Which is exactly why that's what you need to do. Give it a year or two with no dating. Focus on your child and building a career, maybe get into therapy if you can.
And keep in mind that a guy that much older than you is just older, not more mature, or he wouldn't go for someone so young.
Are you racist? Do you know for sure there's a huge cultural boundary you'd be crossing or does he dance in charming snakes and playing a silly drum?
I never said he wasn’t drunk. I said he wasn’t drunk to the point of not understanding the consequences of his own actions.
Yes, like everyone I’m sharing my opinion. You said he didn’t do anything wrong and I said he did.
He can have his companionship but there are some lines which shouldn’t be crossed and he knows sleeping with the sibling is wrong. That’s why he feels so guilty. Bc if the roles were reversed, he knows what he would have felt and how he would have viewed the situation. And he projected this thoughts and feelings onto his dead wife and that’s why he is feeling guilty like this.
He could have chosen anybody but he chose his dead wife’s family. That’s the problem
If you know you are young and dumb, you need to take that into account. By which i mean, take some time for yourself and just be still. Neither of these guys is relationship material. You have a bad “picker”, and it sounds like you have an issue just being single. Which is exactly why that's what you need to do. Give it a year or two with no dating. Focus on your child and building a career, maybe get into therapy if you can.
And keep in mind that a guy that much older than you is just older, not more mature, or he wouldn't go for someone so young.