What you do is let him go. Either he’s not ready and never will be, or he’s making you chase after this relationship so you’ll be desperate enough to do what he wants at the expense of your boundaries. Love can’t fix these things.
It sounds like this relationship has run its course. But before you end it, I’d sit down and talk to him about what you’ve posted here: you’re tired that he makes you make all the decisions and it hurts that he never wants to do anything with you. Encourage him to talk to a therapist again.
But if you’re very clear and nothing changes, leave. It’s great that he’s kind, but kindness alone is not a sufficient reason to be with someone.
YIKES. this is the kinda thing my fiancé does when he’s bored half way through shaving and shows me his handlebar and then after he’s had his fun (about 5 mins) he shaves it off, he would get torn to shreds by his dad and mates and he knows that
Girl you kept seeing him after finding out he had a porn addiction? That alone was the queue to stop seeing him.
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I smell some red flags. It's generally bad form to invite only one half of an established couple.
What you do is let him go. Either he’s not ready and never will be, or he’s making you chase after this relationship so you’ll be desperate enough to do what he wants at the expense of your boundaries. Love can’t fix these things.
It sounds like this relationship has run its course. But before you end it, I’d sit down and talk to him about what you’ve posted here: you’re tired that he makes you make all the decisions and it hurts that he never wants to do anything with you. Encourage him to talk to a therapist again.
But if you’re very clear and nothing changes, leave. It’s great that he’s kind, but kindness alone is not a sufficient reason to be with someone.
YIKES. this is the kinda thing my fiancé does when he’s bored half way through shaving and shows me his handlebar and then after he’s had his fun (about 5 mins) he shaves it off, he would get torn to shreds by his dad and mates and he knows that
I just like to hear what other people see that I’m too dumb to realize.
Block her, stop keeping tabs on her, and ignore any attempts she makes to reach out.