Thank you. I already go to the psychologist regularly and surely will bring this up. My girlfriend says I’m good at conflicts in theory. But I think I’m really bad at conflicts in practice. It’s something I really have to work on.
My advice is based on my own experiences in a very similar situation.
Ask yourself why you would ever want to continue a relationship with someone that has lied to you over and over? A person that has manipulated you, not cared about your feelings or the pain that she has caused you? Someone that is happy to destroy your self esteem and damage you emotionally? Someone that puts herself first over you? Someone that will quite happily continue to do all this to you. How do you still think that you love someone like this? She does not love you.
The answer is probably connected to your own self worth, how much you value yourself, and issues that you have with yourself (which maybe subconscious). You some how you feel like you deserve this/there is no self preservation reaction. This could have originated in the way you have been treated in the past, or other experiences that you have gone through, especially in childhood.
This woman that is mistreating you is not the problem, you are the problem. Stop allowing people to treat you this way, see your own value and protect yourself from the unworthy. Learn to love yourself and look forward to a great future.
Obviously ditching her is a big part to achieving a better you and learning to value yourself.
She wants to know how to make it work with the man thats abusive because they are incredibly good together..
Thank you. I already go to the psychologist regularly and surely will bring this up. My girlfriend says I’m good at conflicts in theory. But I think I’m really bad at conflicts in practice. It’s something I really have to work on.
My advice is based on my own experiences in a very similar situation.
Ask yourself why you would ever want to continue a relationship with someone that has lied to you over and over? A person that has manipulated you, not cared about your feelings or the pain that she has caused you? Someone that is happy to destroy your self esteem and damage you emotionally? Someone that puts herself first over you? Someone that will quite happily continue to do all this to you. How do you still think that you love someone like this? She does not love you.
The answer is probably connected to your own self worth, how much you value yourself, and issues that you have with yourself (which maybe subconscious). You some how you feel like you deserve this/there is no self preservation reaction. This could have originated in the way you have been treated in the past, or other experiences that you have gone through, especially in childhood.
This woman that is mistreating you is not the problem, you are the problem. Stop allowing people to treat you this way, see your own value and protect yourself from the unworthy. Learn to love yourself and look forward to a great future.
Obviously ditching her is a big part to achieving a better you and learning to value yourself.
Good luck, it is naked but worth it.